Hosting sleepover - how to manage bed wetting friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC had this issue until age 11 and his ped said it was not at all unusual. I did not discuss with other moms. He understood he needed to wear a pull-up under his loose-fitting pajamas and I gave him a bag for it and told him to bring it home. It was fine.

Yes, my son wanted to handle it discreetly so we approached it in a similar way. I would not have let him do a sleepover if he had been reluctant to use the pull-up, however.

I think this is the key. If a kid refuses to wear a pull-up, I would not allow them to go to a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

We've only done sleepovers with cousins thus far. But for what it's worth, not sure if this is just a difference between boys / girls or what...?

But the last sleepover we had here, I went downstairs to tell the two of them it was about time for bed, and our one kid that still bedwets was literally watching a movie in just a Hulk pull-up.

They (the kids) just don't care/it doesn't carry the same stigma it had when we were growing up.

[Anonymous]

Most kids aren’t even phased by the idea of another kid needing a nighttime pull-up. You don’t need to make it a big secret. There’s a good chance they will talk about it openly.

[Anonymous]

Similar question
My DS haven’t had an accident since August,
So he doesn’t wear them at home anymore. But since we are going out of town to relatives home should we wear them just in case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Similar question
My DS haven’t had an accident since August,
So he doesn’t wear them at home anymore. But since we are going out of town to relatives home should we wear them just in case?

If you want to use an abundance of caution and you have them available there is no harm in having him wear it. How old is DS?

[Anonymous]

I havent read all the replies. Does this child normally wear pull ups or will this be a one time thing for the sleepover?

My son just turned 8 and still wets the bed. He has been invited on a couple sleepovers so far. He still wants to go but I feel it would be best for everyone that he doesnt until he starts waking up dry. As of right now, its an every night occurrence.

I just wash his bedding because he doesnt like wearing a pull up. He says their not comfortable and itchy and ended up taking them off before he went to sleep. It would be nice if he would wear something to avoid having to deal with laundry first thing in the morning. Not to mention that he hates waking up wet(usually soaked) in the morning.

Barring sleepovers, any good tips on how to help someone that wont wear a pull up at home just because they arent comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I havent read all the replies. Does this child normally wear pull ups or will this be a one time thing for the sleepover?

My son just turned 8 and still wets the bed. He has been invited on a couple sleepovers so far. He still wants to go but I feel it would be best for everyone that he doesnt until he starts waking up dry. As of right now, its an every night occurrence.

I just wash his bedding because he doesnt like wearing a pull up. He says their not comfortable and itchy and ended up taking them off before he went to sleep. It would be nice if he would wear something to avoid having to deal with laundry first thing in the morning. Not to mention that he hates waking up wet(usually soaked) in the morning.

Barring sleepovers, any good tips on how to help someone that wont wear a pull up at home just because they arent comfortable.

Try different brands.

My same age son will wear them without complaint but he leaks through them 80% of the time so we also change sheets almost every single day. I dont care about the bed wetting but the laundry is pushing me over the edge!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I havent read all the replies. Does this child normally wear pull ups or will this be a one time thing for the sleepover?

My son just turned 8 and still wets the bed. He has been invited on a couple sleepovers so far. He still wants to go but I feel it would be best for everyone that he doesnt until he starts waking up dry. As of right now, its an every night occurrence.

I just wash his bedding because he doesnt like wearing a pull up. He says their not comfortable and itchy and ended up taking them off before he went to sleep. It would be nice if he would wear something to avoid having to deal with laundry first thing in the morning. Not to mention that he hates waking up wet(usually soaked) in the morning.

Barring sleepovers, any good tips on how to help someone that wont wear a pull up at home just because they arent comfortable.

Try different brands.

My same age son will wear them without complaint but he leaks through them 80% of the time so we also change sheets almost every single day. I dont care about the bed wetting but the laundry is pushing me over the edge!!!

He just needs to get used to the idea of wearing it. Kids get over their insecurities quickly and he will discover it will make his morning routine much easier. We also had issues with the pull-ups leaking and switched to regular side fastening diapers for overnight. If you tape them very loose he can still put it on like a pull-up and then you can adjust it for fit. We’ve had good luck with the Target diapers for overnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just wash his bedding because he doesnt like wearing a pull up. He says they’re not comfortable and itchy and ended up taking them off before he went to sleep. It would be nice if he would wear something to avoid having to deal with laundry first thing in the morning. Not to mention that he hates waking up wet(usually soaked) in the morning.

Barring sleepovers, any good tips on how to help someone that wont wear a pull up at home just because they arent comfortable.

If he’s complaining the pull-ups are itchy and uncomfortable then I would see if he’s more comfortable with a regular diaper. The way the pull-ups are manufactured they have a seam that some kids find irritating. We use Pampers Swaddlers and have never had any problems

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DC had this issue until age 11 and his ped said it was not at all unusual. I did not discuss with other moms. He understood he needed to wear a pull-up under his loose-fitting pajamas and I gave him a bag for it and told him to bring it home. It was fine.

