Ways Facebook can hurt your feelings

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Anonymous wrote:I just posted and mentioned we are doing marriage counseling. It definitely seems on FB everyone is super happily married.

Also, I have a friend who is a working mom, runs marathons, makes her kids' birthday cakes and designs favors for their parties that would make Martha Stewart blush, is always doing things like posting the different interior design things she's done to her house (on her own), etc. It's like she seems to have the perfect balance and do everything really, really well.

Some people really do. I'm a working mom and extremely organized. I can cram a lot in. I have found that being organized and planning my time well results is greater happiness, less chaos, and a more productive life to do the things I want to do.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully, after a bunch of irritating posts from HS friends to the point that I remembered why I had "lost" contact with them after graduation, I found the "unsubscribe" button and it's helped. A LOT.

[Anonymous]

Some of these stories are heartbreaking . This is why I am not into Facebook. I refused to be part of a clique in highschool too and in college I made sure to have all types of friends, not just those in my sorority. It's like a cruel highschool in so many ways and I see even older generations doing the same obnoxious things on FB our generation does. On the other hand if I were housebound/not mobile I would be into it more, but I would not brag and post a zillion photos.

I only go on Facebook to see updates on people I care about and frankly to laugh at some of the posts of the narcissists I have to work with/go to school with, etc. They haven't changed and the posts make a Christmas brag letter look like nothing. I know I'm mean to let them friend me and then laugh at them, but they are not nice people.

[Anonymous]

Adding to the chorus here, I have had my share of hurt feelings over FB too & have little use for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of these stories are heartbreaking . This is why I am not into Facebook. I refused to be part of a clique in highschool too and in college I made sure to have all types of friends, not just those in my sorority. It's like a cruel highschool in so many ways and I see even older generations doing the same obnoxious things on FB our generation does. On the other hand if I were housebound/not mobile I would be into it more, but I would not brag and post a zillion photos.

I only go on Facebook to see updates on people I care about and frankly to laugh at some of the posts of the narcissists I have to work with/go to school with, etc. They haven't changed and the posts make a Christmas brag letter look like nothing. I know I'm mean to let them friend me and then laugh at them, but they are not nice people.

Heh. Me, too. I let them friend me, filter them out of my own posts, and mock them to my other friends. Trust me when I say they deserve it.

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"I'm a working mom and extremely organized."

Did you end up enjoying your Christmas season as much as you thought you would? I hope you didn't have to put up with too much complaining from those Real Housewives watchers who didn't plan well!

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Anonymous wrote:I just posted and mentioned we are doing marriage counseling. It definitely seems on FB everyone is super happily married.

Also, I have a friend who is a working mom, runs marathons, makes her kids' birthday cakes and designs favors for their parties that would make Martha Stewart blush, is always doing things like posting the different interior design things she's done to her house (on her own), etc. It's like she seems to have the perfect balance and do everything really, really well.

Some people really do. I'm a working mom and extremely organized. I can cram a lot in. I have found that being organized and planning my time well results is greater happiness, less chaos, and a more productive life to do the things I want to do.

Wow, obviously you haven't found enough time to cram in some much-needed work on your emotional intelligence.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

NP here. *I* almost started to cry reading that. Wow, that must have sucked beyond belief. So sorry. Your ex sounds like a big a*hole.

Another NP. I just wanted to add your Ex is a dick.

Dick move. Micro-dick move.

Another NP. I agree. They're both evil - and the new GF sounds pathetic. I'm so sorry they did that to you.

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Anonymous wrote:10:25 again. I was always arguably the most enthusiastic camper of our group. I even took survival classes - how to camp, catch your food, survive with basically nothing but some string. I love camping. I often initiated trips. I was a part of our group some 15 years ago when we first discovered our favorite group camp site.
Logged into FB this summer and what is the first photo that pops up: All my former good friends and my former campsite with my ex husband and his new family on a camping trip that nobody even told me about. They even invited some of our friends who do NOT like to camp AT ALL, but who only drove up to spend the day having a few beers and hanging out, and then drove home.

This is the most horrible FB snub I have eever heard of. PP, you have my sympathy. In fact I almost cannot breathe reading this. It is just awful. You Ex should not have posted this. Ok, I am getting really, really upset about this!

Look at it from another perspective and you will feel better; remember that these get-togethers look like much more fun than they really were - because you weren't there - so you're just seeing the smiley comraderie posed photos and you are only imagining all sorts of good times. Also, keep in mind that you weren't invited, not because they don't like your company, but merely because your ex husband was invited (he might have initiated it) so they wouldn't have had you two together at the same event - i.e. it's not because they did not want you there. They were not trying to hurt your feelings. They posted photos on fb because thats what people do constantly these days. No thought as to who might view them or how they'd be percieved.

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Anonymous wrote:"I'm a working mom and extremely organized."

Did you end up enjoying your Christmas season as much as you thought you would? I hope you didn't have to put up with too much complaining from those Real Housewives watchers who didn't plan well!

Too funny.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

NP here. *I* almost started to cry reading that. Wow, that must have sucked beyond belief. So sorry. Your ex sounds like a big a*hole.

Another NP. I just wanted to add your Ex is a dick.

Dick move. Micro-dick move.

Another NP. I agree. They're both evil - and the new GF sounds pathetic. I'm so sorry they did that to you.

Hi, I'm the OP and my heart goes out to you. I don't even have words for your ex or the girlfriend.

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I'd like to say that I am happier for:

1) Logging into FB at most maybe once a week. Quick scan of pictures and that's it.
2) Immediately removing exes. I don't get how people want to put themselves through the torture of seeing their ex's status change and pictures and communication with their new SO. Out of sight, out of mind, and helps the grieving process move quicker.

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Facebook is the root of all evil.

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I went to a family event, and my SIL posted a lot of pics. I was in quite a few, the only problem was I was in the process of putting food into my mouth in all of them!! I looked like a pig stuffing her face. She must have put quite an effort into doing this. People actually commented by asking her if she took any non-eating photos of me. She said that was all she had. Bitch.

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"PS, and they were friends with him first, and their husbands are good friends with him. But I have been good friends (I thought) with all of them for 20 years.

Just being fair to them, they are his friends too.... "

And now their your frenemies.