So I contacted my husband's Mistress

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Oh good, so the child will instead grow up to be spiteful, vindictive, and self-centered, like OP. In fact, perhaps her DH should try to deny her custody. Wouldn't want the kid turning out like her after all.

You have some kind of weird bias.

+1 are you insane???? OP is angry and upset and has every right to be. Cut her some slack. She's just found out her husband has been having an affair for years. Yes her desire to keep her child away from the father is wrong but no need to call her names and abuse her character. You obviously have no idea what emotions a person goes through when they have been repeatedly cheated on. I hope that you never have to face something like this.

I agree with you. I said the PP who said the child would grow up to be spiteful and vindictive "like OP" had a weird bias. OP is in shock. Her DH is a horrible person and no doubt a horrible father -- the two are not completely separate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, in 5 years you won't care who he stuck his prick in during your marriage. File and move on.

+1. Your marriage has not been good for awhile. Time to move on.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm going to tell you something from the voice of experience. Stop trying to figure out how to punish him and concentrate on what benefits you and your child. Be smart about money and child support. Make living arrangements that work best for your new circumstances. Make sure you can afford to pay the child care. Budget for childcare in your support because even if you are a SAHM now, you probably won't be in a few years - you will need to work.

You can't make him feel something he doesn't - guilt, remorse, shame, etc. That's all him you can only look out for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks what he did, but you'd be hurting your baby if you try to ruin their relationship. If he wants to be a part of the kid's life and he isn't an incompetent father then please let him. Using your baby to get back at him is not the way to go.

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you already did and want everyone else to be as bitter and mean as you are. Nice.

Life isn't fair and the truth hurts. The earlier you learn, the better.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what kind of dream world you people are living in. Unless the OP has evidence of abuse or neglect, there are no grounds for denying custody. Infidelity is not relevant.

He is emotionally abusive. How do I prove that in court?

Nobody cares about emotional abuse... The sad reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what kind of dream world you people are living in. Unless the OP has evidence of abuse or neglect, there are no grounds for denying custody. Infidelity is not relevant.

He is emotionally abusive. How do I prove that in court?

Nobody cares about emotional abuse... The sad reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, in 5 years you won't care who he stuck his prick in during your marriage. File and move on.

+++++

Your child will realize he is a selfish prick and in the end find other male role models.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm going to tell you something from the voice of experience. Stop trying to figure out how to punish him and concentrate on what benefits you and your child. Be smart about money and child support. Make living arrangements that work best for your new circumstances. Make sure you can afford to pay the child care. Budget for childcare in your support because even if you are a SAHM now, you probably won't be in a few years - you will need to work.

You can't make him feel something he doesn't - guilt, remorse, shame, etc. That's all him you can only look out for yourself.

OP,

The above is right on. Please pay attention. Save your energy to get the most advantageous settlement (with a good lawyer!). Take the high road and be a good role model for him, your child, and everyone else, because that joint custody WILL happen and you will need to communicate efficiently with him. It's ironic how so many couples finally learn basic rules of communication after they get divorced, not before.. Pretend you're not angry but just want your due, and pretty soon you will be. Your child will benefit from a father's presence in his life, if that father can look after his needs reasonably well. You can't fathom this right now, but children have their own personalities and their own minds - your son will think for himself, and see through any hypocrisy and moral dilemmas, particularly if you raise him well on your side. Don't criticize his father in front of him.

Stay strong, OP, and move forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about emotional abuse... The sad reality.

That's because much of it is garbage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about emotional abuse... The sad reality.

That's because much of it is garbage.

It garbage until you video tape it and show it to a judge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about emotional abuse... The sad reality.

That's because much of it is garbage.

It garbage until you video tape it and show it to a judge.

Go PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It garbage until you video tape it and show it to a judge.

Oh yeah? What do you have on tape?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, in 5 years you won't care who he stuck his prick in during your marriage. File and move on.

+1. Your marriage has not been good for awhile. Time to move on.

It was fine until this whore came along.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, in 5 years you won't care who he stuck his prick in during your marriage. File and move on.

+1. Your marriage has not been good for awhile. Time to move on.

It was fine until this whore came along.

Did you catch that they were separated while she was pregnant?