Hosting sleepover - how to manage bed wetting friend

[Anonymous]

The only thing I'd do is put on a waterproof cover on the bed she's sleeping on. Otherwise, I'd do nothing. My kids are adults now and we had sleepovers all the time, two wet the bed.

[Anonymous]

When my kid’s bestie was going through this phase, his mom gave me a heads-up. At some point in the evening, I suggested “Hey, do you guys want to get into pajamas before you start the next movie? Larlo, you can change in the bathroom while DS changes in his room.”

I discreetly showed Larlo where the bathroom wastebasket was and said he could throw away anything he needed to in there, and I’d empty it right away.

Make sure to show Goodnight-wearing visitors *where* the bathroom trash bin is. Some kids just aren’t going to find it if it’s inside a cabinet or closet.

[Anonymous]

Curious if anyone just uses regular style side fastening diapers for their kids for overnight instead of the pull-ups style. We tried the pull-ups before but they leaked and the side fastening diapers seem to work much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not have the kid for a sleepover. That's how I'd manage it.

That’s not managing it. That’s just being a miserable person who’s too lazy to help with a solvable problem.

There are real underwear products for girls and bedwetting that look like normal underwear. . They have built in pads. I would use those and maybe use a thin incontinence pad for extra padding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not have the kid for a sleepover. That's how I'd manage it.

That’s not managing it. That’s just being a miserable person who’s too lazy to help with a solvable problem.

There are real underwear products for girls and bedwetting that look like normal underwear. . They have built in pads. I would use those and maybe use a thin incontinence pad for extra padding.

How is OP supposed to “use those?” She is not the one wetting the bed.

[Anonymous]

I think a just d who is willing to do a sleepover with a pull-up is pretty open about it...which is really great My kid would never have done it. I would be too concerned in this case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DC had this issue until age 11 and his ped said it was not at all unusual. I did not discuss with other moms. He understood he needed to wear a pull-up under his loose-fitting pajamas and I gave him a bag for it and told him to bring it home. It was fine.

Yes, my son wanted to handle it discreetly so we approached it in a similar way. I would not have let him do a sleepover if he had been reluctant to use the pull-up, however.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kid’s bestie was going through this phase, his mom gave me a heads-up. At some point in the evening, I suggested “Hey, do you guys want to get into pajamas before you start the next movie? Larlo, you can change in the bathroom while DS changes in his room.”

I discreetly showed Larlo where the bathroom wastebasket was and said he could throw away anything he needed to in there, and I’d empty it right away.

Make sure to show Goodnight-wearing visitors *where* the bathroom trash bin is. Some kids just aren’t going to find it if it’s inside a cabinet or closet.

Op here - I love this way of managing it and have suggested it to the friend's mom. I'll set up the bathroom to give a safe space but make sure she's reminded to put the underwear on, then I won't need to be less discreet with waterproof covers

I have a really good relationship with her and her daughter. She is lovely and just because she bed wets should not exclude her from activities other friends are starting to do. I think it is early to be having sleepovers, but she is very well behaved so will hopefully handle it well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not have the kid for a sleepover. That's how I'd manage it.

That’s not managing it. That’s just being a miserable person who’s too lazy to help with a solvable problem.

There are real underwear products for girls and bedwetting that look like normal underwear. . They have built in pads. I would use those and maybe use a thin incontinence pad for extra padding.

How is OP supposed to “use those?” She is not the one wetting the bed.

Since the other mother brought up the concern maybe the OP could recommend these type of underwear. The child would bring a change of clothing for sleep including the underwear made for bedwetting.

[Anonymous]

DS used a pullup at sleep overs and so did many of his friends. It was fine. The kids changed for bed in the bathroom, the kids using pullups put them on in private. Some kids brought their own bag to throw the pull up away in, some put it in the bathroom trash, which was fine because that is where my sons went.

We never had an accident by a kid that required any intervention on our part.

I know that it was multiple kids because hen DS was invited to a sleep over for a birthday party I reached out to the parents before I told DS about it. If the parents were not comfortable with the pull up, I would not have told DS about the party. The host told me I was the third parent to reach out about the same thing. when Ds had friends sleep over, their parents reached out to me.

This is pretty common and not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious if anyone just uses regular style side fastening diapers for their kids for overnight instead of the pull-ups style. We tried the pull-ups before but they leaked and the side fastening diapers seem to work much better.

We didn’t and none of DSs friends did. If your kid can put it on and off on their own, go for it. I am guessing that you are well aware that another parent is not going to put it on your kid. I have seen some crazy stuff posted before so I am willing to go with being Captain Obvious on this…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious if anyone just uses regular style side fastening diapers for their kids for overnight instead of the pull-ups style. We tried the pull-ups before but they leaked and the side fastening diapers seem to work much better.

We didn’t and none of DSs friends did. If your kid can put it on and off on their own, go for it. I am guessing that you are well aware that another parent is not going to put it on your kid. I have seen some crazy stuff posted before so I am willing to go with being Captain Obvious on this…

If you pretape the diaper they can put it on like underwear and it’s easy to adjust them afterwards. My kids don’t do sleepovers and haven’t had any issues with wearing a side fastening diaper for nighttime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not have the kid for a sleepover. That's how I'd manage it.

That’s not managing it. That’s just being a miserable person who’s too lazy to help with a solvable problem.

There are real underwear products for girls and bedwetting that look like normal underwear. . They have built in pads. I would use those and maybe use a thin incontinence pad for extra padding.

For some reason they no longer have them. I remember my daughter love them, because they were real underwear she just added a pad. It wasn't as noisy as a pull-up, and in the morning it was a pad, that was thrown away and not a whole pull-up. For some reason maybe because too much washing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a just d who is willing to do a sleepover with a pull-up is pretty open about it...which is really great My kid would never have done it. I would be too concerned in this case.

I am not sure why, but kids don't care anymore. it seems like they are okay that they have to wear a pull-up at night.

My daughter was talking to her friend during a sleepover, and when she was told she shouldn’t drink too much before bedtime, she said, ‘I can drink whatever I want because I wear pull-ups, so I’ll just wake up in a wet one... They were both in middle school......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a just d who is willing to do a sleepover with a pull-up is pretty open about it...which is really great My kid would never have done it. I would be too concerned in this case.

I am not sure why, but kids don't care anymore. it seems like they are okay that they have to wear a pull-up at night.

My daughter was talking to her friend during a sleepover, and when she was told she shouldn’t drink too much before bedtime, she said, ‘I can drink whatever I want because I wear pull-ups, so I’ll just wake up in a wet one... They were both in middle school......We always try limited drinks, because even tho she wear pull-ups at night, it wasn't the point.