Teen girls and casual sex

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Anonymous wrote:Its beach week and they are adults.

Not always. Some seniors can be 17. Even so 17 and 18 year old are still kids.

No they are not kids.

Not in the eyes of the law.

Birth control people sex Ed etc.. open conversations with your kids boys and girls.

Well, the law was put in place so that we could send them to war not because they are actually adults.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing empowering about abortion. I’ll never forget one young woman (speaking from experience) saying:
“Your life will never be the same.”

Heartbreaking.

I had one. Zero regrets and zero impact on my life. Not everyone is that dramatic

Many factors go in to how one feels about their abortion(s) as time goes on. Consider yourself lucky.

You never know how you will feel down the road. Not to mention, you sound like you are in denial to feel nothing.

Life goes on for these girls.

Exactly.

Is there anyone here (born and raised in the USA only), who never had any casual s*x in college?? (which normally begins at age 18, btw).

I didn’t, and lots of my friends didn’t - plenty did - but there is a big group who didn’t.

I am not judgemental about my friends who had casual sex - the majority of the time I think they felt like it was their choice and that felt empowering, but few thought the sex was good (usually bad) so ultimately not that satisfying.

I don’t think having casual sex should be normalized- it’s actually not the “typical” experience or even the experience of the majority of teenagers or college age kids.

[Anonymous]

Here is the standard definition of chaperone: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/chaperone

Had I send my kids somewhere with a chaperone, I would be very angry to learn that the chaperone was allowing illegal behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only in America.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing empowering about abortion. I’ll never forget one young woman (speaking from experience) saying:
“Your life will never be the same.”

Heartbreaking.

I had one. Zero regrets and zero impact on my life. Not everyone is that dramatic

Many factors go in to how one feels about their abortion(s) as time goes on. Consider yourself lucky.

You never know how you will feel down the road. Not to mention, you sound like you are in denial to feel nothing.

Life goes on for these girls.

Exactly.

Is there anyone here (born and raised in the USA only), who never had any casual s*x in college?? (which normally begins at age 18, btw).

I didn’t, and lots of my friends didn’t - plenty did - but there is a big group who didn’t.

I am not judgemental about my friends who had casual sex - the majority of the time I think they felt like it was their choice and that felt empowering, but few thought the sex was good (usually bad) so ultimately not that satisfying.

I don’t think having casual sex should be normalized- it’s actually not the “typical” experience or even the experience of the majority of teenagers or college age kids.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how nobody is giving a thought to the emotional effect on the boys. Like not one single thought.

boys are horrible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:boys are horrible

Some are some aren't same for girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quick question--do you mean that they are having literal sexual intercourse casually? I recall there being a lot of "hooking up" in high school (and at beach week) that did not involve literal sex. Are you just assuming it's actual sex? I am wondering if times have changed that much...

Yes- they are having sex, as in PIV.

It’s not unusual for girls as young as middle school to have performed BJs on boys long before beach week / spring break; a bj is not sex and it’s no big deal (whether you view it that way or not).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the casual sex I had at that age felt empowering and some of it just felt dumb. I did and do wish i'd had more input from a caring adult.

I don’t get the word empowering with regard to having sex. It means the process of becoming more confident and more strong, controlling your life.

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Why is this directed to the girls, OP? The boys at our HS are the biggest trash dix, not the girls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why beach week is such a bad idea.

If they are enjoying the sex, then why is it a bad idea?

Half the girls are enjoying the sex. Maybe. The rest are blackout drunk and won’t remember what happened in the morning. Some are drunk but still aware and are talked into it. Some think they have a relationship with this boy but he has different ideas.

I cannot believe that all of you are so clueless.

[Anonymous]

Wait so it’s still ok for teen guys to have casual sex and not teen girls? You think the girls are having sex to find boyfriends? Hell no lol

Sex and organs are pleasure filling and stress release. Casual sex happens. As long as it is consentual, who cares?!??! Who doesn’t want to get eaten out and gave some fun. Stop clutching your pearls.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the casual sex I had at that age felt empowering and some of it just felt dumb. I did and do wish i'd had more input from a caring adult.

I don’t get the word empowering with regard to having sex. It means the process of becoming more confident and more strong, controlling your life.

DP.

Ok then “liberating,” as in exercising autonomy over one’s body and choices.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why beach week is such a bad idea.

If they are enjoying the sex, then why is it a bad idea?

Half the girls are enjoying the sex. Maybe. The rest are blackout drunk and won’t remember what happened in the morning. Some are drunk but still aware and are talked into it. Some think they have a relationship with this boy but he has different ideas.

I cannot believe that all of you are so clueless.

sex = violence

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe any reasonable adult would chaperone and condone underaged drinking. I’m not a pearl clutcher either. I know what happens at beach week. I went to beach week myself, which is why there is no chance on Earth that I would call myself a chaperone in that setting. I can also say with 100% certainty that even years ago when we went to beach week if anyone’s parent was “chaperoning” us they wouldn’t have tolerated or condoned the behaviors.

If you’re supposed to be the adult in the situation then be the adult. Don’t gossip about it like you’re one of the girls. You’re not supposed to be their friend down there. You’re supposed to actually chaperone.