Husband wants me to be a SAHM after I got fired…what would you do?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think your work history is really concerning - - and your husband does make sufficient income where you really do not have to work in order for your family to survive thank goodness.

Since it sounds like you are comfortable w/being a SAHM > I think you should go for it.
When your sons get older you can always revisit the idea of going back to work again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Law partner only makes $575k?

And "top law firm"??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible you have ADHD? I would check for a diagnosis as you seem to have issues that might be untreated and might improve if you looked into it.

You do seem to have a pattern of making bad decisions or not following through/communicating.

She has AHDH - A$$ Hat DH

[Anonymous]

Do what YOU want to do. You don’t need some “bad employee” excuse to be a SAHM, nor do you need to have a stellar and successful career to justify being a WAHM. What makes you happy and comfortable?

[Anonymous]

You will not regret being a SAHW/M. I'm happy to never have to be out in rush hour, I do whatever I want while the kids are in school. Money is not a concern for us either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're married to a narcissist and they love to control their wives. "Don't work! I make plenty!" until they decide to run off with their affair down the road and you find yourself without relevant job skills. Get another job and sock as much money away as you can. Some day you'll thank me.

This. Do NOT take yourself out of the workforce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible you have ADHD? I would check for a diagnosis as you seem to have issues that might be untreated and might improve if you looked into it.

You do seem to have a pattern of making bad decisions or not following through/communicating.

This jumped out at me as a possibility too. OP, if you’re not a troll, please look into this if you aren’t already diagnosed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're married to a narcissist and they love to control their wives. "Don't work! I make plenty!" until they decide to run off with their affair down the road and you find yourself without relevant job skills. Get another job and sock as much money away as you can. Some day you'll thank me.

This. Do NOT take yourself out of the workforce.

Yeah, husband clearly thinks OP is an idiot and just wants her home to make his life easier. He’s going to continue to think she’s an idiot when she’s home and not earning any income. OP needs to wise up and prioritize herself in this marriage.

[Anonymous]

I actually think you are fine. You held jobs 4 and 7 years respectively. Average duration at one job in the US is 2 years

I would still work. There are so many managers who are clueless and other office planktons. They get paid so should you

[Anonymous]

I normally encourage sahm’s, especially at your income level, but these are not good reasons. You have a perfectly good work history and would make a valuable employee. Your husband seems to be tearing you down instead of encouraging you which is concerning behavior. It’s a big red flag and seems like you should stay in the workforce if only to have other people in your life who can boost you up and not be so critical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're married to a narcissist and they love to control their wives. "Don't work! I make plenty!" until they decide to run off with their affair down the road and you find yourself without relevant job skills. Get another job and sock as much money away as you can. Some day you'll thank me.

This. Do NOT take yourself out of the workforce.

Yeah, husband clearly thinks OP is an idiot and just wants her home to make his life easier. He’s going to continue to think she’s an idiot when she’s home and not earning any income. OP needs to wise up and prioritize herself in this marriage.

Yes being a SAHP requires a lot of trust in your partner. Someone who insults their partner like this? No way.

[Anonymous]

Look, most people are fired a few times in their life. It could be because it was a Tuesday or their personality didn’t mesh with coworkers or their boss had a turkey sandwich for lunch. Reflect but give yourself grace. And only be at home if you want to. But why are you writing on dc blog from west coast? Echo your salary for your title seems way too high - they may have been looking for a reason to let you go to save money and not rehire or get someone cheaper. That happens in this kind of environment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Law partner only makes $575k?

And "top law firm"??

Everyone is too hung up on this. If he's a new non-equity partner without his own book of business, $575 is pretty normal. Non-equity partnership is more and more common, even in top firms.

OP - if I were you I'd get a lower stress, lower paid job job. I would not stop working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, most people are fired a few times in their life. It could be because it was a Tuesday or their personality didn’t mesh with coworkers or their boss had a turkey sandwich for lunch. Reflect but give yourself grace. And only be at home if you want to. But why are you writing on dc blog from west coast? Echo your salary for your title seems way too high - they may have been looking for a reason to let you go to save money and not rehire or get someone cheaper. That happens in this kind of environment.

Especially when you're 15. When I was 16 I worked a crappy restaurant job and one day I just walked out and never went back and never answered calls. Would I do that 20 years later? Nope.

[Anonymous]

Your kids are in school and so you aren’t a SAHM. You would be a sahw.