Husband told me I don't have enough friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert too but honestly you sound inflexible and snotty. It's not the same for him to go out with couples and his wife stays at home constantly. You may find out that you DO get along with some of them, I have and they are now good friends.

Honestly, you two never should have gotten married. He's going to resent you more and more. Id think a lot before having kids.

Yeah, well judging from the responses I'm a horrible person / bad partner, etc., so yes, I am considering just leaving as clearly everyone would be better off w/o me.

OK, drama llama. Grow up. I pity your DH.

She's beyond ridiculous. A grown adult behaving like a bratty teenager is such a bad look.

There is something going on with her for sure. Hard to tell what, could be anything.

Depression
Insecurity
Immigrant, cultural issues
Low IQ
Anxiety
Jealousy / weight appearance issues
Narcissistic / borderline tendencies

Impossible to tell from an unreliable narrator on the internet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has ZERO friends. Let me repeat again he has ZERO friends. His friends are my friends' husbands. My husband is an introvert, but he is very pleasant around people. He goes with me to most gatherings and do enjoy himself. Sometimes he just wants to be home, wich is fine.

I have always known this about him. I love him and I will never change him. He is amazing. I don't feel the burden on taking on everything we are a true partnership. He comes up with amazing date nights. He is always enthusiastic to be with me..and the sex is amazing. He just turned 50 and we have been married for 15 years. I am 42.

Your husband compromises and you do too. He comes along and is nice and friendly and you are fine with him staying home if he wants to. THIS is a healthy relationship between an introvert and extrovert.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think either of you are crazy, per se, but he seems to lack empathy/the ability to put himself in your shoes and you're a bit of a wet blanket. And I say this as an introvert.

I don't like all of my boyfriend's friends' wives/girlfriends either, but I can make conversation with them for two hours over dinner. We recently went on a trip with two of his friends and their girlfriends' who live in another city. So, the other two girlfriends are already good friends who see each other several times a week. That was a little hard to break into but I made an effort and didn't complain. Definitely preferred to be around my boyfriend, since I knew him best, but I made the effort.

You don't have to become best friends with any of these women, but I think part of being a good partner is making an effort to get along with their friends. (Provided, you know, they aren't bad people who influence your husband to do bad things.) A weekend trip is usually like, 36-48 hours when you account for travel time. Then you add in meals as a foursome, alone time in the afternoon...you would literally only have to hang out with this woman alone for a few hours Saturday afternoon. You can't do that?

I'm assuming given the demographics of this board you are at least in your early to mid-30s and you're still complaining about not liking other women because they were mean to you in high school? A time when everyone is notoriously mean to each other? Give me a break.

HOWEVER, and this is a big however, your husband is a d-i-c-k. "You're going to wish you had more friends when we have kids and no one will help you?" Wtf is that supposed to mean? Dude, you're her husband, YOU are supposed to help her.

Tell me you're unmarried and without children, without telling me you're unmarried and without children.

I wrote that post and yes, I am unmarried without children. I understand that having mom friends is important. I still don't like the way he phrased that.

Interesting. How come you are on DCUM? No judgement. After 2016, even MAGA from around the country came to DCUM in full force, so I understand that people will find this website.

I moved to DC ten years ago and I found it at some point after I moved here. I don't really remember how/why. I think I was googling something about places to work and found it? Anyway, I don't really respond to parenting questions for obvious reasons lol. I mostly stay on this board and beauty/fashion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert too but honestly you sound inflexible and snotty. It's not the same for him to go out with couples and his wife stays at home constantly. You may find out that you DO get along with some of them, I have and they are now good friends.

Honestly, you two never should have gotten married. He's going to resent you more and more. Id think a lot before having kids.

Yeah, well judging from the responses I'm a horrible person / bad partner, etc., so yes, I am considering just leaving as clearly everyone would be better off w/o me.

OMFG. If you're threatening to off yourself because people online - who were responding to a question YOU asked - said you were being immature, you're even crazier than I thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert too but honestly you sound inflexible and snotty. It's not the same for him to go out with couples and his wife stays at home constantly. You may find out that you DO get along with some of them, I have and they are now good friends.

Honestly, you two never should have gotten married. He's going to resent you more and more. Id think a lot before having kids.

Yeah, well judging from the responses I'm a horrible person / bad partner, etc., so yes, I am considering just leaving as clearly everyone would be better off w/o me.

OMFG. If you're threatening to off yourself because people online - who were responding to a question YOU asked - said you were being immature, you're even crazier than I thought.

Can you imagine her poor husband trying to have any discussion with her where his opinion differs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert too but honestly you sound inflexible and snotty. It's not the same for him to go out with couples and his wife stays at home constantly. You may find out that you DO get along with some of them, I have and they are now good friends.

Honestly, you two never should have gotten married. He's going to resent you more and more. Id think a lot before having kids.

Yeah, well judging from the responses I'm a horrible person / bad partner, etc., so yes, I am considering just leaving as clearly everyone would be better off w/o me.

OMFG. If you're threatening to off yourself because people online - who were responding to a question YOU asked - said you were being immature, you're even crazier than I thought.

Can you imagine her poor husband trying to have any discussion with her where his opinion differs?

I mean, I don't think he's a peach either based off of what he said, but I understand both parties were frustrated.

[Anonymous]

I am introvert and I don't have any friends. I'm currently single, but with my ex girlfriend who was more extroverted i absolutely spent time with her and her friends.

It's true we introverted people are happy being by ourself, staying home, but when you have a partner you MUST compromise. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to spend time with them just because they claim to be introverted? If you can't compromise with this basic thing just stay single. Humans are social. We introverted people are an exception and we are the ones who need to compromise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has ZERO friends. Let me repeat again he has ZERO friends. His friends are my friends' husbands. My husband is an introvert, but he is very pleasant around people. He goes with me to most gatherings and do enjoy himself. Sometimes he just wants to be home, wich is fine.

I have always known this about him. I love him and I will never change him. He is amazing. I don't feel the burden on taking on everything we are a true partnership. He comes up with amazing date nights. He is always enthusiastic to be with me..and the sex is amazing. He just turned 50 and we have been married for 15 years. I am 42.

Your husband compromises and you do too. He comes along and is nice and friendly and you are fine with him staying home if he wants to. THIS is a healthy relationship between an introvert and extrovert.

+1. My parents have the same dynamics. They have been married for 40 years. Introvert/extrovert can actually have an amazing marriage if they are both willing to compromise. I have seen more issues with extrovert/extrovert to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Have a child and make pregnancy/Mom friends.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a child and make pregnancy/Mom friends.

They are not on the same page. They need to fix the marriage before they get a child into it. The OP does not seem mature enough emotionally to have a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

thank you. I asked that this thread be deleted. I’m probably in the wrong in some areas but my feelings are hurt and I’m frustrated. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

She doesn't spend that much time socializing!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

thank you. I asked that this thread be deleted. I’m probably in the wrong in some areas but my feelings are hurt and I’m frustrated. Oh well.

You are such a baby. Please don't have children until you seriously mature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."