Yes, my son wanted to handle it discreetly so we approached it in a similar way. I would not have let him do a sleepover if he had been reluctant to use the pull-up, however.

I think this is the key. If a kid refuses to wear a pull-up, I would not allow them to go to a sleepover.

+1 it is unbelievable to me that the mom thinks it is a real possibility that her daughter will either refuse to wear the pull up and wet the bed, or will stay up all night leaving you dealing with that as well. She needs to parent her child. The options are she comes up with a plan where her daughter will definitely wear the pull up OR she changes the night to a sleep-under until she is ready to cooperate. It is one thing if a child unexpectedly has an accident or something. It is quite another to put this on you so she doesn’t need to parent her daughter through this. All this gentle parenting and deferring to children is bananas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I havent read all the replies. Does this child normally wear pull ups or will this be a one time thing for the sleepover?

My son just turned 8 and still wets the bed. He has been invited on a couple sleepovers so far. He still wants to go but I feel it would be best for everyone that he doesnt until he starts waking up dry. As of right now, its an every night occurrence.

I just wash his bedding because he doesnt like wearing a pull up. He says their not comfortable and itchy and ended up taking them off before he went to sleep. It would be nice if he would wear something to avoid having to deal with laundry first thing in the morning. Not to mention that he hates waking up wet(usually soaked) in the morning.

Barring sleepovers, any good tips on how to help someone that wont wear a pull up at home just because they arent comfortable.

Try different brands.

My same age son will wear them without complaint but he leaks through them 80% of the time so we also change sheets almost every single day. I dont care about the bed wetting but the laundry is pushing me over the edge!!!

He just needs to get used to the idea of wearing it. Kids get over their insecurities quickly and he will discover it will make his morning routine much easier. We also had issues with the pull-ups leaking and switched to regular side fastening diapers for overnight. If you tape them very loose he can still put it on like a pull-up and then you can adjust it for fit. We’ve had good luck with the Target diapers for overnight.

Have him do the laundry. Not as a punishment but he can do his own laundry every day. May incentivize him To put up with the pull-up to avoid it.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine washing the bed and doing laundry every day. If he’s having accidents multiple times a week then he needs to wear something for bed. It’s the only way to keep the room from having a urine smell.

[Anonymous]

Op here - we had the sleepover and it was a great time. I spoke with her and mom before the sleepover so she knew it was completely fine. She changed after my daughter and was very comfortable. They took forever to fall asleep as is the case with a sleepover but then binned it when she woke up as I got my daughter to do a small morning chore. I'm really happy this wasn't a barrier as it was such a good growing up experience for them. My DD will be going to sleep over just before Christmas now. There really wasn't much to worry about and she wasn't as self conscious as I expected

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the others above. I would avoid hosting if an older child was still prone to bed wetting. Years ago, when my youngest was in preschool, a classmate soiled his pants at our house during a playdate. It dripped everywhere. I still have trauma from dealing with it. My own child wet the bed a few times before starting elementary school. I wouldn't have let my kid go to another person's house if that were still the case. Bed wetting is something that most kids will outgrow, but I wouldn't have accepted as the parent of the bedwetter (as in tell the kids it was a go) w/o clearing it first with the host.

You have "trauma" from helping a preschool age child clean up a bathroom accident? Hoo-boy. No wonder our elders make fun of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I havent read all the replies. Does this child normally wear pull ups or will this be a one time thing for the sleepover?

My son just turned 8 and still wets the bed. He has been invited on a couple sleepovers so far. He still wants to go but I feel it would be best for everyone that he doesnt until he starts waking up dry. As of right now, its an every night occurrence.

I just wash his bedding because he doesnt like wearing a pull up. He says their not comfortable and itchy and ended up taking them off before he went to sleep. It would be nice if he would wear something to avoid having to deal with laundry first thing in the morning. Not to mention that he hates waking up wet(usually soaked) in the morning.

Barring sleepovers, any good tips on how to help someone that wont wear a pull up at home just because they arent comfortable.

Try different brands.

My same age son will wear them without complaint but he leaks through them 80% of the time so we also change sheets almost every single day. I dont care about the bed wetting but the laundry is pushing me over the edge!!!

He just needs to get used to the idea of wearing it. Kids get over their insecurities quickly and he will discover it will make his morning routine much easier. We also had issues with the pull-ups leaking and switched to regular side fastening diapers for overnight. If you tape them very loose he can still put it on like a pull-up and then you can adjust it for fit. We’ve had good luck with the Target diapers for overnight.

How old is yours? Thanks for the tip. I am not sure how he will feel about wearing a diaper as opposed to a pull up. He is a great kid and doesnt lie so him telling me that they are itchy, its hard not to believe him.