Fiancé's ex girlfriend wants to take a bike trip with him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs new biking friends. And ex boyfriend with a 2 month old at home is not appropriate to ask.

If I were you, I would point out how odd it is that she has no one else to ask, query about why she doesn't have any other friends, and generally make it clear I thought it was really pathetic for a woman with a sperm donor baby to be trying to do a trip with a married ex.

This couple isn't married.

They are engaged with a 2 month old. I don't think that negates the point of the post

Fine, then you continue to think a little piece of paper doesn't matter legally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not the jealous type but there is no freakin' way I would be o.k. with this. This woman sounds like a complete and total idiot with no sense of boundaries. Avoid.

The "fiance" also seems to have no sense of boundaries when he's even considering such a trip when he and his current girlfriend have a 2 month old. Doesn't sound very committed to the relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

I'm sure he did.

Who is going to watch the ex gf's sperm donor baby while she is on this bike ride since there is no dad? You OP? This is nuts, hell to the no to all of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

The very fact that he needed to assure you of that means something is off. I hate that you are in this situation with a 2 month old, but you need to wake up.

[Anonymous]

Were you with your bf when the ex's baby is conceived?

Were you engaged before you got pregnant?

Have you set a date?

When did he and the ex break up?

Why did she have a baby with a sperm donor?

Have you socialized with her as a couple? Is she kind to you? Does she support your relationship?

Is it normal for your bf to take long bike trips?

It is absolutely nutso that a new mom with a 6 month old baby would leave the baby to take a multi-day bike trip with the father of a new 2 month old who is engaged to someone else. It's, like, so far beyond what any two people would ever do; it's absurd. Who wants a baby so desperately that they use a sperm donor and then leave their infant to go off with the father of someone else's infant? And how does the father not say, "That's crazy, Brittany! I have to take care of my baby. He/she's only 2 months old; I don't want to be away from him/her."

[Anonymous]

LOL at the poster that used the Maury clip.

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So you're not married to the father of your 2 month old but SHE has a 6 mo by a sperm donor ?

[Anonymous]

One of the rare threads where we have DCUM consensus: OP's fiance is the father of his ex's child, he's got no business going on a trip like this and he and the ex need to get new friends.

DTMF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the sperm donor to the 6 month old is not your fiance?

This was my first though. Your fiance needs to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He has assured me baby is not his.

Hmmm... Why did he even need to assure you of this?? How did that conversation come up?

[Anonymous]

Are you all three friends or something? I'm trying to figure out how this request came in from an ex.

[Anonymous]

The ex's baby is totally his. For one thing, do you know how expensive it is to get donor sperm from a spermbank? Then, you need to go to a fertility clinic and have a doctor perform IUIs. Also very expensive. Also usually requires several attempts. This is not something a person just randomly does.

[Anonymous]

Wait, he assured you the baby isn't his? Why would he even have to mention it? Why would he even know she had a baby? If I were you, I would give the ring back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, he assured you the baby isn't his? Why would he even have to mention it? Why would he even know she had a baby? If I were you, I would give the ring back.

I'm worried OP got pregnant almost as soon as she met her fiance. Otherwise, why would they have discussed whether he's the father of the sperm donor baby?

If this is the case, OP, just say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ex's baby is totally his. For one thing, do you know how expensive it is to get donor sperm from a spermbank? Then, you need to go to a fertility clinic and have a doctor perform IUIs. Also very expensive. Also usually requires several attempts. This is not something a person just randomly does.

Ok, let's settle down. It's not that expensive. Single women do it all the time.