Ways Facebook can hurt your feelings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny thing is that DCUM is a much harsher place to hang out than Facebook. DCUM has thickened my skin.

You cannot take anything on DCUM personally. Everything on FB is personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny thing is that DCUM is a much harsher place to hang out than Facebook. DCUM has thickened my skin.

I wouldn't consider any of you my friends, either.

[Anonymous]

10:25 again. I was always arguably the most enthusiastic camper of our group. I even took survival classes - how to camp, catch your food, survive with basically nothing but some string. I love camping. I often initiated trips. I was a part of our group some 15 years ago when we first discovered our favorite group camp site.
Logged into FB this summer and what is the first photo that pops up: All my former good friends and my former campsite with my ex husband and his new family on a camping trip that nobody even told me about. They even invited some of our friends who do NOT like to camp AT ALL, but who only drove up to spend the day having a few beers and hanging out, and then drove home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, yes, it's happened to me, though I know I should be more oblivious. Just sometimes "small" things that are upsetting, such as a supposed friend (I do know her from real life, for some time) can go on complimenting/responding/reacting to others on her list (she's got over 300 "friends" on there), but the few times I put up an update, she's not bothered to react. One might say she's too busy, but I have made time for her.

Also please realize that with the new FB settings from a few months ago that she might not even be seeing your updates...unless she clicks your name and says "show all updates" it might be preset to only show her occasionally. That happened to me - I was wondering where so-and-so went, it would cross my mind, and then I'd forget to check their personal page. By the time I got around to looking at their actual wall, I was shocked to see all I had missed. So you never really know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Hi OP, yes, it's happened to me, though I know I should be more oblivious. Just sometimes "small" things that are upsetting, such as a supposed friend (I do know her from real life, for some time) can go on complimenting/responding/reacting to others on her list (she's got over 300 "friends" on there), but the few times I put up an update, she's not bothered to react. One might say she's too busy, but I have made time for her.

Also please realize that with the new FB settings from a few months ago that she might not even be seeing your updates...unless she clicks your name and says "show all updates" it might be preset to only show her occasionally. That happened to me - I was wondering where so-and-so went, it would cross my mind, and then I'd forget to check their personal page. By the time I got around to looking at their actual wall, I was shocked to see all I had missed. So you never really know!

Yes this happens to me a lot too. Not sure why I am only subscribed to some friends updates, it is nothing I "set".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

I'm sorry PP. That is really hurtful, I can't imagine. This is going to sound stupid but whenever I see a picture of Giselle Bundchen with Tom Brady's son from his ex-girlfriend, I feel so sad for the ex. I can't imagine opening up a publication and seeing my kid having fun with my ex's new wife.

[Anonymous]

Five or 6 ago (before FB got big), I was one with the big birthday celebration and invited all my friends. Recently, a few friends dug up some of the group photos from the party and posted them on FB. Not one of the pictures posted included me. There wasn't even an acknowledgement of the event in the caption. I haven't contacted them since. We're not as close as we were back then, but really??? I go back and forth debating whether or not to defriend them.

Is it weird that I was hurt in the first place and it still bothers me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Five or 6 ago (before FB got big), I was one with the big birthday celebration and invited all my friends. Recently, a few friends dug up some of the group photos from the party and posted them on FB. Not one of the pictures posted included me. There wasn't even an acknowledgement of the event in the caption. I haven't contacted them since. We're not as close as we were back then, but really??? I go back and forth debating whether or not to defriend them.

Is it weird that I was hurt in the first place and it still bothers me?

If I were you I would find my OWN pics from that event and put them up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

I'm sorry PP. That is really hurtful, I can't imagine. This is going to sound stupid but whenever I see a picture of Giselle Bundchen with Tom Brady's son from his ex-girlfriend, I feel so sad for the ex. I can't imagine opening up a publication and seeing my kid having fun with my ex's new wife.

PP here, I even had to TEACH him how to use the stroller before they left the house! In all the years we'd had at least one child (7 years at that time) he had never had occassion to have to set up the stroller. Can you even imagine!

[Anonymous]

I've gone to events or parties, had a nice time, posed for pictures, etc. And then, when the hostess or whoever posts 25 pictures in an "Awesome birthday!" album, found that not ONE picture has me in it.

Makes me feel like the picture-poster was just putting up pictures of her *real* friends.

[Anonymous]

My SIL is a sanctimommy and began posting some stuff that pertained directly to how I raise my children. When I commented, she made it *perfectly clear* that she would not have her views challenged. So, while that didn't exactly hurt my feelings (if she thinks my kids are "damaged" then fuck her) it did culminate in me deciing to unsubscribe from her feed so now I rarely see photos of my nephews. I just cannot stand to read her screeds and the amen chorus of freaks who seem to always respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've gone to events or parties, had a nice time, posed for pictures, etc. And then, when the hostess or whoever posts 25 pictures in an "Awesome birthday!" album, found that not ONE picture has me in it.

Makes me feel like the picture-poster was just putting up pictures of her *real* friends.

The hostess probably just thought she looked fat in that/those pics.

[Anonymous]

This thread is why I don't do FB. I am so sad for all of us especially the camping poster and the poster who had to see pictures of her kids w/ex and new GF. I felt like this all the time in HS. I hate that feeling of being left out!