Has your college freshman dated at all this year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:According to the population surveys from last year - 61% of undergraduate male students and 56% of undergraduate female students had not had PIV sex in the last 12 months.

And 56% of male undergrads and 53% of female undergrads had not had oral sex in the last 12 months.

The majority of those are virgins and have never had sex.

Of students who had had sex in the last 12 months, 69% of male undergrads and 71% of female undergrads had only had 1 partner during that time frame. 20% of male undergrads and 19% of female undergrads had 2-3 partners, 5% of male students had 4-6 partners and 4% of female students had 4-6 partners, 4% of male students had 7 or more partners and 3% of female students had 7 or more partners.

And gay students? Seems like this omits a pretty substantial population of students.

[Anonymous]

Our son is on to his second boyfriend and seems fine hooking up on the weekend before his relationship. I think it just has to do with the child and their personal desire to enter a relationship or even a one night stand

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: The extra layer of politics also comes into play. Most women lean liberal, and will not give a non-liberal guy a chance.

I was with you... until here. Take it to reddit.

I am the PP. My DD leans liberal, and has unfollowed friends due to politics. I assume she would want to date someone with similar beliefs. I am pretty sure she is not the only one like this on her campus.

She is very focused on academics, and is not trad-wife material. Although her schools leans more liberal, percentage-wise, more guys trend more conservative compared to the women. Then add to that the gender inbalance to the equation. She had a boyfriend for a few months, but it didn’t work out. She hangs out mostly with other young women, and is having a great time.

[Anonymous]

My kid is at a T5. Very few date. The kids are very focused on school, clubs, networking,
and internships. Many don’t feel that they have time for relationships.

On top of that, the guys are very empathetic. Everyone is busy and the guys don’t want to add to any of the gals’ stress by inadvertently making them feel uncomfortable. So the guys err on the side of not approaching.

The funny part is that my kids’ friends at another T5 hook up all the time and it’s the school I would least expect.

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I’m the PP. Forgive the typos. I’m typing on a small phone. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to the population surveys from last year - 61% of undergraduate male students and 56% of undergraduate female students had not had PIV sex in the last 12 months.

And 56% of male undergrads and 53% of female undergrads had not had oral sex in the last 12 months.

The majority of those are virgins and have never had sex.

Of students who had had sex in the last 12 months, 69% of male undergrads and 71% of female undergrads had only had 1 partner during that time frame. 20% of male undergrads and 19% of female undergrads had 2-3 partners, 5% of male students had 4-6 partners and 4% of female students had 4-6 partners, 4% of male students had 7 or more partners and 3% of female students had 7 or more partners.

And gay students? Seems like this omits a pretty substantial population of students.

These stats are all students (other than trans students) - not specifying the sex of their partner or sexual orientation There are other stats in the report that look at sexual orientation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS keeps asking girls out, and they say no. He's tall and good looking but not very charismatic. He's getting discouraged.

Tell him to keep trying

[Anonymous]

My daughter made a tight friend group and she and one of the guys started dating back in November and seem quite happy as a couple now and still spend plenty of time with the rest of the friend group. I prefer this to some stories I have heard about casual hookups from some of my friends with college students.

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman recently came home for spring break. She told me she hasn’t dated anyone at all. No one has asked her out, no hookups, not even really guys chatting with her. As far as I know she also hasn’t asked any guys out herself. She feels kind of sad about all of it. Is it normal now for college students to basically live like they are in a convent? She studies a lot and spends most of her time with her female friends. They go out together to dinner, concerts, and games, and seem to have a nice time. But from what she says, her friends are having the same experience — not much or anything happening with guys. This feels very different from when I was in college. I’m curious what your freshman’s experience has been like.

My daughter has a bunch of guy friends from her study groups and her club sport. I’d be less concerned if she was not dating and more alarmed if she was not making friends with boys. Perhaps she is just very shy?

[Anonymous]

Girls need to be more willing to make the first move if they find someone they like.

[Anonymous]

I have two nerdy stepsons in college and as far as I know neither had ever dated anyone. Didn't even have dates to prom, etc. I kind of wonder if the older one at least hooked up some freshman year because he seemed to gain some confidence and happiness and I wondered if there was something going on. But I doubt the younger one has.

Basically, I think a lot of young men of this generation have no game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two nerdy stepsons in college and as far as I know neither had ever dated anyone. Didn't even have dates to prom, etc. I kind of wonder if the older one at least hooked up some freshman year because he seemed to gain some confidence and happiness and I wondered if there was something going on. But I doubt the younger one has.

Basically, I think a lot of young men of this generation have no game.

It's not that they have no game. It's that they've sat through lecture after lecture in school, etc. about consent, unwanted sexual advances, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: The extra layer of politics also comes into play. Most women lean liberal, and will not give a non-liberal guy a chance.

I was with you... until here. Take it to reddit.

I am the PP. My DD leans liberal, and has unfollowed friends due to politics. I assume she would want to date someone with similar beliefs. I am pretty sure she is not the only one like this on her campus.

She is very focused on academics, and is not trad-wife material. Although her schools leans more liberal, percentage-wise, more guys trend more conservative compared to the women. Then add to that the gender inbalance to the equation. She had a boyfriend for a few months, but it didn’t work out. She hangs out mostly with other young women, and is having a great time.

The guys are out there, I have 2 myself. It’s just the frats and teams, that tend to be the social drivers at a lot of schools, have a higher population of conservative guys. Look at where Joe Rogan, barstool, etc. are popular. But there are other spots if you look at little deeper.
But, I do understand where you are coming from.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is hooking up and dating. Big college in the south.

Your kid tells you about their hookups?

DP:

Life 360 lets you know when your kid spends the night elsewhere.

Who the hell monitors their adult children on Life 360?!?! That is seriously dysfunctional.

Do you life 360 your spouse?
Would you keep track of location with your elderly parents?
Who the heck doesn't use technology to keep track of their family?

A lot of us. No, I don’t 360 my spouse or my parents or my kids. That’s crazy that you are all tracking each other.

Maybe it’s different levels of anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two nerdy stepsons in college and as far as I know neither had ever dated anyone. Didn't even have dates to prom, etc. I kind of wonder if the older one at least hooked up some freshman year because he seemed to gain some confidence and happiness and I wondered if there was something going on. But I doubt the younger one has.

Basically, I think a lot of young men of this generation have no game.

To be fair, there have always been nerds with no game. And given a chance to mature a bit, some girls prefer that type anyway.