So I contacted my husband's Mistress

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what kind of dream world you people are living in. Unless the OP has evidence of abuse or neglect, there are no grounds for denying custody. Infidelity is not relevant.

He is emotionally abusive. How do I prove that in court?

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He is emotionally abusive.

That's what they all say.

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OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

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Anonymous wrote:But he had an affair. Spent thousands of dollars and was planning a life with this woman. It lasted a few years not months. How is he a fit father??

Get over yourself.

You are a horribly callous person PP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

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She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Life's not fair, sorry she'll have to find out the hard way.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Someone who thinks they can kick out their spouse and still be considered abandoned will not raise an emotionally adjusted child.

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Anonymous wrote:
She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Life's not fair, sorry she'll have to find out the hard way.

Sounds like you already did and want everyone else to be as bitter and mean as you are. Nice.

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I can understand wanting full custody, but, assuming he's a good father, don't keep his child from him.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know what kind of dream world you people are living in. Unless the OP has evidence of abuse or neglect, there are no grounds for denying custody. Infidelity is not relevant.

He is emotionally abusive. How do I prove that in court?

He emotionally abuses your 16 month old? That's crazy.

I can assure you the judge doesn't give a damn about how you and your husband talk to one another. He is that child's father and he has just as much right as you to parent.

Grow up. I realize you're upset about the affair, that's understandable, but don't make your child do without a parent because you are angry. It's not about you anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Oh good, so the child will instead grow up to be spiteful, vindictive, and self-centered, like OP. In fact, perhaps her DH should try to deny her custody. Wouldn't want the kid turning out like her after all.

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I'm sorry, but based on what you've written here you won't get full custody.Are you in DC? specially in DC where many fathers take off and don't want to be part of child's life.
Here, judges are "impressed" when father wants to stay. My ex sold drugs and failed drug test, but we have joint custody. I'm so over him having another kid while we were married that he can make 100 more for all I care.
"Best revenge is to live well", so try to move on, and are you honestly be surprised he did that! You didn't have a great relationship to begin with. work on getting over it and move on with your life.
You cannot come across as a bitter wife in court.Courts don't care how many women he slept with.They care how he is as a father.
There is no way to "punish" him and courts can make you whole again. You can do it, so do it and of course it takes time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Oh good, so the child will instead grow up to be spiteful, vindictive, and self-centered, like OP. In fact, perhaps her DH should try to deny her custody. Wouldn't want the kid turning out like her after all.

You have some kind of weird bias.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are just as selfish as your dh. You're mad because he cheated on you so you want to destroy your child's relationship with his father. That's disgusting. Your child stands no chance with two parents so self involved that their child is the last thing on their minds.

She doesn't want her child growing up to be a liar and a user, who doesn't care about the lives left behind in the wreckage as long as she gets what she wants -- like her dad. Don't we all want our children to grow up emotionally and psychologically well adjusted? I feel for you, OP.

Oh good, so the child will instead grow up to be spiteful, vindictive, and self-centered, like OP. In fact, perhaps her DH should try to deny her custody. Wouldn't want the kid turning out like her after all.

You have some kind of weird bias.

+1 are you insane???? OP is angry and upset and has every right to be. Cut her some slack. She's just found out her husband has been having an affair for years. Yes her desire to keep her child away from the father is wrong but no need to call her names and abuse her character. You obviously have no idea what emotions a person goes through when they have been repeatedly cheated on. I hope that you never have to face something like this.

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OP, in 5 years you won't care who he stuck his prick in during your marriage. File and move on.