Hosting sleepover - how to manage bed wetting friend

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

Because goodnites and similar products weren't widely available until the late 90s or early 2000s, Bedwetting has always been a common thing but there was so much stigma to it that no one talked about it.

No, it’s not common for children as old as 8 or 17 to still wet the bed. Some kids are bed wetters forever, but it’s not common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

Because goodnites and similar products weren't widely available until the late 90s or early 2000s, Bedwetting has always been a common thing but there was so much stigma to it that no one talked about it.

No, it’s not common for children as old as 8 or 17 to still wet the bed. Some kids are bed wetters forever, but it’s not common.

I was a scout leader for 10 years and with an average of 15 scouts there was always 1 or 2 that had issues at night, I would say that's fairly common.

[Anonymous]

My DC had this issue until age 11 and his ped said it was not at all unusual. I did not discuss with other moms. He understood he needed to wear a pull-up under his loose-fitting pajamas and I gave him a bag for it and told him to bring it home. It was fine.

[Anonymous]

If your child still wets the bed, they should not be sleeping over anyone’s house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child still wets the bed, they should not be sleeping over anyone’s house.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

Because goodnites and similar products weren't widely available until the late 90s or early 2000s, Bedwetting has always been a common thing but there was so much stigma to it that no one talked about it.

No, it’s not common for children as old as 8 or 17 to still wet the bed. Some kids are bed wetters forever, but it’s not common.

Its is common. Its not the majority but out of 10 kids, 1 will wet until late elementary. That means probably 2 kids in each classroom. So being friends with someone who wets the bed in elementary school is common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

Because goodnites and similar products weren't widely available until the late 90s or early 2000s, Bedwetting has always been a common thing but there was so much stigma to it that no one talked about it.

No, it’s not common for children as old as 8 or 17 to still wet the bed. Some kids are bed wetters forever, but it’s not common.

I was a scout leader for 10 years and with an average of 15 scouts there was always 1 or 2 that had issues at night, I would say that's fairly common.

You’d be wrong. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/bed-wetting/symptoms-causes/syc-20366685

After age 7, a “small” number of children still wet the bed and you should have medical intervention to understand why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

Because goodnites and similar products weren't widely available until the late 90s or early 2000s, Bedwetting has always been a common thing but there was so much stigma to it that no one talked about it.

No, it’s not common for children as old as 8 or 17 to still wet the bed. Some kids are bed wetters forever, but it’s not common.

Its is common. Its not the majority but out of 10 kids, 1 will wet until late elementary. That means probably 2 kids in each classroom. So being friends with someone who wets the bed in elementary school is common.

Lotta bedwetters in this thread!

By age 10, bedwetting happens only to about 5% of kids. It’s not 1 in 10.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15075-bedwetting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are hosting our first sleepover for DD8 with her best friend coming over. I got a call from best friend's mom saying that her daughter wets the bed, and she will be fine if she wears something at night. She will send a couple of night pull ups, but wanted to let me know as her daughter might be too embarrassed to put them on and then feel worse by either trying to stay awake all night or actually wetting her pyjamas.

How do I manage it, I am not going to tell my DD but I guess are they obvious, is there some things I should do to make her feel better or comfortable? Do I talk to her to make sure she's not going to try and stay awake, or would that make her upset? DD was dry before 3, so I've not had to manage this for a long time?

This is her first sleepover either at her own house or someone else's and I have a really good relationship with her, she's so friendly and polite. I don't want her to be in tears and not wanting more sleepovers as I assume there's nothing she can do about it.

OP, you should handle it by making an explicit plan with the mom and then having the mom share that plan with her daughter. Like tell the mom you will send the daughter into the bathroom to get ready for bed, and she should take her suitcase or whatever in there so she can privately put on her pull up. You can also let her know that there will be a garbage can under the sink where she can put it during the night or in the morning if it is wet. Have the mom emphasize that you will keep this information private from your daughter, but it's no big deal to you and you will help her if she has any questions and you won't be upset at all if the pullup leaks or anything like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe the mother is putting this on you. Her child is not ready for a sleepover. These kids need to be able to handle their pull-up.

+1000

Yeah, I have a lot of empathy for the kid but I don't think she sounds ready for a sleepover...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

Because goodnites and similar products weren't widely available until the late 90s or early 2000s, Bedwetting has always been a common thing but there was so much stigma to it that no one talked about it.

No, it’s not common for children as old as 8 or 17 to still wet the bed. Some kids are bed wetters forever, but it’s not common.

Yes, in the 1990s I had a sleepover with my friend and I woke up to soaked bed, then I noticed she wet the bed .... I was like what the ****.
and we both laughed, I never told anyone but I guess they didn't have pull-ups for big girls back then. We still had sleepovers after that but its the only time I remember she had an accident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

There is.

My kids were both bed wetters and DH was as well. I think there was more stigma before. I also imagine it’s grown as a problem because kids’ diets aren’t as healthy and it’s very linked to constipation.

[Anonymous]

Mom of a kid who had this issue. He is on the spectrum and apparently it’s pretty common with these kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many kids wear nighttime pull-ups these days it doesn’t have the social stigma it used to. Just try not to call it a diaper and they will be fine. I have babysat for boys had them up until the fifth grade and it’s not that uncommon.

Why is this? Seems like something's wrong here.

There is.

My kids were both bed wetters and DH was as well. I think there was more stigma before. I also imagine it’s grown as a problem because kids’ diets aren’t as healthy and it’s very linked to constipation.

Yep. And more overweight kids with sleep apnea that also contributes to bed wetting.

[Anonymous]

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By age 10, bedwetting happens only to about 5% of kids. It’s not 1 in 10.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15075-bedwetting

5% IS [u][i]a huge amount of kids.

By comparison, 4.2% of kids ever get chickenpox, ever.

https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/66/wr/mm6648a7.htm

There is a reason that they sell night pull-ups for older school-aged kids in practically every supermarket in this country. There's no reason the kid the OP is talking about should be kept from a sleepover because of something that is really not a big deal, in the grand scheme of things.