How Was Your Cheating Or Your Signficant Others Cheating Discovered?

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Anonymous wrote:Or maybe women had better hygiene back then?

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Anonymous wrote:DH came home from work reeking of pussy. Busted!

I always thought about this on mad men.

Or did everyone smoke so much they couldn't smell or taste anything?

Bidets were very popular in the finer homes.

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

How does that work? I know with the iphone there is a feature where you can see real-time locations of other linked phones), but how do you "map" where they've been earlier?

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

How does that work? I know with the iphone there is a feature where you can see real-time locations of other linked phones), but how do you "map" where they've been earlier?

If they have a gmail account on there phone it tracks location history as long as the service is turned on and can show you on a map there location or the area they were in. You just need to know there email address and password, then log into there account and look.

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

How does that work? I know with the iphone there is a feature where you can see real-time locations of other linked phones), but how do you "map" where they've been earlier?

One way to do this:
Settings-Privacy-Location Services-System Services-Frequent Locations
Not perfect but it can be a start

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed? :evil:

Yes, we did.

I should add, it didn't start off in our bed, but after a while it just seemed like the logical move. AP was much more nervous about doing it in our bed than I was, but really, the bed is one of the best places to have sex. Comfortable, big, allows for more positions.

I realize some (many? most?) people would think it was 10x worse bringing an AP to the marital bed, but it didn't seem like a big deal at the time. I'd probably NEVER do it in his bed, I've never even been to his house. I can't even imagine doing it in somebody else's bed. But me, fucking my AP in MY bed? I loved it. But I think that harkens back to my anger issues with my DH, that I didn't care about his feelings.

Agree. Anger not just that my H is happy for me to be the workhorse in our marriage, but that he doesn't satisfy me in bed either.

Very creepy, almost psychopathic, the way that you deal with your anger. If you're angry about something, why not just discuss it? If it's not resolved or resolvable, then why not divorce and move on? But, AP sex in the marital bed represents a kind of creepy, secretive revenge that is the uncontrolled output of anger that a person is too immature to deal with in a more responsible way. I find the idea kind of scary. If an AP could do that to his/her spouse, who knows what he/she will do when he/she is unhappy with me?

Oh, we've discussed his laziness. He thinks the work I do can be outsourced, done by the kids or continue to be done by me, but flat out won't do more. It's not enough to divorce over, but yes, I am angry enough to have sex with another man in our bed because of it.

You need serious therapy. You are going to teach your kids to be mean, petty and greedy.

Outsource some of the work and go to a therapist.

No. Their father is teaching them that being lazy and insensitive is acceptable. Greedy?!

Not sure about the martial bed but you go girl! The people are just jealous you are having multiple orgasms and they are not.

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The location services on cell is very useful to see where they have been.

Do you regularly track your SO?

Tracking won't always work. I never lied about my whereabouts. If I went somewhere, I told my DH, included something plausible about why I was there (e.g. picking up lunch and some new towels at whatever store ...)
Plus, AP & I had sex at my house. So. I was at home.

Did you have sex with AP in the marital bed? :evil:

Yes, we did.

I should add, it didn't start off in our bed, but after a while it just seemed like the logical move. AP was much more nervous about doing it in our bed than I was, but really, the bed is one of the best places to have sex. Comfortable, big, allows for more positions.

I realize some (many? most?) people would think it was 10x worse bringing an AP to the marital bed, but it didn't seem like a big deal at the time. I'd probably NEVER do it in his bed, I've never even been to his house. I can't even imagine doing it in somebody else's bed. But me, fucking my AP in MY bed? I loved it. But I think that harkens back to my anger issues with my DH, that I didn't care about his feelings.

Agree. Anger not just that my H is happy for me to be the workhorse in our marriage, but that he doesn't satisfy me in bed either.

Very creepy, almost psychopathic, the way that you deal with your anger. If you're angry about something, why not just discuss it? If it's not resolved or resolvable, then why not divorce and move on? But, AP sex in the marital bed represents a kind of creepy, secretive revenge that is the uncontrolled output of anger that a person is too immature to deal with in a more responsible way. I find the idea kind of scary. If an AP could do that to his/her spouse, who knows what he/she will do when he/she is unhappy with me?

