Husband told me I don't have enough friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

I am an introvert and I think she is the odd one out. And not because she doesn't like socializing but because she is rude, inflexible, and not even willing to do something that makes her DH happy.

He planned a couple's trip TO A PLACE SHE WOULD LIKE and she still isn't happy bc she'd have to grab lunch and go to a museum with a woman she doesn't know for a total of four hours. Ridiculous.

Her DH seems like a jerk, based on his response, but if she's always like this, I get why he snapped. He shouldn't have made the comment about not having anyone to help, but also...would OP even care? She seems like she doesn't mind being alone.

OP, no woman is an island.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

And this is why I don’t want friends. You all are so mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

And this is why I don’t want friends. You all are so mean.

Sorry you can't handle anyone telling you the truth about your behavior. Is your husband ever allowed to disagree with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

It's just so bizarre. I posted upthread, I recently went on a trip with my bf's friends and their girlfriends. The other two women were close (they live in the same city; bf and I don't) and I wasn't part of the clique. Plus I'm introverted to begin with. But I tried because my bf has been friends with them since law school. I went out for wine with them one night, shopping one afternoon...and then some days I did my own thing or did something with my boyfriend.

It's not weird for someone to ask their significant other to try to be a part of their friend group. He's asking her to have dinner with these women once a month, not be their best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

And this is why I don’t want friends. You all are so mean.

I wasn't mean to you in my first response. I very clearly said I am an introvert, I understand, what your husband said was shitty, I don't love all of my boyfriend's friends' wives and girlfriends. Not my current bf, but an ex had a friend whose wife was literally the dumbest woman I ever met. She once asked why a synagogue was always so busy on Saturday nights but not Sunday morning. She was braindead, and I still socialized with her occasionally because it mattered to my ex.

I started getting short with you when you were curt to everyone, threatened to kill yourself (????) and just flat out refused to see it from your husband's perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

It's just one person being a troll.

Op I think you compromise you go sometimes not all the times.


ANd also why isn't he making friends with the friends you already have>


COuple friends would make more since to make friend with an activity you both enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Whiny trolls are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

It's just one person being a troll.

Op I think you compromise you go sometimes not all the times.


ANd also why isn't he making friends with the friends you already have>


COuple friends would make more since to make friend with an activity you both enjoy.

It's not, because I'm posting and other people who are not me are posting.

Obviously the answer is she needs to compromise but she won't even do that. Read her responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

It's just one person being a troll.

Op I think you compromise you go sometimes not all the times.


ANd also why isn't he making friends with the friends you already have>


COuple friends would make more since to make friend with an activity you both enjoy.

It’s definitely not just 1 person, everyone finds her annoying AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

I am an introvert and I think she is the odd one out. And not because she doesn't like socializing but because she is rude, inflexible, and not even willing to do something that makes her DH happy.

He planned a couple's trip TO A PLACE SHE WOULD LIKE and she still isn't happy bc she'd have to grab lunch and go to a museum with a woman she doesn't know for a total of four hours. Ridiculous.

Her DH seems like a jerk, based on his response, but if she's always like this, I get why he snapped. He shouldn't have made the comment about not having anyone to help, but also...would OP even care? She seems like she doesn't mind being alone.

OP, no woman is an island.

he didn't discuss it with her beforehand. you don't just sig your spouse up for things and expect them to go along with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

It's just one person being a troll.

Op I think you compromise you go sometimes not all the times.


ANd also why isn't he making friends with the friends you already have>


COuple friends would make more since to make friend with an activity you both enjoy.

It’s definitely not just 1 person, everyone finds her annoying AF.

No they don't but thanks for revealing your middle school mean girl mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

It's just one person being a troll.

Op I think you compromise you go sometimes not all the times.


ANd also why isn't he making friends with the friends you already have>


COuple friends would make more since to make friend with an activity you both enjoy.

It’s definitely not just 1 person, everyone finds her annoying AF.

Which is why I DON’T ATTEND THESE ACTIVITIES. People don’t want me around so that’s fine. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

I am an introvert and I think she is the odd one out. And not because she doesn't like socializing but because she is rude, inflexible, and not even willing to do something that makes her DH happy.

He planned a couple's trip TO A PLACE SHE WOULD LIKE and she still isn't happy bc she'd have to grab lunch and go to a museum with a woman she doesn't know for a total of four hours. Ridiculous.

Her DH seems like a jerk, based on his response, but if she's always like this, I get why he snapped. He shouldn't have made the comment about not having anyone to help, but also...would OP even care? She seems like she doesn't mind being alone.

OP, no woman is an island.

he didn't discuss it with her beforehand. you don't just sig your spouse up for things and expect them to go along with it

No. She said so herself, he proposed it to her. Meaning it was not set in stone but he had done some basic digging/planning and was asking if that's something she'd be interested in. I suspect he planned it specifically somewhere she'd enjoy to entice her and it still wasn't good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

It's just one person being a troll.

Op I think you compromise you go sometimes not all the times.


ANd also why isn't he making friends with the friends you already have>


COuple friends would make more since to make friend with an activity you both enjoy.

It’s definitely not just 1 person, everyone finds her annoying AF.

Which is why I DON’T ATTEND THESE ACTIVITIES. People don’t want me around so that’s fine. Geez.

I mean honestly if you're this insufferable IRL, no, I wouldn't want to hang out with you. But it would be important to my husband for the sake of his friendship with your husband so I would make an effort.