Would you marry a bi curious man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I would. Just because a man is bi does not mean he can't be monogamous. Straight men get married and still cheat so what are there excuses? Mostly everyone can look at someone else who there attacted to and not cheat so why are bi-men the odds ones out?

And has anyone ever heard of pegging. I would happily oblige my spouse if they were bi and wanted to be pegged or suck on a dildo.

One of the most homophobic men I dated was a republican and he hated gays.
He wanted to be pegged himself including when he was in my P… And put things in my a…s .
I always wondered if he was a closeted bi.
We broke up because I wasn’t comfortable with so much a..l action both ways

[Anonymous]

It’s the “curious” part of the equation that’s concerning. I think most people are bi, under the right circumstances. That’s not the issue. Curious means that part of their life is open for exploration. I do not want to be in an open relationship, with a man or woman. I’m ready to settle, and I want the same from my partner.

[Anonymous]

Nope he’s secretly gay, but getting comfortable enough now to let it out

[Anonymous]

I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

[Anonymous]

Not a chance on God's green earth.

[Anonymous]

Why do you associate being bi-sexual with cheating?
If cheating is your main issue, a monosexual man could cheat on you. What difference does it make if a man cheats on you with another man or a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you associate being bi-sexual with cheating?
If cheating is your main issue, a monosexual man could cheat on you. What difference does it make if a man cheats on you with another man or a woman?

It does expand the number of people with whom you might have to compete for your spouse's attraction.

It also indicates an openness to new experiences that could work against monogamy.

I personally don't think the risk is of cheating (so many people cheat, I think you have to look at other qualities to sense whether a partner would be loyal). However, based on my own experience, a bisexual person is significantly more likely to want to open a relationship to other partners. I don't have any interest in that, so I would be wary of bisexual partners for that reason.

It makes sense that people would choose to date someone who has similar sexual interests and tendencies to their own. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that, it likely results in more successful matches regardless of your sexual orientation. Why would you want to be with someone who didn't share your sexual interests and priorities? Makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Gross 🤮

[Anonymous]

Do you honestly think a bisexual man who dates women is going to admit it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

This. Exactly. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

You really are biphobic. You just don't know it. Plus you're way, way too into sex. You have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

You really are biphobic. You just don't know it. Plus you're way, way too into sex. You have issues.

DP. Have you told the person making direct references to sexual acts the same? No.

You’re nuts. And hererophobic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s fully content with monogamy. Or would you feel it’s too risky? Any stories?

No. I’m sorry. No homo for me.

[Anonymous]

I dated a man who was bi curious.

He was way more than curious. He wanted sex clubs and MMF threesomes and tinder sex. Pegging.

It isn’t in any way my thing, I broke up with him quickly. Never again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s fully content with monogamy. Or would you feel it’s too risky? Any stories?

I wouldn't but hope they find a likeminded partner not someone who is accepting it to save the relationship but internally feeling compromised.