How Was Your Cheating Or Your Signficant Others Cheating Discovered?

[Anonymous]

The OW put spyware on his computer and emailed me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OW put spyware on his computer and emailed me

She didn't know he was married?

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed?

Yes, we did.

[Anonymous]

The baby came out Asian. We're both white.

[Anonymous]

He received multiple calls from a woman he worked with on a Sunday. I saw because we were in the car together and he was driving. He turned over the phone and had a weird look on his face. I asked who it was and he said no big deal, a coworker. I said he should check his phone since something must be wrong? I turned the phone over and saw now she was texting him. I just knew. He continued to deny it until I broke into his phone and came across text after text from her. Talking about going to California together. Also bashing both spouses, including me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed? :evil:

Yes, we did.

I should add, it didn't start off in our bed, but after a while it just seemed like the logical move. AP was much more nervous about doing it in our bed than I was, but really, the bed is one of the best places to have sex. Comfortable, big, allows for more positions.

I realize some (many? most?) people would think it was 10x worse bringing an AP to the marital bed, but it didn't seem like a big deal at the time. I'd probably NEVER do it in his bed, I've never even been to his house. I can't even imagine doing it in somebody else's bed. But me, fucking my AP in MY bed? I loved it. But I think that harkens back to my anger issues with my DH, that I didn't care about his feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The baby came out Asian. We're both white.

Wow. Did you react immediately, in the delivery room? What did you say?

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Anonymous wrote:
The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed? :evil:

Yes, we did.

I should add, it didn't start off in our bed, but after a while it just seemed like the logical move. AP was much more nervous about doing it in our bed than I was, but really, the bed is one of the best places to have sex. Comfortable, big, allows for more positions.

I realize some (many? most?) people would think it was 10x worse bringing an AP to the marital bed, but it didn't seem like a big deal at the time. I'd probably NEVER do it in his bed, I've never even been to his house. I can't even imagine doing it in somebody else's bed. But me, fucking my AP in MY bed? I loved it. But I think that harkens back to my anger issues with my DH, that I didn't care about his feelings.

Did you get divorced?

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Anonymous wrote:
The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed?

Yes, we did.

Nasty!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Those who cheated, why gone through all this hard work maintaining 2 different lives? Isn't that exhausting?

It wasn't much if a double life, to be honest. And it was really really wonderful. Best thing I did for myself that year. I miss it. I regret the hurt I caused my marriage, but not much else.

Isn't that significant?

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Anonymous wrote:Those who cheated, why gone through all this hard work maintaining 2 different lives? Isn't that exhausting?

It wasn't much if a double life, to be honest. And it was really really wonderful. Best thing I did for myself that year. I miss it. I regret the hurt I caused my marriage, but not much else.

Isn't that significant?

Yes, I guess it is. I think - know - dh would like me to regret it all.

[Anonymous]

I went to the airport to surprise him after he was returning from an out of town business trip. Friends of ours had flown into town and we were going to go straight from the airport to a private party I had put together for his 40th birthday. He didn't know I would be at the airport so as I stood waiting from him I was shocked when he walked towards the security gate holding hands with a co-worker. I exited his view quickly (he didn't seem me) and continued to watch their interactions. At the baggage claim he was kissing and groping her - it was unbelievable. I hightailed it out of there. To date the most devastating thing that has ever happened to me.

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed? :evil:

Yes, we did.

I should add, it didn't start off in our bed, but after a while it just seemed like the logical move. AP was much more nervous about doing it in our bed than I was, but really, the bed is one of the best places to have sex. Comfortable, big, allows for more positions.

I realize some (many? most?) people would think it was 10x worse bringing an AP to the marital bed, but it didn't seem like a big deal at the time. I'd probably NEVER do it in his bed, I've never even been to his house. I can't even imagine doing it in somebody else's bed. But me, fucking my AP in MY bed? I loved it. But I think that harkens back to my anger issues with my DH, that I didn't care about his feelings.

Did you get divorced?

still married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to the airport to surprise him after he was returning from an out of town business trip. Friends of ours had flown into town and we were going to go straight from the airport to a private party I had put together for his 40th birthday. He didn't know I would be at the airport so as I stood waiting from him I was shocked when he walked towards the security gate holding hands with a co-worker. I exited his view quickly (he didn't seem me) and continued to watch their interactions. At the baggage claim he was kissing and groping her - it was unbelievable. I hightailed it out of there. To date the most devastating thing that has ever happened to me.

That's a tragic story.
Can you tell us what happened next?

[Anonymous]

So amazing that people think they won't get caught. The human capacity for self-delusion is bottomless.

I caught my now ex DH so many different ways. He didn't even know what I knew. Then, when confronted by me, he just tangled himself in a web of even deeper lies.

He begged me for several years to take him back. So sad for our kids.

So odd that he thought he could engage in such a gigantic lie and get away with it.