What screams *INSECURE FRUMP* to you?

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I live right in Dupont. I workout. I get dressed in my workout clothes, go workout, and then, get this: go home and shower because it's gross not to. It's not idiotic to get dressed like a normal person when you leave the house (pants, shirts, casual is fine, doesn't have to be business dress). I do it every day. I refuse to be a slob. Just because you overpaid for your tights doesn't mean they aren't pajamas/workout clothes.

+1 if I'm not going to shower at home I shower at the gym. Spending the day in workout clothes after working out is foul.

I always wonder about this too. I swim at Wilson pool and workout at home, so I never wear "athleisure" outside of the home. Are all these women I see at Whole Foods with their sweaty hair and workout clothes on all rank and stinky? Are they gonna stay that way all day? Or are they just "rocking" that look and just happen to have sweaty hair?

Sometimes I go to the grocery store after the gym. Then I go home and shower, and get on with my day.

The gym is 1/2 block to Whole Foods which is one block to my house. I pop in for my salad and whatever groceries I need and then walk home. WTF would I walk home shower and then walk back to WFs? I WAH full-time so it maximizes my time. I often throw on dry workout clothes and then shower after the kids come home from school to save time to get my work hours in. OR---if it is 97 degrees (like this week) and I have to stand outside at a 90 minute soccer practice I am showering when I come home from that.

Everyone in my neighborhood does this. Everyone walks home from the million exercise studios---so they will stop off at Traders or Whole Foods or Starbucks on their way back home. Most often, people bring a dry shirt, or in winter you have a big coat on over it. It's the norm.

We are not talking about people who run a quick errand after the gym. We are talking about the majority of women I see walking around dupont who are in their workout clothes all day. Most actually look like they haven't nor plan to workout that day. It's weird dining somewhere sitting next to slobs who haven't bothered to get dressed for the day. Seriously, you eat at Le Diplomat in your tights? I'm a SAH and I don't even understand SAHMs who dress like that all day. Put on some damn pants for the park, you're plenty capable of running and climbing around in normal clothes at the park. My favorite is women who wear their tights with their huge diamonds. Looks so ridiculous to be prancing around in your underwear with fancy jewelry and full makeup. It takes zero more effort to put on street clothes as opposed to workout clothes and makes you look like you don't aspire to be a couch potato.

I think this "athleisure" (thanks PP) is hitting the nail on the head with "insecure frump." Insecure enough to spend up $100 on spandex leggings yet frumpy enough to hang around all day in workout clothes... even swapping out dry workout clothes for damp workout clothes.

To think we have hit the state in our society when we actually think putting on jeans is dressing up!

Hit on ALL of the time. I dress up when I go out and look nice when I fly. I have never showed up to the Office without makeup, blowout and heels. Trust me- I look better than you even in my yoga pants.

And you clearly have a lovely attitude as well.

[Anonymous]

The studs earrings things throws me. Sure they are nice and classic. but every single one of my friends who started down the frumpy train in their 20s are studs only earrings gals. delicate single necklace etc. it's pretty and I think it works just fine but it's funny that those who despise frumpy but adore "classic" (meaning waspy) think this is somehow not an overlap!

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You want to see frump? Open an issue of Vogue these days. WTF is that shit, and I mean ALL THAT SHIT? SMH. Seriously. That being said, I am a frump. I didn't use to be, but three kids happened. Don't really care because I have a lot of other things to worry about right now. I also don't care that you are making this judgmental post unlike some PP. Admittedly I can see how someone can view this as bitchy but honestly, it's as much on us to not react to petty stuff like this as it is on her to not be petty. Women (everybody actually) these days are WAY too sensitive. Everybody, there are trolls everywhere. Stop reacting.

[Anonymous]

So much of my frump is due to comfort. I'm always cold, so I wear a sweater at work. I have bad feet, so I wear comfortable shoes. I saw a woman the other day perilously teetering on her heels and I thought, "Wow. That's an ankle waiting to be broken." I should know (I broke mine.).

I also think some people just look more put-together, regardless of what they wear. I look frumpy in my yoga gear, while someone else looks really cute!

[Anonymous]

Frumps = secure/don't care
Insecure = Flashy cars or visible labels/logos. E.g., Purses with LV.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I also fine this very silly. Today: Pilates at 9:30 AM then worked in the garden, went to the grocery store and played outside with the kids. Then showered/dressed because I was going to a restaurant-type venue in the evening. Should I really have changed out of workout clothes earlier?

[Anonymous]

My workouts are intense (run, cross fit, spin, weights, etc) and I sweat a lot so I shower and get dressed in regular clothes afterwards.... And I have a very fit tight body.

After a certain age, running around in workout gear just looks lazy.

Also, many people running around in workout clothes don't look like they ever workout and wear workout clothes because of the elastic stretchy material: Not good with fat rolls but guess it's more comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Any woman in N Arlington over 40 is a frump.

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Anonymous wrote:Frumps = secure/don't care
Insecure = Flashy cars or visible labels/logos. E.g., Purses with LV.

^^THIS

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Anonymous wrote:My workouts are intense (run, cross fit, spin, weights, etc) and I sweat a lot so I shower and get dressed in regular clothes afterwards.... And I have a very fit tight body.

After a certain age, running around in workout gear just looks lazy.

Also, many people running around in workout clothes don't look like they ever workout and wear workout clothes because of the elastic stretchy material: Not good with fat rolls but guess it's more comfortable.

Yup. Running around in skin tight yoga pants when 30, 50, 100 pounds overweight is frumpy. Wear something flattering that fits your body.

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Anonymous wrote:Frumps = secure/don't care
Insecure = Flashy cars or visible labels/logos. E.g., Purses with LV.

^^THIS

While I don't agree that choosing to wear a visible logo makes you insecure, I've never equated frumpiness with insecurity at all. Frumpy women just don't care (and that's alright).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much of my frump is due to comfort. I'm always cold, so I wear a sweater at work. I have bad feet, so I wear comfortable shoes. I saw a woman the other day perilously teetering on her heels and I thought, "Wow. That's an ankle waiting to be broken." I should know (I broke mine.).

I also think some people just look more put-together, regardless of what they wear. I look frumpy in my yoga gear, while someone else looks really cute!

Me too PP, me too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Frumps = secure/don't care
Insecure = Flashy cars or visible labels/logos. E.g., Purses with LV.

^^THIS

While I don't agree that choosing to wear a visible logo makes you insecure, I've never equated frumpiness with insecurity at all. Frumpy women just don't care (and that's alright).

People not caring or giving up on their appearance is a sign of depression. Many frumpy women are probably depressed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Frumps = secure/don't care
Insecure = Flashy cars or visible labels/logos. E.g., Purses with LV.

^^THIS

While I don't agree that choosing to wear a visible logo makes you insecure, I've never equated frumpiness with insecurity at all. Frumpy women just don't care (and that's alright).

But not caring doesn't equal insecurity. That's the point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frumps = secure/don't care
Insecure = Flashy cars or visible labels/logos. E.g., Purses with LV.

^^THIS

While I don't agree that choosing to wear a visible logo makes you insecure, I've never equated frumpiness with insecurity at all. Frumpy women just don't care (and that's alright).

But not caring doesn't equal insecurity. That's the point.

Not caring about appearance is a sign of depression. That's my point.