Ways Facebook can hurt your feelings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is why I don't do FB. I am so sad for all of us especially the camping poster and the poster who had to see pictures of her kids w/ex and new GF. I felt like this all the time in HS. I hate that feeling of being left out!

Ditto.

I'm sorry but if this is the only reason why you don't do Facebook I think you need a tougher hide. Really, it's FACEBOOK. It's fun and silly and yeah sometimes people do ugly things but really? Have your hurt and move on. I can't image letting the pettiness of others keep me from doing something I wanted to do.

[Anonymous]

Im agog at the number of people who can't handle social media! If it's not your thing sure, OK, windsurfing and model trains aren't my thing, so I don't engage in them but it seems like so many posts are "I don't do FB because my feelings get hurt." You people need to man up or get better friends who aren't always posting things to hurt your feelings. Jeesh.

[Anonymous]

The morning message that today is my father's birthday. He died a couple of weeks after his birthday last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The morning message that today is my father's birthday. He died a couple of weeks after his birthday last year.

Hugs, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is 2 years old.

And your point is? What was an issue two years ago can still be relevant today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny thing is that DCUM is a much harsher place to hang out than Facebook. DCUM has thickened my skin.

+1

Also, I realized recently that FB is so carefully curated by some people that what you see is often "reality tv" rather than reality. A friend's posts about the engagement party her future DIL threw for her didn't mention that none of her family attended because the groom is Catholic.

I know, right? One of the reasons I'm not a regular FBookie. Such a disconnect between with reality that I find myself questioning if I know my friends at all.

[Anonymous]

Here you go:

My cousin unfriended me. She had posted a video of herself talking to the camera saying her likes and dislikes. (odd) but I wrote Sara it's great to get to know you better. Why she unfriended me I will never know.

My sister also blocked me from seeing some of her photos.

I also started heated fights that I did not mean to!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband always refused to participate in child-centric activities. If there wasn't beer and football, he was not interested.
The first outing I allowed him and his new GF to take our kids to was a kid's music performance at the Kennedy Center. We were not yet divorced. He had been dating her a few months.
The new GF took pictures of MY children and posted their happy little family outing on FB, tagging my ex (we were still friends) so that when I opened my FB that day, I was greeted by my smiling little ones, on a family outing with HER that he would never have even considered for me.

I just got ill reading this....PP so sorry, I can't imagine how this must have felt.

I had the same reaction too. I get it. Life goes on. But the girlfriend has no class.

NOBODY will replace mom. NObODY. Facts only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here you go:

My cousin unfriended me. She had posted a video of herself talking to the camera saying her likes and dislikes. (odd) but I wrote Sara it's great to get to know you better. Why she unfriended me I will never know.

My sister also blocked me from seeing some of her photos.

I also started heated fights that I did not mean to!!

Unfriending is a WHOLE nother can of worms.

I met my cousin's DH once years ago. Way before I was on FB. When first I joined FB, I sent friend requests to everyone I knew (I know, stupid newbie move). My cousin and her DH became my FB friends. Then, a couple years ago, she quit FB but her DH didn't. So he and I are still friends. Every family gathering, my aunt mentions how weird it is that I am friends with the husband, but not his wife (her DD). I have tried explaining that I felt it was rude to unfriend him when my cousin quit FB. She just raises her eyebrow like he and I have something illicit.

[Anonymous]

I could not give a flying care, because half of these people are in it for the appearances. No thanks. I don't have to post every gathering I host or attend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


I could not give a flying care, because half of these people are in it for the appearances. No thanks. I don't have to post every gathering I host or attend!

If you don't post it on FB though, then it didn't happen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here you go:

My cousin unfriended me. She had posted a video of herself talking to the camera saying her likes and dislikes. (odd) but I wrote Sara it's great to get to know you better. Why she unfriended me I will never know.

My sister also blocked me from seeing some of her photos.

I also started heated fights that I did not mean to!!

Unfriending is a WHOLE nother can of worms.

I met my cousin's DH once years ago. Way before I was on FB. When first I joined FB, I sent friend requests to everyone I knew (I know, stupid newbie move). My cousin and her DH became my FB friends. Then, a couple years ago, she quit FB but her DH didn't. So he and I are still friends. Every family gathering, my aunt mentions how weird it is that I am friends with the husband, but not his wife (her DD). I have tried explaining that I felt it was rude to unfriend him when my cousin quit FB. She just raises her eyebrow like he and I have something illicit.

Why is this a stupid newbie move? What's wrong with friend requesting people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny thing is that DCUM is a much harsher place to hang out than Facebook. DCUM has thickened my skin.

+1

Also, I realized recently that FB is so carefully curated by some people that what you see is often "reality tv" rather than reality. A friend's posts about the engagement party her future DIL threw for her didn't mention that none of her family attended because the groom is Catholic.

But why should it? I don't get it. A wedding is signifying one of the most significant times of your life - you're allowed to be excited about it even if things surrounding it aren't perfect. And she's probably even more thankful that a new family is embracing her since it sounds like her family is really rigid and unwelcoming. It's possible she was floored about the engagement party and still sad about her family - the two don't have to be in conflict.

Personally I hate it when people post about their drama on FB. It's better to post superficial stuff like family outings and cute pictures. You shouldn't be voicing your baggage to 300 friends and acquaintances. That's what the phone or email is for.

[Anonymous]

I've been hurt when I've been intentionally excluded from things.

I did end up blocking certain people who I felt were too obviously showing off their exclusive fun times on FB since I was unnecessarily letting it affect me.

At the same time I realized that what I was happily doing my own thing when I was being excluded, and it wouldn't have bothered me had I not known. It's not like I was waiting around for an invite to stuff. Or desperate for their company/attention. It only hurt when I was aware of it as an intentional slight. I decided to stop being so aware of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is 2 years old.

And your point is? What was an issue two years ago can still be relevant today.

Ugh. I also hate resurrected old threads when new posters dig up 2 year old threads and add a post as if it was a current thread.