Sister absolutely despises me
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Anonymous
| She sounds immature, and like my DH. I will ask him an innocent question and he will get all offended so easily. Seriously, she might have a mental illness because when someone's behavior makes no sense, that's probably the reason. At least in your case, you know what she thinks. My sister doesn't reciprocate my attempts at communication but has never come out and said why, but it hurts just the same. You have to take the high road and hope that one day she will realize the error of her ways and forgive you for whatever you supposedly did. |
Anonymous
I think there are just a couple of posters who feel like the sister, and doing to the OP what they can't do IRL. There is at least one obsessive OP-hater -- she posted a link to all the sister-related threads in the Feedback forum. Seriously and weirdly obsessive hater.... |
Anonymous
Who is "we"? Not me. You sound very shallow and boring to me, PP, like someone who can't have a genuine conversation -- not even with your own sister. The tyranny of the shallow right here -- you are only permitted to make chit-chat, nothing more. I like people who actually talk about real things, and I don't like people who insist everyone around them remain superficial. So boring. |
Anonymous
| We = the several posters on several threads who find the older sister's behavior to be too much. |
Anonymous
Yes, PP, WE GET IT!!!! You can stop ramming your opinion down OP and everyone else's throats now! Sheesh, enough is enough. Obviously OP and other posters -- like me -- don't agree with you. Maybe WE will keep stating our opinions again and again until YOU and the "several other posters" change YOUR opinions! The style of convo you advocate sounds oppressive and insufferable. I wouldn't mind if OP asked me why I ordered salad. I'm strong enough to handle it! |
Anonymous
| Chick Fil A makes some delicious salads. Your sister was eating one because they are delicious. The best fast food salad offering around (yes, I know, I know...). They come with like 3 kinds of unnecessary toppings per salad AND really rich, fattening dressing. Don't knock the chick Fil a salad until you've tried it. |
Anonymous
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OP, as children grow up, it's a natural thing to separate from one's family of origin and strike out on one's own. Conflict and anger at this stage is a normal way adolescents manage the separation and create distance. It would otherwise feel very painful. That is likely the developmental stage your sister is at now and so her conflicts are not likely quite as much about you as you're thinking. She may say deeply hurtful things to you, but deep down inside she loves you more than either of you know right now. She seems to be trying very hard to jump out of the family nest, but to her, you keep trying to pull her back in.
Give her space. Wait for her to come back to you. You really do need to turn your attention to your own interests and friends right now. Your sister will eventually come around, but it may take a while. Have patience. If this is causing you a lot of grief, don't be afraid to seek out some counseling for yourself. It will be helpful. |
Anonymous
+1 If anyone's bothered to read the other questions by OP (and responses), they'd clearly see that more of the same is going to continue until OP changes her attitude and approach. Because after months it's the same old cycle of basically "Why doesn't my sister love me for correcting her?" |
Anonymous
There are plenty of other attitudes about the situation the OP is in -- like the post directly above yours -- and yet you insist it's the OP who doesn't get it. You sound like a broken record, PP. |
Anonymous
You are weirdly uppity and obsessively defensive of OP for being a total stranger. |
Anonymous
And you literally asked "who is we?" Hype the fuck down lady. |
Anonymous
| Also, how the fuck would you be able to handle a sibling's constant unsolicited criticism of your life choices when you can't handle solicited opinions that differ from yours about a topic that doesn't affect you in any way? |
Anonymous
It's hard for you because you are obnoxious and judgmental. The problem is all you. |
Anonymous
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In real life, I know plenty of middle eastern harpy women just like OP describes herself. Basically, because they spend a lifetime have men control, belittle and judge their choices, the only one they can in turn do it to, are women like their daughters, sisters, aunts, cousins. It's really sad.
To the OP, I would say - every time your sister says you are wrong, say to yourself over and over "I am wrong. I am being critical in an attempt to control another person because I feel so unable to control my own life" Who knows - maybe after the 100th time you will develop some self awareness. Basically OP - you are wrong and your sister is right. You are hypercritical, judgmental, lack self awareness and have almost no ability to be an independent adult. Your parents are controlling your life and you can't make choices and decisions without them. You are angry at your sister because she becoming an actual adult and you are just waiting around for another adult male to step in and control your life so you don't need to do it for yourself. Some people in life are self-starters and go-getters. That's your sister. You are neither. Also, your mom no doubt treats you the same way you treat your sister. Being your mom's punching bag for criticism and her own sucky life, doesn't mean she loves you more or better. |
Anonymous
No, that was someone else. Good lord you are a seriously strange one for totally, definitely not being the crazy OP herself. |