Has your college freshman dated at all this year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to the population surveys from last year - 61% of undergraduate male students and 56% of undergraduate female students had not had PIV sex in the last 12 months.

And 56% of male undergrads and 53% of female undergrads had not had oral sex in the last 12 months.

The majority of those are virgins and have never had sex.

Of students who had had sex in the last 12 months, 69% of male undergrads and 71% of female undergrads had only had 1 partner during that time frame. 20% of male undergrads and 19% of female undergrads had 2-3 partners, 5% of male students had 4-6 partners and 4% of female students had 4-6 partners, 4% of male students had 7 or more partners and 3% of female students had 7 or more partners.

Accurate. They do not date around as much as college kids in the 90s, who had fewer sexual partners than the college students of the early 80s. Times change. Less casual sex is a good thing, for the most part.

I also think the phones and cameras create a higher reputational risk. This is the anxious generation we are talking about here. Any risky thing you do can get blasted onto the internet.

[Anonymous]

My sophomore son dated a couple girls last year briefly. Started talking to a girl over summer from their friend group and has been dating all year. They seem well-suited, he’s hoping to meet his partner in college. I initially wasn’t wowed by that notion (in my head), but now I truly get it. Dating post college and the all the apps seem depressing. His friend group is social but studious, all dating or open to it.

[Anonymous]

No, mine hasn't.

She accepted a date from one guy, who proceeded to publicly grope and hang all over her at a party before they even went out. Came on WAY too strong. So that ended.

She's currently texting a seemingly nice boy but it doesn't seem to be progressing beyond that. They're both on the more shy side and no one is "making the first move." I've tried to encourage her to ask him to hang out or go do something but she won't.

[Anonymous]

You all are way too up in your kids’ business.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if kids reputations from high school, that are very easy to find out, especially if your kid goes to a large in-state school, might deter some, mostly young women, from being open to dating some guys.

My kid is a junior at a large VA university. These kids are all connected. Once she meets a kid from “X” high school, they can ask friends about him, google him, check instagram, etc…. Not sure if this is good or bad, but women tend to be more careful with partners now. The extra layer of politics also comes into play. Most women lean liberal, and will not give a non-liberal guy a chance.

[Anonymous]

DS is a freshman. Don't think he is dating. Seems pretty busy with his clubs and his friends. One club has a social component to it. He plays pickleball, lifts and runs. Training for a marathon. Knows a few friends who are training for it too. His new thing is poker. Drinks every so often. Recently said he was kind of interested in a fraternity but was turned off by hazing. So, he didn't rush.

He loves college. Super happy with his choice.

[Anonymous]

My DD has sorority date functions. She sometimes brings a guy along, but often brings girl-friends that are not in her sorority. She dated a guy for a year (fresh-soph time frame). They broke up. She has a fun group of girl-friends, and they hang out with some guys too. No pressure. Just enjoying life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is hooking up and dating. Big college in the south.

Your kid tells you about their hookups?

DP:

Life 360 lets you know when your kid spends the night elsewhere.

Who the hell monitors their adult children on Life 360?!?! That is seriously dysfunctional.

Do you life 360 your spouse?
Would you keep track of location with your elderly parents?
Who the heck doesn't use technology to keep track of their family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to the population surveys from last year - 61% of undergraduate male students and 56% of undergraduate female students had not had PIV sex in the last 12 months.

And 56% of male undergrads and 53% of female undergrads had not had oral sex in the last 12 months.

The majority of those are virgins and have never had sex.

Of students who had had sex in the last 12 months, 69% of male undergrads and 71% of female undergrads had only had 1 partner during that time frame. 20% of male undergrads and 19% of female undergrads had 2-3 partners, 5% of male students had 4-6 partners and 4% of female students had 4-6 partners, 4% of male students had 7 or more partners and 3% of female students had 7 or more partners.

Accurate. They do not date around as much as college kids in the 90s, who had fewer sexual partners than the college students of the early 80s. Times change. Less casual sex is a good thing, for the most part.

And we had AIDS to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the hookups originate from parties? I feel like my kid can't figure out the scene. I don't think she's looking for hook-ups but she doesn't even talk to boys long enough (or ever) for anyone to proposition her. How does everyone actually meet to "hook-up?" Pls forgive these really strange questions. I would never breathe a word of this to my student. Just trying to understand the scene or how kids relate today. I did not live at school for most of college and it was a million years ago.

There is a HUGE difference between being asked out on a date and being propositioned at a party. #1 involves someone truly interested in your daughter, #2 involves someone having only one interest in her. I can't believe a mother would be curious as to how her daughter could cultivate getting propositioned in this way. Ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: The extra layer of politics also comes into play. Most women lean liberal, and will not give a non-liberal guy a chance.

I was with you... until here. Take it to reddit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to the population surveys from last year - 61% of undergraduate male students and 56% of undergraduate female students had not had PIV sex in the last 12 months.

And 56% of male undergrads and 53% of female undergrads had not had oral sex in the last 12 months.

The majority of those are virgins and have never had sex.

Of students who had had sex in the last 12 months, 69% of male undergrads and 71% of female undergrads had only had 1 partner during that time frame. 20% of male undergrads and 19% of female undergrads had 2-3 partners, 5% of male students had 4-6 partners and 4% of female students had 4-6 partners, 4% of male students had 7 or more partners and 3% of female students had 7 or more partners.

Accurate. They do not date around as much as college kids in the 90s, who had fewer sexual partners than the college students of the early 80s. Times change. Less casual sex is a good thing, for the most part.

Yes and no.

Unprotected sex isn’t a good thing.

But casual yet safe sex is a good thing.

While my kids are doing fine navigating dating, I’ve observed far too many socially awkward young adults who I suspect will remain single and childless forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is hooking up and dating. Big college in the south.

Your kid tells you about their hookups?

DP:

Life 360 lets you know when your kid spends the night elsewhere.

Who the hell monitors their adult children on Life 360?!?! That is seriously dysfunctional.

Do you life 360 your spouse?
Would you keep track of location with your elderly parents?
Who the heck doesn't use technology to keep track of their family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is hooking up and dating. Big college in the south.

Your kid tells you about their hookups?

DP:

Life 360 lets you know when your kid spends the night elsewhere.

Who the hell monitors their adult children on Life 360?!?! That is seriously dysfunctional.

Do you life 360 your spouse?
Would you keep track of location with your elderly parents?
Who the heck doesn't use technology to keep track of their family?

DP. Life360 my spouse? No. Why would I do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if kids reputations from high school, that are very easy to find out, especially if your kid goes to a large in-state school, might deter some, mostly young women, from being open to dating some guys.

My kid is a junior at a large VA university. These kids are all connected. Once she meets a kid from “X” high school, they can ask friends about him, google him, check instagram, etc…. Not sure if this is good or bad, but women tend to be more careful with partners now. The extra layer of politics also comes into play. Most women lean liberal, and will not give a non-liberal guy a chance.

Good God. None of this is healthy.