Teen girls and casual sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost all kids have sex in high school unless things have changed dramatically in the past few decades. I went to college a virgin and was seriously the only one of all of my female friends. I doubt it has changed. Parents just don't typically know.

I think the best thing to do is to be sure there is birth control and condoms available and lots of education about consent and saying no. The sex will happen regardless of if its casual or with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

In 2017, only 55% had sex by age 18, and I don’t think that number has gone up. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/pressroom/nchs_press_releases/2017/201706_NSFG.htm

[Anonymous]

Covid lockdown has had the spectacular benefit of reducing drug use and sexual promiscuity among the young adults. Overdoses are way down in this age group, as is sexual promiscuity - it’s a silver lining!

[Anonymous]

https://aibm.org/commentary/gen-zs-romance-gap-why-nearly-half-of-young-men-arent-dating/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing empowering about abortion. I’ll never forget one young woman (speaking from experience) saying:
“Your life will never be the same.”

Heartbreaking.

I had one. Zero regrets and zero impact on my life. Not everyone is that dramatic

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are pathetic. So many of these beach moms are just voyeurs into teens' lives under the guise of "chaperone". You are not a chaperone - just a busybody.

Precisely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quick question--do you mean that they are having literal sexual intercourse casually? I recall there being a lot of "hooking up" in high school (and at beach week) that did not involve literal sex. Are you just assuming it's actual sex? I am wondering if times have changed that much...

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I "hooked up" a bunch in college, but did not have sex, including oral sex until I was 20/21 in a serious relationship. I was the last of my college friends to have sex, most had by the time they started Freshman year or else shortly thereafter. This was 25 years ago.

Not sure guys would consider this "hooking up".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quick question--do you mean that they are having literal sexual intercourse casually? I recall there being a lot of "hooking up" in high school (and at beach week) that did not involve literal sex. Are you just assuming it's actual sex? I am wondering if times have changed that much...

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I "hooked up" a bunch in college, but did not have sex, including oral sex until I was 20/21 in a serious relationship. I was the last of my college friends to have sex, most had by the time they started Freshman year or else shortly thereafter. This was 25 years ago.

Geography makes a different. Deep south and I too waited till middle of college but was the only one of my friends who did. Lots of sex in the deep south, beginning at about age 14. My friend group did pretty much exclusively sleep with long term boyfriends in high school and college or, very occasionally, with boys they wanted to be long term boyfriends. We did a lot of necking and fooling around with boys we "kind of" liked but it never went that far. This was the early 90s. Oral would have always happened after actual sex in long term relationships.

I had one friend who did the causal sex thing on 2 or 3 occasions in early college. She was playing a part of the bad, fun girl though and it was very exploitative in my opinion, not at all empowering. She also was my only friend who had a drinking problem.

[Anonymous]

Why is this thread only about the girls??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quick question--do you mean that they are having literal sexual intercourse casually? I recall there being a lot of "hooking up" in high school (and at beach week) that did not involve literal sex. Are you just assuming it's actual sex? I am wondering if times have changed that much...

+1

I "hooked up" a bunch in college, but did not have sex, including oral sex until I was 20/21 in a serious relationship. I was the last of my college friends to have sex, most had by the time they started Freshman year or else shortly thereafter. This was 25 years ago.

Not sure guys would consider this "hooking up".

Yes that is not really “hooking up” by definition for either boys or girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm chaperoning senior beach week this week (half way done) with a dozen girls and it's interesting to me to see what is going on from a romantic standpoint. one girls has a boyfriend and is out with him each evening, and about half the remainder are home with me most nights and the other half appear to be having a whole lot of casual sex. I know what's going on for the first time in my parenting experience because everyone is tipsy and they share with friends and then they share with me. Conversation here is probably 1000 times more open than it ever is at home.

I'm having a hard time not being disturbed by some of this as the boys have apparently made it very clear that it's only sex. However, then I wonder if maybe it's all just good fun and maybe it's positive and empowering that these girls are doing what they want and what feels good. Thoughts?

I find it hard to believe they would tell you anything. If they do it is just High school gossip. If you know they are “tipsy” and are the chaperone that is problematic at best.

[Anonymous]

Wait for college where a ménage a trois is the new trend.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a candy dish of condoms on the coffee table? Not kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this thread only about the girls??

Do another one about slutty boys. They deserve their own thread. Boys who use girls for sex are losers.

[Anonymous]

Right, it's gross that this mom started a thread about just teen girls and casual sex. She's trying to act all cool and nonjudgmental about it, but clearly she is not. Also, how she's hovering about and gathering info when these teens are all tipsy is disgusting.

Btw, OP, the same kids who are opening up to you are then talking to each other about how weird it is that you are so involved...get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Covid lockdown has had the spectacular benefit of reducing drug use and sexual promiscuity among the young adults. Overdoses are way down in this age group, as is sexual promiscuity - it’s a silver lining!

That’s mostly because of phones, not just COVID times.