Would you marry a bi curious man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s fully content with monogamy. Or would you feel it’s too risky? Any stories?

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You can't trust them with any gender?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

You really are biphobic. You just don't know it. Plus you're way, way too into sex. You have issues.

You’re an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots and lots of homophobes on DCUM.

Not wanting to be with a bi person <> homophobe.

Would you say that a gay person is a heterophobe for not wanting to have sex with the opposite gender?

This^. Everyone is entitled to their own preferences.

[Anonymous]

Men are more likely to date/marry a bi-curious woman. For some reasons we men aren't necessarily worried that she may leave us for another woman.

A straight woman on the other hand, she will take a pass. Maybe it's because women fear that straight men can just leave them at any time and now he also likes men? Nope they are going to take a pass.

I dated a bi curious girl in college. I even thought about marrying her. I don't see a straight woman ever marrying a bi-curious man. Of course you can find outliers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell no. Marriage is a massive risk for women, and I wouldn't take it with anyone who is not certain they only want to have sex with me for the rest of their life.

You are right to be worried because even if he is straight he will start looking at younger women when you get old and if the opportunity presents itself he will suddenly have ED with you but be rock hard with the younger one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No because I think that bi-curious men are often gay and trying to repress it.

How about women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

You really are biphobic. You just don't know it. Plus you're way, way too into sex. You have issues.

DP. Have you told the person making direct references to sexual acts the same? No.

You’re nuts. And hererophobic.

Look, just think about what she says and what she doesn’t say. She doesn’t say she can only be attracted to guys who would only be into HER — and not other women — because she knows she such a person doesn’t exist. There’s no one on the planet of any sexual orientation who can only be, to use her word, “hot” for just one person ever.

What she DOES, say, is that she COULDN’T be attracted to any guy who could be “hot” not just for another woman but also another man. In fact, she says it’s a “turn off.”

If that’s not homophobic, what is? Turn off is a close relative of “disgust.”

[Anonymous]

I don't have an issue with bi men. However we men are more likely to get HIv when we have unprotected sex with other men. So a bi "curious" man is more likely to engage in secret sex with another man. So he will be putting his female partner at greater risk of getting HIV if he is engaging in unprotected sex with another man.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with gay people and their sex life - don't ask, don't tell, don't make it in your face. I will not think about it. I wish them happiness and I can have normal non-sexual relationship with them.

I am a heterosexual happily married monogamous woman.

BUT, the thought of having a DH who has ever had gay sex is absolutely vomit-inducing for me. I cannot have an intimate relationship with such a man. It makes my skin crawl.

[Anonymous]

Hon, he’s gay.

[Anonymous]

I will admit that I am ignorant about these issues.

A few months ago when I was in LA I saw this incredibly gorgeous "woman". She was very feminine, soft, feminine voice. Everything about her was feminine . It turned out she is a transgender woman. I could not tell.

Does it make it me bi?

Are men who date trans women straight or bi?

[Anonymous]

No issue dating a bisexual man who is interested in commitment with me/monogamy. The curious part is the issue--I don't want to be married with kids and then suddenly my spouse is feeling like they missed out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are more likely to date/marry a bi-curious woman. For some reasons we men aren't necessarily worried that she may leave us for another woman.

A straight woman on the other hand, she will take a pass. Maybe it's because women fear that straight men can just leave them at any time and now he also likes men? Nope they are going to take a pass.

I dated a bi curious girl in college. I even thought about marrying her. I don't see a straight woman ever marrying a bi-curious man. Of course you can find outliers.

This. A bi person has double the chance of cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will admit that I am ignorant about these issues.

A few months ago when I was in LA I saw this incredibly gorgeous "woman". She was very feminine, soft, feminine voice. Everything about her was feminine . It turned out she is a transgender woman. I could not tell.

Does it make it me bi?

Are men who date trans women straight or bi?

If they have not had the surgery, and still have a pen*s, and you are turned on by that, then you are bi, or possibly gay.

If you didn't know they had a P before being attracted to them, then I would not say you were bi since you really thought that person was a female, a very feminine one at that.

[Anonymous]

There was a point in time in our world when men routinely had sex with other men. And there were no labels attached to them.

Why are we so concerned with labeling people? When my son told me he was gay I wasn't worried about him, I was worried about people who he doesn't even care about and who feel the need to slap a label on him.