What screams *INSECURE FRUMP* to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God bless them, life is hard, but DC is so full of this stuff I have to comment:

- brown, so much brown. You think it all matches itself, but it doesn't.
- backpacks.... There is never, ever an excuse for a grown woman to wear a backpack. Ever. I would literally prefer if you used a target bag as a handbag.
- merrills
- big droopy breasts. If they are cylindrical without a bra, wear a bra.
- the greasy low ponytail. Dry shampoo or a shower, it's not hard.
- baseball cap worn with a ponytail without pulling the ponytail through the hole in the back.
- too tight clothes that you are constantly pulling over your belly to adjust. You gained weight? So what, please
Just go buy a pair of pants that fit properly. It's okay, reAlly.
- drop earrings that are clearly homemade or bought At a farmers market.
- one cool or edgy item (it's usually a handbag) that is clearly borrowed or a gift because it's the only nice part of your outfit. Or the only part of your outfit that isn't hideous. If your parents or sister want to give you a freebee from Nordstrom, but a good bra, not a cool handbag, it doesn't pull your look together, it makes all your other clothes look like the shit they are.
- women with size 11 feet wearing open toed shoes. If your toes are the length of my fingers, please don't parade them around
- VPL. Again, it's okay to gain weight. But if you do, buy new undies.

Flame away, but women of DC, you have options in life. Never, ever, choose loose fit capris.

I'm 5'10," former model and I wear a size 11 lol I have proportionate toes but even if I didn't, what type of insecurity must someone have to keep her feet closed in and hot in summer so she doesn't offend hobbits like you?

Also, my Herschel backpack kicks ass, looks awesome as I ride my bike around the city and it's filled with lots of beautiful SLGs

You're a twit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God bless them, life is hard, but DC is so full of this stuff I have to comment:

- brown, so much brown. You think it all matches itself, but it doesn't.
- backpacks.... There is never, ever an excuse for a grown woman to wear a backpack. Ever. I would literally prefer if you used a target bag as a handbag.
- merrills
- big droopy breasts. If they are cylindrical without a bra, wear a bra.
- the greasy low ponytail. Dry shampoo or a shower, it's not hard.
- baseball cap worn with a ponytail without pulling the ponytail through the hole in the back.
- too tight clothes that you are constantly pulling over your belly to adjust. You gained weight? So what, please
Just go buy a pair of pants that fit properly. It's okay, reAlly.
- drop earrings that are clearly homemade or bought At a farmers market.
- one cool or edgy item (it's usually a handbag) that is clearly borrowed or a gift because it's the only nice part of your outfit. Or the only part of your outfit that isn't hideous. If your parents or sister want to give you a freebee from Nordstrom, but a good bra, not a cool handbag, it doesn't pull your look together, it makes all your other clothes look like the shit they are.
- women with size 11 feet wearing open toed shoes. If your toes are the length of my fingers, please don't parade them around
- VPL. Again, it's okay to gain weight. But if you do, buy new undies.

Flame away, but women of DC, you have options in life. Never, ever, choose loose fit capris.

I am secure in my love for loose fit capris and wearing opened toed shoes on my enormous feet. Accessorized by my farmer's market earrings and my backpack. Frumpy and proud!
Even I have never seen that many women in DC wear brown.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Frumpy people are pretty secure, hence the frumpiness/dressing for comfort.

Yup.

This. I read the subject line and was so confused! Nothing screams "insecure frump" to me because I don't think those things really go together.

Next.

[Anonymous]

I think the OP means "someone who no longer cares" as opposed to "insecure".

Regardless, this is mean. People stop caring about their appearance for a lot of reasons and they are rarely positive (exhaustion, loss of self esteem, feeling invisible etc)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I live right in Dupont. I workout. I get dressed in my workout clothes, go workout, and then, get this: go home and shower because it's gross not to. It's not idiotic to get dressed like a normal person when you leave the house (pants, shirts, casual is fine, doesn't have to be business dress). I do it every day. I refuse to be a slob. Just because you overpaid for your tights doesn't mean they aren't pajamas/workout clothes.

