Husband wants me to be a SAHM after I got fired…what would you do?

[Anonymous]

To me, this is a red flag. You need to have money of your own, that he doesn’t control or know about. You should make sure you can live as a single parent if needed. He doesn’t sound very respectful and loving. Look for another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, this is a red flag. You need to have money of your own, that he doesn’t control or know about. You should make sure you can live as a single parent if needed. He doesn’t sound very respectful and loving. Look for another job.

To me the red flag is a law firm partner making $575k. Where is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me, this is a red flag. You need to have money of your own, that he doesn’t control or know about. You should make sure you can live as a single parent if needed. He doesn’t sound very respectful and loving. Look for another job.

To me the red flag is a law firm partner making $575k. Where is this?

+1. Is he really a law firm partner OP? Or has he been lying to you about his job?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're slow and not good at adapting to change. Children change. Boys move fast. I am not sure you will be any better as a SAHM than as a career woman, though you can't really get fired from being a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't need "her own" investment accounts since she already owns half of whatever are in each of their accounts, just like he does.

OP- What is the career path you are on? Are you actively moving forward with your career advancement? It does not sound like it, but maybe you left something out. How much were you earning in this last position? How much are you likely to earn in your next position? How old are your children? How old are you and your DH?

I made 325k a year as a Director of Program Management at a mid-sized government contractors. I’m 34 and my husband is 37.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, this is a red flag. You need to have money of your own, that he doesn’t control or know about. You should make sure you can live as a single parent if needed. He doesn’t sound very respectful and loving. Look for another job.

+1

[Anonymous]

You can volunteer or get a part time job in an area that fills your cup. Why submit yourself to the humiliation of getting fired by unreasonable bosses over and over again if you don’t have to?

If you’re married, his income is your income. It’s a polite fiction that you were bringing home your own money before. Your income was his income too.

[Anonymous]

A partner in a "top law firm" in the DMV makes way more than $575k, troll.

[Anonymous]

Only a matter of time until he starts criticizing your parenting and housekeeping as well.

Find a part time job where you aren’t too exhausted or stressed and keep working. I have no idea how good of an employee you are but it doesn’t matter with your DH’s income. You need to work to shield yourself from his snubbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A partner in a "top law firm" in the DMV makes way more than $575k, troll.

Maybe that’s what he’s telling the wife, shhh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please troll better. Why would your spouse think you would be good at the job of SAHM if he thinks you’re a bad worker overall?

Also, if he’s only making $575k as a partner, he’s not good at his job. I’d worry he would be cut if I were you.

This, hire a nanny and get a job. People get fired all the time for no reason.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a troll. Salaries are way different than typical roles. Which is a shame because good topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Law partner only makes $575k?

At a “top” firm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Law partner only makes $575k?

At a “top” firm

He’s 37, so that does seem accurate.

[Anonymous]

I read DH differently. I think he's trying to be helpful. When I started working I learned quickly that I wasn't good with all the interaction, dealing with people, getting people to do things, etc. It took some time to find my way. My DH was supportive. Stay home, don't stay home. But he hated to see how stressed I was when I arrived at home. But I didn't want to not work. Ultimately, I found that I thrived in a less interactive position. I could focus on the task that I had to complete. But I was good at that.

Maybe OP needs to explore what she could be good at. What are your strengths, OP?