Are men ugly or am I bi?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older men usually don't take care of themselves.

Try younger men.

Especially teeth, nasty feet with long toenails and tufts of hair growing from ears.

OP here: I am indeed attracted more to early 40s men. But they all have emotional or character features that push me away. Men are not interesting to me as romantic partners, I don't feel I can rely on them, share life with a male etc. It's mot just sexual. But my sexual desire is very dependent on how they make me feel in the relationship

This is very understandable. You've tried this with men and had not great experiences. But you haven't with women, so it's easy to idealize them and their character and emotions. So maybe you should try dating women?

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read the whole thread but it’s well established that men secret a scent after 40 that makes them sexually repulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older men usually don't take care of themselves.

Try younger men.

Especially teeth, nasty feet with long toenails and tufts of hair growing from ears.

OP here: I am indeed attracted more to early 40s men. But they all have emotional or character features that push me away. Men are not interesting to me as romantic partners, I don't feel I can rely on them, share life with a male etc. It's mot just sexual. But my sexual desire is very dependent on how they make me feel in the relationship

This is very understandable. You've tried this with men and had not great experiences. But you haven't with women, so it's easy to idealize them and their character and emotions. So maybe you should try dating women?

I haven't dated women but I have very good long term women friends. They certainly provided more support, positive emotions and quality time than any men I ever dated. I don't feel sexual towards any of my girlfriends but I wonder if I met a woman and she was both to me: an intimate partner AND the best friend I could rely on?

Going down on a woman, sleeping with her is not repulsive to me: actually, I phantasize about it often

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

Thank you, I will check it out. I actually already met a woman who is gay, I think. She suggested that we meet but I never followed through and regret it now. Not sure if she would remember me a year after...

Knowing gay women, she'd not only remember but find it kind of intriguing. Hit her up and report back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

Thank you, I will check it out. I actually already met a woman who is gay, I think. She suggested that we meet but I never followed through and regret it now. Not sure if she would remember me a year after...

Knowing gay women, she'd not only remember but find it kind of intriguing. Hit her up and report back!

All right, I'll write her. What do you know about gay women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

Thank you, I will check it out. I actually already met a woman who is gay, I think. She suggested that we meet but I never followed through and regret it now. Not sure if she would remember me a year after...

Knowing gay women, she'd not only remember but find it kind of intriguing. Hit her up and report back!

All right, I'll write her. What do you know about gay women?

I know from experience that gay women are very accepting and nonjudgmental when it comes to dating and trying things out with straight acting women. Just don't lead the conversation with wanting to "experiment" so she doesn't feel used or taken advantage of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

Thank you, I will check it out. I actually already met a woman who is gay, I think. She suggested that we meet but I never followed through and regret it now. Not sure if she would remember me a year after...

Knowing gay women, she'd not only remember but find it kind of intriguing. Hit her up and report back!

All right, I'll write her. What do you know about gay women?

I know from experience that gay women are very accepting and nonjudgmental when it comes to dating and trying things out with straight acting women. Just don't lead the conversation with wanting to "experiment" so she doesn't feel used or taken advantage of.

What shall I say about currently dating a man? I do like him, although he doesn't meet all my needs

[Anonymous]

OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

Thank you, I will check it out. I actually already met a woman who is gay, I think. She suggested that we meet but I never followed through and regret it now. Not sure if she would remember me a year after...

Knowing gay women, she'd not only remember but find it kind of intriguing. Hit her up and report back!

All right, I'll write her. What do you know about gay women?

I know from experience that gay women are very accepting and nonjudgmental when it comes to dating and trying things out with straight acting women. Just don't lead the conversation with wanting to "experiment" so she doesn't feel used or taken advantage of.

What shall I say about currently dating a man? I do like him, although he doesn't meet all my needs

Personally I assume everyone I'm casually dating is also talking to other people, so I don't bring it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

I mean, I would swipe left on a dude looking that way, if I came across such a profile. Don’t care much of him otherwise. Just wonder how come most women find him attractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

It's not odd if you're not straight! OP if you really want to test things out New York isn't that far away from here. The gay and bisexual female scene is much bigger and better than in DC. Take a weekend trip to some lesbian bars in the next couple of months. Go find your Gigi Hadid! Q

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

It's not odd if you're not straight! OP if you really want to test things out New York isn't that far away from here. The gay and bisexual female scene is much bigger and better than in DC. Take a weekend trip to some lesbian bars in the next couple of months. Go find your Gigi Hadid! Q

Which bars would you recommend there ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

It's not odd if you're not straight! OP if you really want to test things out New York isn't that far away from here. The gay and bisexual female scene is much bigger and better than in DC. Take a weekend trip to some lesbian bars in the next couple of months. Go find your Gigi Hadid! Q

Which bars would you recommend there ?

Not even joking, use Yelp. There's totally different vibes and scenes and you'll need to use personal preference to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

It's not odd if you're not straight! OP if you really want to test things out New York isn't that far away from here. The gay and bisexual female scene is much bigger and better than in DC. Take a weekend trip to some lesbian bars in the next couple of months. Go find your Gigi Hadid! Q

Which bars would you recommend there ?

It's not a bar, but Skirt Club has monthly private events in Manhattan that are really fun. It's super friendly to newcomers as well.