+1 if I'm not going to shower at home I shower at the gym. Spending the day in workout clothes after working out is foul.

+2. I got stuck trying to follow PP's post. She works out and then keeps those same clothes on for the rest of the day?? No shower?? I actually don't have a problem with women wearing yoga pants as normal outfits, but ... not the ones you just exercised in. Please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I live right in Dupont. I workout. I get dressed in my workout clothes, go workout, and then, get this: go home and shower because it's gross not to. It's not idiotic to get dressed like a normal person when you leave the house (pants, shirts, casual is fine, doesn't have to be business dress). I do it every day. I refuse to be a slob. Just because you overpaid for your tights doesn't mean they aren't pajamas/workout clothes.

+1 if I'm not going to shower at home I shower at the gym. Spending the day in workout clothes after working out is foul.

+2. I got stuck trying to follow PP's post. She works out and then keeps those same clothes on for the rest of the day?? No shower?? I actually don't have a problem with women wearing yoga pants as normal outfits, but ... not the ones you just exercised in. Please.

I think it's really weird that this woman wears disgusting, sweaty, smelly workout clothes all day to differentiate herself
From SAHMs. It doesn't even make sense. Regardless of your work situation, you should not be sitting in your own stink all day. You are basically a yeast
Infection waiting to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God bless them, life is hard, but DC is so full of this stuff I have to comment:

- brown, so much brown. You think it all matches itself, but it doesn't.
- backpacks.... There is never, ever an excuse for a grown woman to wear a backpack. Ever. I would literally prefer if you used a target bag as a handbag.
- merrills
- big droopy breasts. If they are cylindrical without a bra, wear a bra.
- the greasy low ponytail. Dry shampoo or a shower, it's not hard.
- baseball cap worn with a ponytail without pulling the ponytail through the hole in the back.
- too tight clothes that you are constantly pulling over your belly to adjust. You gained weight? So what, please
Just go buy a pair of pants that fit properly. It's okay, reAlly.
- drop earrings that are clearly homemade or bought At a farmers market.
- one cool or edgy item (it's usually a handbag) that is clearly borrowed or a gift because it's the only nice part of your outfit. Or the only part of your outfit that isn't hideous. If your parents or sister want to give you a freebee from Nordstrom, but a good bra, not a cool handbag, it doesn't pull your look together, it makes all your other clothes look like the shit they are.
- women with size 11 feet wearing open toed shoes. If your toes are the length of my fingers, please don't parade them around
- VPL. Again, it's okay to gain weight. But if you do, buy new undies.

Flame away, but women of DC, you have options in life. Never, ever, choose loose fit capris.

You are spot on! Thank you for making me laugh and I it was good for me to hear I need to get rid of the ponytail(only wear it sometimes). Thank goodness I don't wear size 11 shoes.

And the above two posts are perfect illustrations of what screams insecure, mean-girl bitch.

My main offense seems to be a backpack purse, but if that makes me a frump, so be it. Rather be a frump than like either of you two. You are both foul. And while your at it, please post pictures of yourselves. No? Okay, shut up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well these styles don't necessarily mean your a "frump," but are very difficult for any but the beautiful people to pull off without looking a tad matronly:

- short-sleeve button up shirts (I think only ll bean makes these anymore so we are all probably safe)
- yes, mid calf straight or relaxed capris (not all cropped/ankle length pants)
- trend alert: the wide legged, slightly short ("summer length") pants that are everywhere now. Impossible for all over BMI 18.
- wild ethnic prints (if they are Chicos, not your actual heritage)
- big baggy fisherman sweaters (I like this in theory, but again, only look great on a J Crew model, but not on anyone else)
- Mid-length skirts (Again, like in theory, but in reality...)

+ Danskos or a cheap knock off, handbag from TJMaxx that you think looks "designer" and a mom haircut and you are set. Also an older Subaru.

