Fiancé's ex girlfriend wants to take a bike trip with him
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Anonymous
I still want to know who is watching the ex girlfriend's no daddy baby while she bikes around? |
Anonymous
How long over a year ago? Do the math. His ex GF's baby is 6 months old. Add 9 months to that. If he broke up with her *about* a year ago, then the baby was conceived *before* they broke up. It's possible he said no. It's possible he thinks that the baby isn't his. But that doesn't mean that it isn't his. It all depends on when they last had sex. She could have told him she was on BC in order to get knocked up. And maybe that's why she wants him to go on a trip with her. She's using the biking thing because she knows he's an athlete and does that sort of thing, but it's a pretense to get him alone, bond, and then tell him the baby is his. It's possible that she realized when he had a baby with you that he wasn't closed off to the idea of fatherhood. If I were you, I would want to be very clear on when he last slept with the ex GF. I know that sounds invasive, but the baby/breakup timeline does not add up, and I'd want some assurance. |
Anonymous
| Are you actually engaged? Is there a date set and plans in motion, at least for the marriage certificate? Or do you have a promise ring? |
Anonymous
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Her baby was conceived 15 or so months ago. You say they broke up about a year ago. So...honestly, it sounds very, very, very unlikely that she would break up with him and immediately (like, the next day) procure some sperm and shove it up her hoo-ha by whatever method and BAM instantly be pregnant. It's just not plausible.
I'm someone who is friends with a couple of exes. I've been invited to the weddings of an ex who I was with for four years (didn't go, since a piece of me still loves him) and one I was with for 3.years (went, totally happy for him, totally supportive of their happiness). I was best friends with my ex for a few years after we broke up and while I was sad that he hadn't wanted to marry me when we were together, we had been apart long enough that I knew it was for the best and I was so, so happy for them. We socialized as a couple with my then bf and we were very supportive of each other's relationships. Even so, if I had asked him to go on a bike trip with me two months after their first son was born, she would have been right to punch me in the face. Who does that?!?! He has an infant! I would say to him, "If you are serious about being a family, we need to set a date. After we're married, if we both have a friendship with your ex, I could see maybe socializing with her as a couple. But if the two of you want to leave your babies to go on vacation together, you still have romantic feelings for each other and I'm not okay with that. Go if you want to go, and we can work out custody and child support when you get back. If you still have feelings for her, please just go and don't waste outlet time trying to make a family that you don't really want." |
Anonymous
| Sperm donor. Yeah right. He is the dad. |
Anonymous
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Wait. Are you the OP who lives with her fiancé in a home with his older kids and have to drive a long way to your job and your other kids school? And he refuses to make his older kids do anything around the house.
There was a recent thread about this and the ages of all parties are the same |
Anonymous
Link please |
Anonymous
. She asked my fiancé's mother! |
Anonymous
Is this a joke??? So she asked grandma? How sweet. Seriously though, for real? |
Anonymous
Why wouldn't she ask grandma to babysit? |
Anonymous
| OP doesn't know that she's not the GF in this scenario. |
Anonymous
| I going to call troll on the OP. |
Anonymous
I thought you were going to say you are in your 20s. Come on, a 40 something divorcee should not be so naive! |
Anonymous
| OP...did he ask to stock up on slightly seasoned tuna before his trip? |
Anonymous
+1 |