Ways Facebook can hurt your feelings

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

NP here. *I* almost started to cry reading that. Wow, that must have sucked beyond belief. So sorry. Your ex sounds like a big a*hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is why I don't do FB. I am so sad for all of us especially the camping poster and the poster who had to see pictures of her kids w/ex and new GF. I felt like this all the time in HS. I hate that feeling of being left out!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:25 again. I was always arguably the most enthusiastic camper of our group. I even took survival classes - how to camp, catch your food, survive with basically nothing but some string. I love camping. I often initiated trips. I was a part of our group some 15 years ago when we first discovered our favorite group camp site.
Logged into FB this summer and what is the first photo that pops up: All my former good friends and my former campsite with my ex husband and his new family on a camping trip that nobody even told me about. They even invited some of our friends who do NOT like to camp AT ALL, but who only drove up to spend the day having a few beers and hanging out, and then drove home.

I remember the camping incident from when you posted about it at the time!

I see this kind of thing all the time on FB with a particular couple who's split up. The new GF of one is always posting pics of the kids at family outings as if they are her kids. It annoys me and they're not even my kids!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've gone to events or parties, had a nice time, posed for pictures, etc. And then, when the hostess or whoever posts 25 pictures in an "Awesome birthday!" album, found that not ONE picture has me in it.

Makes me feel like the picture-poster was just putting up pictures of her *real* friends.

The hostess probably just thought she looked fat in that/those pics.

I was just thinking this, LOL! Party people, it probably has nothing to do with you. Maybe the ex of another friend is in those pictures and s/he is trying to be considerate of the friends. Maybe she had a falling-out with a different friend and doesn't want them up there. Maybe she thinks someone else looks terrible.

Upload your own photos, comment on their album "that was a great night, thanks for posting these!", and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

Just to add one way FB hurt my feelings...I had lost a LOT of weight, and went to a mommy group event. The only pic of me this one woman posted was one where I am sitting in the floor and my sweater is folded over in such a way that it looks like a huge roll of fat! I showed it to my husband...b/c at first glance (and with me not being used to my new body) it looked like I was still my old size. I looked again and realized it was the sweater. My husband kept telling me "yeah, she hates you..."

Which is actually true - or at least she dislikes me a lot (I know this from her other reactions to me). But I really appreciate when people use good judgment and don't post photos of me looking like crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to add one way FB hurt my feelings...I had lost a LOT of weight, and went to a mommy group event. The only pic of me this one woman posted was one where I am sitting in the floor and my sweater is folded over in such a way that it looks like a huge roll of fat! I showed it to my husband...b/c at first glance (and with me not being used to my new body) it looked like I was still my old size. I looked again and realized it was the sweater. My husband kept telling me "yeah, she hates you..."

Which is actually true - or at least she dislikes me a lot (I know this from her other reactions to me). But I really appreciate when people use good judgment and don't post photos of me looking like crap.

Agreed. Another good rule of thumb: Never post someone in a bathing suit unless you ask them first, or they are a supermodel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

Thank you for saying that. Sometimes a little validation helps. Honestly when I typed the camping one (see above) I started to cry.

NP here. *I* almost started to cry reading that. Wow, that must have sucked beyond belief. So sorry. Your ex sounds like a big a*hole.

Another NP. I just wanted to add your Ex is a dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is why I don't do FB. I am so sad for all of us especially the camping poster and the poster who had to see pictures of her kids w/ex and new GF. I felt like this all the time in HS. I hate that feeling of being left out!

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

I feel for camping story woman, that had to be extremely heartbreaking.
I feel for you cause I had humiliating FB experience with my ex. I witnessed his affair starting on FB, the other women was posting songs on his wall and they were writing cute notes to each other like it wasn't freaking obvious. She hid her otherwise public wall from me alone (not sure how...) after I caught him, about week later he posted pictures of the two of them places while we had still been together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel for camping story woman, that had to be extremely heartbreaking.
I feel for you cause I had humiliating FB experience with my ex. I witnessed his affair starting on FB, the other women was posting songs on his wall and they were writing cute notes to each other like it wasn't freaking obvious. She hid her otherwise public wall from me alone (not sure how...) after I caught him, about week later he posted pictures of the two of them places while we had still been together.

OMG. Stories like that make me think adultery should still be illegal, that is, grounds for the victimized spouse to get EVERYTHING.

My spouse also had a FB affair. My marriage therapist told me "FB will be the end of marriage".

[Anonymous]

I am not sure if it "hurt my feelings", but I found out via Facebook that my step-daugther got married. Not only was our family not invited, but we weren't even told.

[Anonymous]

I caught my ex cheating on FB when the other woman tagged him in pictures. They're still together and it hurts. Alot

[Anonymous]

I found out my uncle bought a gravestone for my Dad (who was cremated) and didn't even tell us about it!!! I had to see the picture in my newsfeed. Apparently my grandma also has a gravestone (she was also cremated) in this big family plot no one told us about. SUCH A VIOLATION. This was my Dad!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I had the same thing happen, and yeah, my feelings were hurt.

Ditto.

Ditto again

[Anonymous]

just saw pictures of a friend from out of the country who apparently came through DC this holiday season and got together with friends. without me.