Teen girls and casual sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sick of beach week. Wish it were a banned topic or limited to one thread.

Someone forcing you to read then?

[Anonymous]

I love how nobody is giving a thought to the emotional effect on the boys. Like not one single thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how nobody is giving a thought to the emotional effect on the boys. Like not one single thought.

Because it usually goes like this- the boys who engage in this stuff will gab about it to their friends and half of the friends will find it cringey and secretly talk crap about them. Boys can have bad reputations too but most won't even realize it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm chaperoning senior beach week this week (half way done) with a dozen girls and it's interesting to me to see what is going on from a romantic standpoint. one girls has a boyfriend and is out with him each evening, and about half the remainder are home with me most nights and the other half appear to be having a whole lot of casual sex. I know what's going on for the first time in my parenting experience because everyone is tipsy and they share with friends and then they share with me. Conversation here is probably 1000 times more open than it ever is at home.

I'm having a hard time not being disturbed by some of this as the boys have apparently made it very clear that it's only sex. However, then I wonder if maybe it's all just good fun and maybe it's positive and empowering that these girls are doing what they want and what feels good. Thoughts?

It isn’t empowering but yeah, a lot of little sluts and trollops are into casual sex these days.

You know the stats show teens this age have way less sex and fewer partners than pretty much any previous generation going back to (and including) boomers, right?

These old people pearl clutching about hookup culture statistically had more sexual partners than kids today.

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone is pearl clutching. I think it's interesting to consider whether this is degrading or empowering or what society/group think is in 2025.

And whether or not it's less common than 30 years ago doesn't mean it's not going on.

[Anonymous]

I guess I am naive (my oldest is a little younger), but is this real, the part about parents sending their kids to a beach house with a case of alcohol? And a chaperone who allows underage drinking? And turns a blind eye to kids having sex presumably under her roof?

I was a teenager once and know drinking/sex happens, but not in this facilitated way. Are other parents really okay with this while their kids are still living at home?

I would be fine with my kid going away for a weekend with friends at that age - this just seems nuts to me.

Can any of the “supply case of alcohol parents” speak up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of these girls will reflect later, even years later, and realize they weren't fully consenting or capable of consent. It's sad.

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[Anonymous]

Almost all kids have sex in high school unless things have changed dramatically in the past few decades. I went to college a virgin and was seriously the only one of all of my female friends. I doubt it has changed. Parents just don't typically know.

I think the best thing to do is to be sure there is birth control and condoms available and lots of education about consent and saying no. The sex will happen regardless of if its casual or with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Quick question--do you mean that they are having literal sexual intercourse casually? I recall there being a lot of "hooking up" in high school (and at beach week) that did not involve literal sex. Are you just assuming it's actual sex? I am wondering if times have changed that much...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost all kids have sex in high school unless things have changed dramatically in the past few decades. I went to college a virgin and was seriously the only one of all of my female friends. I doubt it has changed. Parents just don't typically know.

I think the best thing to do is to be sure there is birth control and condoms available and lots of education about consent and saying no. The sex will happen regardless of if its casual or with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Yes, things have dramatically changed. Gen Z'ers don't have as much sex as the older generations since dating in general has declined. There are studies about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how nobody is giving a thought to the emotional effect on the boys. Like not one single thought.

So tell us your thoughts. What is the emotional effect on boys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a chaperone and I didn't supply any alcohol. not a drop. The parents sent their kids with cases and cases and bottles. So much.


the chaperones are here in case of emergency only and to ensure the kids have regular meals. I am not here to police adult children besides requiring that everyone come home by 1am. most houses do not have any curfew and other houses have no adult on site at all.

policing behavior is on the parents who sent their kids. I am not going to wrestle a drink from an adult. if you sent your kid but they still require an adult to ensure they abstain from drinking or from sleeping around when drunk then why aren't you here or why didn't you teach your child how to behave to your standard?

There are probably 100 houses of kids. Every public, private and Catholic from the DMV and many houses from most schools.

Regular meals?! That’s not a chaperone, that’s hired help. And the parents send alcohol? In my day, we had to beg someone’s older sibling to hook us up. These kids are so freaking spoiled, I can’t imagine having to be in college with these kids who don’t know how to anything by themselves.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are pathetic. So many of these beach moms are just voyeurs into teens' lives under the guise of "chaperone". You are not a chaperone - just a busybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a chaperone and I didn't supply any alcohol. not a drop. The parents sent their kids with cases and cases and bottles. So much.


the chaperones are here in case of emergency only and to ensure the kids have regular meals. I am not here to police adult children besides requiring that everyone come home by 1am. most houses do not have any curfew and other houses have no adult on site at all.

policing behavior is on the parents who sent their kids. I am not going to wrestle a drink from an adult. if you sent your kid but they still require an adult to ensure they abstain from drinking or from sleeping around when drunk then why aren't you here or why didn't you teach your child how to behave to your standard?

There are probably 100 houses of kids. Every public, private and Catholic from the DMV and many houses from most schools.

Regular meals?! That’s not a chaperone, that’s hired help. And the parents send alcohol? In my day, we had to beg someone’s older sibling to hook us up. These kids are so freaking spoiled, I can’t imagine having to be in college with these kids who don’t know how to anything by themselves.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quick question--do you mean that they are having literal sexual intercourse casually? I recall there being a lot of "hooking up" in high school (and at beach week) that did not involve literal sex. Are you just assuming it's actual sex? I am wondering if times have changed that much...

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I "hooked up" a bunch in college, but did not have sex, including oral sex until I was 20/21 in a serious relationship. I was the last of my college friends to have sex, most had by the time they started Freshman year or else shortly thereafter. This was 25 years ago.