So schocked and sad by "friends'" mean girl behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Less women in the workplace would benefit everyone.

Fewer, asshole.

*mic drop*

[Anonymous]

I can't help but wonder if all the parties are millinieals. I have noticed that they love to " kid" other people about thier looks, how they talk etc, and all is in good fun. Until someone jokes back. Then that person is so mean.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, this falls into the "count your blessings not your problems" categories - they sound like they care about you and made a really stupid comment and this a mistake. You know these women well. Are they catty or not? Do they talk about other people unkindly? If you know them well, you should know their character and where the fall on the spectrum of how they treat people

[Anonymous]

OP stood up for herself and people here are now bullying her too? Are people of DCUM nothing but another bunch of bullies too? Shame on everybody. Yes, OP overheard, but not being a coward like the other people, she told them to their faces how inappropriate they were, and they had more sense than all the negative posters here to apologize, because they were rude and wrong and inappropriate. Good for you OP. DCUM is nothing but bunch of spoiled, look another way whiners. Yes, you gave them the silent treatment, probably at that point it was best not to comment right away. She might not have said anything at all, if they didn't actually ask! When they asked she told them the truth. Grow up people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My goodness, the DCUM mean-girl harpies are out in full force.

If the colleagues made fun of OP's appearance at work in front of her, they are unprofessional and assholes. Any PP who has defended this behavior as okay needs training in social skills and professionalism.

That said, it is weird to me, OP, that they sobbed when you confronted them. And for you to want to switch cubicles over this is an over-reaction. Just learn and move on.

If this story is real, your best bet is just to keep everything on the professional level from here on out.

OP here, thank-you for your reasonable and nonjudgmental response. Frankly I was surprised that this cattiness is considered normal workplace behavior by so many on DCUM. I've worked in the same office 10 years and never encountered it before, so maybe I've been overly sheltered. I agree with your wisdom to learn from this and move on. Thank-you again, and to the others who gave helpful advice.

Actually, I'm not sure where you're reading that PPs consider this normal workplace behavior, OP. I see the opposite. This is unusual enough behavior to strain credulity. They acted badly and you reacted badly and all three of you were unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My goodness, the DCUM mean-girl harpies are out in full force.

If the colleagues made fun of OP's appearance at work in front of her, they are unprofessional and assholes. Any PP who has defended this behavior as okay needs training in social skills and professionalism.

That said, it is weird to me, OP, that they sobbed when you confronted them. And for you to want to switch cubicles over this is an over-reaction. Just learn and move on.

If this story is real, your best bet is just to keep everything on the professional level from here on out.

OP here, thank-you for your reasonable and nonjudgmental response. Frankly I was surprised that this cattiness is considered normal workplace behavior by so many on DCUM. I've worked in the same office 10 years and never encountered it before, so maybe I've been overly sheltered. I agree with your wisdom to learn from this and move on. Thank-you again, and to the others who gave helpful advice.

Actually, I'm not sure where you're reading that PPs consider this normal workplace behavior, OP. I see the opposite. This is unusual enough behavior to strain credulity. They acted badly and you reacted badly and all three of you were unprofessional.

Yes, it was overall crazy behavior, by all involved, but lets now forget that OP didn't sob at work, didn't gossip at work. And yes, OP needs to move on and realize that if she works with bunch of millennials, which I think is the case, she can't expect mature behavior whatsoever, just like she can't expect any perspective from millennials posting here.

[Anonymous]

^^not forget

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My goodness, the DCUM mean-girl harpies are out in full force.

If the colleagues made fun of OP's appearance at work in front of her, they are unprofessional and assholes. Any PP who has defended this behavior as okay needs training in social skills and professionalism.

That said, it is weird to me, OP, that they sobbed when you confronted them. And for you to want to switch cubicles over this is an over-reaction. Just learn and move on.

If this story is real, your best bet is just to keep everything on the professional level from here on out.

OP here, thank-you for your reasonable and nonjudgmental response. Frankly I was surprised that this cattiness is considered normal workplace behavior by so many on DCUM. I've worked in the same office 10 years and never encountered it before, so maybe I've been overly sheltered. I agree with your wisdom to learn from this and move on. Thank-you again, and to the others who gave helpful advice.

OP what PPs are saying this is normal? Its not normal, they were acting like catty b's. But you have been a woman your entire life and, I assume, navigated female friendships during that time. Occasionally women are catty b's. You expressed (I assume super super harshly due to their reaction) that you were unhappy and they seem to have been falling over themselves to apologize.

Thinking that people who are falling over themselves to apologize =/= thinking that their initial behavior was acceptable. Without any context about what they said I don't understand why you think its so unreasonable that DCUM apparently thinks that someone who made a mistake and is besides themselves trying to make amends might deserve a second chance. You haven't said this is habitual, just a one time thing. Honestly I'm kind of wondering if you have an accurate read on how they were acting/how you were acting because you don't seem to think its weird that you reduced two grown women to hysterics and seem to have no idea what could have caused that.

They are either cartoonishly dramatic woman like cinderella's stepsisters at this point or there is a missing part of this story. I am a fairly emotional woman and the ONLY time I have burst into tears in my office is when my dog died. This just seems like a very weird story, and weirder still that you don't seem to see/acknowledge the weirdness!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. My goodness, the DCUM mean-girl harpies are out in full force.

If the colleagues made fun of OP's appearance at work in front of her, they are unprofessional and assholes. Any PP who has defended this behavior as okay needs training in social skills and professionalism.

That said, it is weird to me, OP, that they sobbed when you confronted them. And for you to want to switch cubicles over this is an over-reaction. Just learn and move on.

If this story is real, your best bet is just to keep everything on the professional level from here on out.

OP here, thank-you for your reasonable and nonjudgmental response. Frankly I was surprised that this cattiness is considered normal workplace behavior by so many on DCUM. I've worked in the same office 10 years and never encountered it before, so maybe I've been overly sheltered. I agree with your wisdom to learn from this and move on. Thank-you again, and to the others who gave helpful advice.

OP what PPs are saying this is normal? Its not normal, they were acting like catty b's. But you have been a woman your entire life and, I assume, navigated female friendships during that time. Occasionally women are catty b's. You expressed (I assume super super harshly due to their reaction) that you were unhappy and they seem to have been falling over themselves to apologize.

Thinking that people who are falling over themselves to apologize deserve forgiveness =/= thinking that their initial behavior was acceptable. Without any context about what they said I don't understand why you think its so unreasonable that DCUM apparently thinks that someone who made a mistake and is besides themselves trying to make amends might deserve a second chance. You haven't said this is habitual, just a one time thing. Honestly I'm kind of wondering if you have an accurate read on how they were acting/how you were acting because you don't seem to think its weird that you reduced two grown women to hysterics and seem to have no idea what could have caused that.

They are either cartoonishly dramatic woman like cinderella's stepsisters at this point or there is a missing part of this story. I am a fairly emotional woman and the ONLY time I have burst into tears in my office is when my dog died. This just seems like a very weird story, and weirder still that you don't seem to see/acknowledge the weirdness!

edited as i missed a couple key words!