Ways Facebook can hurt your feelings

[Anonymous]

I'll start. A good friend posted pictures of a her birthday celebration out on the town with a bunch of mutual friends. I wasn't included and my feelings are a bit hurt. I know I should suck it up and put on my big girl panties, but I'm sad.

Anyone else ever have their feelings hurt on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

A friend posted about a gift she received for her baby-that she didn't know what to do with duplicates of ______toy. I gave her one of the duplicates.

[Anonymous]

Yes. All the time and I stopped getting on FB for that reason. I get more sad when I see my children excluded from B-day parties or get togethers.

[Anonymous]

OP, I had the same thing happen, and yeah, my feelings were hurt.

[Anonymous]

I think this happens to everyone. I don't normally post pictures of get-togethers/parties because I don't want anyone to feel excluded. But yes, when others do that, I often feel like I was left out.

[Anonymous]

When I started a small business, I was a little hurt (and fully aware that I shouldn't be) that so few of my FB friends shared information about the business with their friends. It would have been so easy for them and so beneficial for me if they had just shared a link to one of the articles I posted. Or even just "liked" the business's page.

And then I found myself identifying individuals who really *should* have done these things-- people who are true friends, live in DC, are active on FB otherwise. Feels like a snub when they "like" the Daily Show, but not their friend's store. Especially when they knew how hard I'd been working to make it happen, and how every little bit counts in this economy.

[Anonymous]

PP, in a situation like that, I think it's okay to ask your friends to "like" the page. That's what I did for a non-profit I volunteer with. They probably would have been happy to do it and it just didn't occur to them.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP, that would hurt my feelings too. I've had weird stuff happen on FB too, like friends who I introduce to each other start posting on each other's walls all the time, or responding to each other's status updates, but don't communicate with me. It feels crappy.

[Anonymous]

Pp do you ask them for references and send them friendly reminders to spread the word?
I forward my friends info all the time, but I only started because she would send things like "don't forget to pass my info along!" or "my business works on referrals, please recommend me"

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP I've been there.

My best friend who now only texts me from time to time and tells me how much she misses me keeps telling me how busy she is and it's hard for her to make the time to hang out...She regularly hangs out on weekends with other friends then posts pics and recently posted about a trip to Atlantic City.

Really hurt my feelings.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, yes, it's happened to me, though I know I should be more oblivious. Just sometimes "small" things that are upsetting, such as a supposed friend (I do know her from real life, for some time) can go on complimenting/responding/reacting to others on her list (she's got over 300 "friends" on there), but the few times I put up an update, she's not bothered to react. One might say she's too busy, but I have made time for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I started a small business, I was a little hurt (and fully aware that I shouldn't be) that so few of my FB friends shared information about the business with their friends. It would have been so easy for them and so beneficial for me if they had just shared a link to one of the articles I posted. Or even just "liked" the business's page.

And then I found myself identifying individuals who really *should* have done these things-- people who are true friends, live in DC, are active on FB otherwise. Feels like a snub when they "like" the Daily Show, but not their friend's store. Especially when they knew how hard I'd been working to make it happen, and how every little bit counts in this economy.

Frequent FB'er here. Being a salesperson for your friends is annoying. It's a social network...a place where people can choose what they like without fear of being bombarded with advertisements. Get a good web developer and advertise. FB has a place where you can create your own advertisements there. Stop being an annoying friend by putting the success of your business on their social networking.

[Anonymous]

Funny thing is that DCUM is a much harsher place to hang out than Facebook. DCUM has thickened my skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I had the same thing happen, and yeah, my feelings were hurt.

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.