Would you marry a bi curious man?

[Anonymous]

I watch lesbian porn and I wonder if women love watching gay porn as much as men enjoy lesbian porn.

[Anonymous]

No, but I wasn’t given a choice. Found out my husband was bi after he was “being careful” and secretly sleeping with other men and caught a STD. He was shocked he other married man he was with was cheating too. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I watch lesbian porn and I wonder if women love watching gay porn as much as men enjoy lesbian porn.

No. We don't. Maybe it is different for younger women, but I am in my late 40s and have never heard from any woman around my age that she watches gay porn or finds man-on-man sex arousing in any way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I watch lesbian porn and I wonder if women love watching gay porn as much as men enjoy lesbian porn.

No. We don't. Maybe it is different for younger women, but I am in my late 40s and have never heard from any woman around my age that she watches gay porn or finds man-on-man sex arousing in any way.

Late 40s woman here. I said this on the prior page but I love watching gay porn. I would consider a mono relationship with a bi man, but I’m bisexual myself

[Anonymous]

My 40 something niece who for years was an exotic dancer who posted nearly naked pics of herself all over social media looking like a cheap hooker just told me that she now identifies as bi gender (not, non-binary, bi gender) and basically considers herself as a gay male inside the body of a woman. So I guess her husband is bi now, since he’s ok with all of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I watch lesbian porn and I wonder if women love watching gay porn as much as men enjoy lesbian porn.

No. We don't. Maybe it is different for younger women, but I am in my late 40s and have never heard from any woman around my age that she watches gay porn or finds man-on-man sex arousing in any way.

Late 40s woman here. I said this on the prior page but I love watching gay porn. I would consider a mono relationship with a bi man, but I’m bisexual myself

It is one of the top search terms for women for online porn.

But please understand it’s just fantasy, like all the people who search “BDSM” or “ménage a trois” but could never actually do that in real life. Fantasy is merely fantasy; nothing more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I watch lesbian porn and I wonder if women love watching gay porn as much as men enjoy lesbian porn.

No. We don't. Maybe it is different for younger women, but I am in my late 40s and have never heard from any woman around my age that she watches gay porn or finds man-on-man sex arousing in any way.

Late 40s woman here. I said this on the prior page but I love watching gay porn. I would consider a mono relationship with a bi man, but I’m bisexual myself

It is one of the top search terms for women for online porn.

But please understand it’s just fantasy, like all the people who search “BDSM” or “ménage a trois” but could never actually do that in real life. Fantasy is merely fantasy; nothing more.

Cite? I just don't believe it.

[Anonymous]

No, I’d be totally turned off by that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I watch lesbian porn and I wonder if women love watching gay porn as much as men enjoy lesbian porn.

No. We don't. Maybe it is different for younger women, but I am in my late 40s and have never heard from any woman around my age that she watches gay porn or finds man-on-man sex arousing in any way.

Late 40s woman here. I said this on the prior page but I love watching gay porn. I would consider a mono relationship with a bi man, but I’m bisexual myself

It is one of the top search terms for women for online porn.

But please understand it’s just fantasy, like all the people who search “BDSM” or “ménage a trois” but could never actually do that in real life. Fantasy is merely fantasy; nothing more.

Cite? I just don't believe it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not until he explored his bi-curious side.
No. No way.

This.

I was deeply involved with someone that wasn’t sure. I asked him to go find out because he needed to know. I’m not sure what happened. We did eventually split for other reasons and he’s with a woman now. I hope he had the opportunity to experience what he was clearly needing.

I would marry a bi man, however I think monogamy would not be our agreement. Communication and emotional honesty def would.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't understand the accusations that if someone would date or marry a bisexual (or "bi-curious") person, that makes them biphobic. This is a very strange interpretation of what it means to be phobic of different sexualities. Who you date and marry is deeply personal, perhaps the most personal, individual thing any of us do. As long as you aren't hating or discriminating against bi people in the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you aren't attracted to bi people.

Is it "heterophobic" for a gay person to decline to date someone who identified as hetero, or homophobic for a hetero person to decline to date a gay person? No, that is nonsensical.

For me as a hetero woman, I find a bi man who is attracted to men as well as women to be a turn off. I only want to be with a man who is just attracted to women. It's not about fear of him straying (of course, straight men also cheat) but about my sexual interests and expression. I want a man who will be exclusively interested in my particular brand of feminine, womanly sexuality. That's hot to me. Knowing a guy also gets off on masculine sexual energy, that he is also into male bodies, just shuts me down. It's not for me.

I have a number if bisexual friends and colleagues, I like them and don't think they are secretly gay. But I wouldn't date them, just as I wouldn't date a gay person or an asexual person. It's not my particular brand of tea.

Being tolerant and open minded does not mean you are open to dating/marrying/having sex with literally any person who might be interested in you. Everyone has preferences and we should all be respectful of other people's sexual choices even when their choice is not to have sex with us.

I agree with everything you’ve said here, but I have a question.

How do you know that you have “a number of bisexual friends and colleagues?” Do people really admit it to you?

NP. Yes. Times are different. I’m thankful the people in my life aren’t closeted. I’m not sure if it’s so much people are “admitting” to their love lives that they’re sharing about them.

I have a few friends that I’m pretty sure are bi but we’ve never had a TALK about what were personally in to. They’ll mention they went on a date and then I’ll find out it’s someone of the same sex - or not when they drop a name.

I’m Gen x and I’m guessing it’s more common with younger generations to be more out - dunno.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it really depends on the individual person! But my gut reaction is that we might not be sexually compatible and that's really important to me.

[Anonymous]

No. I worked with a lot of gay men at one point, and all the stories they told about sleeping with "straight" married men was eye-opening.

[Anonymous]

Hard-pass NO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I worked with a lot of gay men at one point, and all the stories they told about sleeping with "straight" married men was eye-opening.

Yeah, as a wife of one of those men it’s devastating when you find out