[Anonymous]

Blonde streaks in your very dark hair. ROOTS. Yes, we see them.

[Anonymous]

I would look at these women as not being shallow. Who cares what people wear. It is not important. People should be concerned with being kind to others and not judging other people based on what they wear. Look into your own souls. I hope you like what you see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God bless them, life is hard, but DC is so full of this stuff I have to comment:

- brown, so much brown. You think it all matches itself, but it doesn't.
- backpacks.... There is never, ever an excuse for a grown woman to wear a backpack. Ever. I would literally prefer if you used a target bag as a handbag.
- merrills
- big droopy breasts. If they are cylindrical without a bra, wear a bra.
- the greasy low ponytail. Dry shampoo or a shower, it's not hard.
- baseball cap worn with a ponytail without pulling the ponytail through the hole in the back.
- too tight clothes that you are constantly pulling over your belly to adjust. You gained weight? So what, please
Just go buy a pair of pants that fit properly. It's okay, reAlly.
- drop earrings that are clearly homemade or bought At a farmers market.
- one cool or edgy item (it's usually a handbag) that is clearly borrowed or a gift because it's the only nice part of your outfit. Or the only part of your outfit that isn't hideous. If your parents or sister want to give you a freebee from Nordstrom, but a good bra, not a cool handbag, it doesn't pull your look together, it makes all your other clothes look like the shit they are.
- women with size 11 feet wearing open toed shoes. If your toes are the length of my fingers, please don't parade them around
- VPL. Again, it's okay to gain weight. But if you do, buy new undies.

Flame away, but women of DC, you have options in life. Never, ever, choose loose fit capris.

My DH got me a very expensive handbag last year. I'll wear it with my Sam Edelmans and my H&M clothes -- everything else be damned! I can't afford to wear top-end designer head-to-toe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frumpy people are pretty secure, hence the frumpiness/dressing for comfort.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wearing too baggy or too tight or fraying old clothes, danskos, hair pulled back so tight you worry her head will fall off, roots, overall bad hair, skin and nail care. Helicoptering parenting and an anxious personality. These women scream... I've lost myself.

I'm an rn, I wear my dansko so 40 hours a week. Not an insecure frump

Scrubs aren't exactly stylish, though. They're work pajamas. Danskos are fine with work pajamas, but maybe not the greatest with business clothes or jeans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well these styles don't necessarily mean your a "frump," but are very difficult for any but the beautiful people to pull off without looking a tad matronly:

- short-sleeve button up shirts (I think only ll bean makes these anymore so we are all probably safe)
- yes, mid calf straight or relaxed capris (not all cropped/ankle length pants)
- trend alert: the wide legged, slightly short ("summer length") pants that are everywhere now. Impossible for all over BMI 18.
- wild ethnic prints (if they are Chicos, not your actual heritage)
- big baggy fisherman sweaters (I like this in theory, but again, only look great on a J Crew model, but not on anyone else)
- Mid-length skirts (Again, like in theory, but in reality...)

These do not look frumpy:http://shop.nordstrom.com/c/womens-collared-button-up-tops

Most of them do. So many plaid tents!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I live right in Dupont. I workout. I get dressed in my workout clothes, go workout, and then, get this: go home and shower because it's gross not to. It's not idiotic to get dressed like a normal person when you leave the house (pants, shirts, casual is fine, doesn't have to be business dress). I do it every day. I refuse to be a slob. Just because you overpaid for your tights doesn't mean they aren't pajamas/workout clothes.

+1 if I'm not going to shower at home I shower at the gym. Spending the day in workout clothes after working out is foul.

I always wonder about this too. I swim at Wilson pool and workout at home, so I never wear "athleisure" outside of the home. Are all these women I see at Whole Foods with their sweaty hair and workout clothes on all rank and stinky? Are they gonna stay that way all day? Or are they just "rocking" that look and just happen to have sweaty hair?

Sometimes I go to the grocery store after the gym. Then I go home and shower, and get on with my day.