Oh, we've discussed his laziness. He thinks the work I do can be outsourced, done by the kids or continue to be done by me, but flat out won't do more. It's not enough to divorce over, but yes, I am angry enough to have sex with another man in our bed because of it.

You need serious therapy. You are going to teach your kids to be mean, petty and greedy.

Outsource some of the work and go to a therapist.

No. Their father is teaching them that being lazy and insensitive is acceptable. Greedy?!

Not sure about the martial bed but you go girl! The people are just jealous you are having multiple orgasms and they are not.

Nobody is jealous of nasty. Everybody can have multiple orgasms. You need to depend less on men for your validation and needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Surprised at all these people bent out of shape about a parent cheating. One of my parents cheated on the other. They got found out and then they got divorced and that was that. I was 20 so maybe it would have been harder if I had been younger. It's their business and we moved on.

My dad cheated on my mom.

I haven't spoken to the asshole in 40 years, and I never will.

Think about that when you want to have fun and get your dick wet.

Either you're lying or dumb. So dumb

Let me guess, you've had an affair.

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Anonymous wrote:Surprised at all these people bent out of shape about a parent cheating. One of my parents cheated on the other. They got found out and then they got divorced and that was that. I was 20 so maybe it would have been harder if I had been younger. It's their business and we moved on.

My dad cheated on my mom.

I haven't spoken to the asshole in 40 years, and I never will.

Think about that when you want to have fun and get your dick wet.

Either you're lying or dumb. So dumb

Let me guess, you've had an affair.

No. I'm the one who's ex husband cheated with 2 different women.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok special snowflake. The cheating spouse betrayed their spouse not you. So ridiculous. My ex husband cheated on me with 2 women that I know of. That didn't mean he was a shitty father, he was a terrible husband.

I disagree. They betrayed my whole family.

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Walked into room where my then husband was saying Larla I love you into the phone while talking to some one else .....and my name is Larla

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The live in boyfriend of my husband's AP called me and informed me he had just caught them together. I didn't want to believe it at first, however, the pieces of the puzzle started coming together. Later he came home from work, I confronted, and he confessed (full of remorse of course). Funny thing was I had even "dreamed" he was cheating...funny how the subconscious mind works.

The real stinger is..later I found out members of my "family" knew and/or were suspicious but never told me. My own mother had went to my house one day...and caught my H there with his AP (They heard her come in and quickly snuck out another door). Knowing other people knew and did not inform me was almost just as devastating.

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The ow called me. She apologized, she had no idea he was married until his sister told her. She told me he forced her to have am abortion, and she apologized to me

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Anonymous wrote:The live in boyfriend of my husband's AP called me and informed me he had just caught them together. I didn't want to believe it at first, however, the pieces of the puzzle started coming together. Later he came home from work, I confronted, and he confessed (full of remorse of course). Funny thing was I had even "dreamed" he was cheating...funny how the subconscious mind works.

The real stinger is..later I found out members of my "family" knew and/or were suspicious but never told me. My own mother had went to my house one day...and caught my H there with his AP (They heard her come in and quickly snuck out another door). Knowing other people knew and did not inform me was almost just as devastating.

So, odd, I had a very intense dream about my ex cheating at the time he was doing it, but I had absolutely no reason to suspect him then. The dream was so vivid that I never forgot it, and when I found out a couple of years later, it turned out the cheating had happened at the time of my dream.

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Anonymous wrote:Surprised at all these people bent out of shape about a parent cheating. One of my parents cheated on the other. They got found out and then they got divorced and that was that. I was 20 so maybe it would have been harder if I had been younger. It's their business and we moved on.

My dad's cheating still bothers me and it's made me somewhat skeptical of people. I still love him and we get along but it definitely diminished him in my view. I really looked up to him and then to find out he was cheating and just the drama that ensued really made him look bad. I was 17 when he was caught. Maybe it's because my dad is one of the most judgmental people I know.