My husband won't give me 1 day off

[Anonymous]

Op it seems to me you are trying to gain sympathy by only sharing partial information. From what you have posted, you are a Sahm who has a regular babysitter who is away right now. Your husband works and is also doing his MBA, which assume is what keeps him away on the weekends. So it seems me that he is equally as busy as you supporting his family. Not sure what you are complaining about. I can also respect that the little time he has he wants to spend with baby vs date night.

[Anonymous]

He is a selfish jackass. Hire a babysitter once a week and take a day for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Why is he gone all weekend too?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

I am sure he is not studying ALL day. Have you tried calling him when he's supposed to be there?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

I am sure he is not studying ALL day. Have you tried calling him when he's supposed to be there?

Yes, we do video chats sometimes. I don't call him often though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:for those of you with husbands like this, is it about the money? holy shit thats reason enough to not be a SAHM. I can't imagine my husband telling me I can't spend $30 on a sitter for my sanity. You need to get this DHs in line now, especially if you think you will have another child.it will only get 10,000 times harder.

It's a little bit of this and guilt. My baby has a hard time with strangers. And I want my husband to be more supportive. He sees that I am struggling but doesn't care. On Mother's Day he told Mother's Day is not important to him. My mom passed away a few years ago. He can be so insensitive.

Why did you marry this guy? This could not be new behavior.

What do you mean? Before the baby, he wasn't in school and we were both working.

Yes, I mean before the baby. Your DH sounds like an A$$hole. Sounds like he's been an a$$hole his whole life. Why did you pick this guy? Are saying he suddenly became selfish after y'all had a baby and you became a SAHM? This type of jerkiness usually doesn't just suddenly appear unless drugs, alcohol, mental illness or infidelity is in the picture.

Just hire a babysitter, a lawyer and start looking for a job. This marriage stuff doesn't get any easier and it sounds like your DH is setting you up for a divorce in about 7 years and 3 more kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go back to work op. Start looking for a daycare. If he won't give you a break, get a break that way.

I wish it were this easy but I am a teacher. I'll have to wait until the next school year or try to work in another field. We also want to move from the area soon. It's hard not being settled. I really want to go back to work. I think it would be good for me.

Im a SAHM and im telling you, you need to go back to work. Yiur husband is not emotionally mature enough to have a SAHW. He is a jerk, and I'd put money in your marriage falling apart one way or another. Your husband has zero respect for you.

Yiu can apply for sub positions or at a private school until you can land a job in public schools again.

You seem tl be full of a lot of excuses and are content to let others dictate your life, while yiu sit back and do nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are labor laws in this country and you can decide that they apply to you, too. For every eight hours you work, you're entitled to a half-hour lunch and two 20-minute breaks. If you're a stay-at-home mom with no help, you work 16 hours a day. That means you have 14 hours a week coming to you. If you take even half of that you're still not slacking off. Raising children is a valuable contribution to the world; you should be rewarded for that.

LOL

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Anonymous wrote:for those of you with husbands like this, is it about the money? holy shit thats reason enough to not be a SAHM. I can't imagine my husband telling me I can't spend $30 on a sitter for my sanity. You need to get this DHs in line now, especially if you think you will have another child.it will only get 10,000 times harder.

It's a little bit of this and guilt. My baby has a hard time with strangers. And I want my husband to be more supportive. He sees that I am struggling but doesn't care. On Mother's Day he told Mother's Day is not important to him. My mom passed away a few years ago. He can be so insensitive.

Oh. You're married to a jackass. That's your problem.

[Anonymous]

start planning on going back to work and do not have more children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you posted here before. I feel like I've heard this in the same voice.

+1. I've heard this several times before. People have given you great advice before, why haven't you taken any?

[Anonymous]

Your husband wants to spend time with the baby instead of doing date night but doesn't otherwise want to spend time with the baby? You have a regular babysitter, meaning you regularly get time away, but you're complaining that now you don't get any? Your posts don't add up. You're just whining and being a doormat.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't get how stressful it is to take care of a baby. He probably doesn't get that the relentlessness is so hard, as is the knowledge that you're stuck in that routine. He may also be thinking that since he works full-time AND is doing an MBA, he doesn't get a break either.

Hire a sitter. It's an investment in your mental health and in your relationship. Baby stage can be very stressful on a couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it seems to me you are trying to gain sympathy by only sharing partial information. From what you have posted, you are a Sahm who has a regular babysitter who is away right now. Your husband works and is also doing his MBA, which assume is what keeps him away on the weekends. So it seems me that he is equally as busy as you supporting his family. Not sure what you are complaining about. I can also respect that the little time he has he wants to spend with baby vs date night.

Well said and obviously I agree with you.