Fiancé's ex girlfriend wants to take a bike trip with him

[Anonymous]

Subject line says it all. My finance's ex texted him and asked if he'd go in a bike trip with her. He told me tonight and said that he wouldn't go if I had a problem with it. I think they would do day long bike trips for a couple of days so no overnights. We have a two month old daughter. I was not invited by the girlfriend (I'm not an athlete so even if I had been invited I wouldn't go) and she knows about me and our daughter. The ex is single and has a six month old baby from a sperm donor.

[Anonymous]

This would irk me. First, she should be asking someone else. Second, he should have just said no without putting it on your plate.
Are they still friends otherwise? Have you hung out the three of you?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand how they go every day but don't stay overnight. If that's the case, then yes, because you can't even really talk while road racing. No overnights.

[Anonymous]

They both needs to get some other friends. Or do something where you and/or others are invited.

I would sadly be worried he wants to cheat / has cheated, and they want to get away for some time together. Honestly. Keep a close watch on him.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the sperm donor to the 6 month old is not your fiance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the sperm donor to the 6 month old is not your fiance?

+1. I think the baby may be his as well.

Also, why is he even testing you by asking if he can go with her? He should have said no.
No overnights, really? How are they riding bikes during the day but not spending the night?

I would tell him he can go with his bags packed.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the sperm donor to the 6 month old is not your fiance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the sperm donor to the 6 month old is not your fiance?

kinda makes sense, huh

Lucky dude being able to slurp milk from two mommies

[Anonymous]

Do they hang out together otherwise? Are they frequently in touch? I find this invitation very odd and would not be comfortable with it. I'd try to find out from him why he is interested in doing this. As PP said, they both need other friends.

[Anonymous]

Yeah that kid is totally his...

From one single Mom whose ex now has two baby mamas - run now girl! Do not marry him!!!

[Anonymous]

No no no no. OP I'm sorry you're dealing with this at 2 mos post-partum. But this is all kinds of messed up. Time for some major re-evaluation.

Congratulations on your sweet baby.

[Anonymous]

I bike. She does not need a friend to go biking with her.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Wouldn't be happening in my house. I'm sure there are a lot of other cyclists she could ask to go that she hasn't had sex with.

[Anonymous]

You need to ask why she feels so comfortable asking him when she knows his current situation. And why is he asking you for permission when he knows the answer. I can't believe some of the posts recently about exs and the current wife/gf. Who are these men?