Are men ugly or am I bi?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was with you until this wanting to kiss women.
It takes time to find someone attractive. Give them a chance and you may learn to love the way they look more and more. Well, got to be a little bit attractive at first.
I get those out of shape 30 year olds telling me that they love older women, but I prefer the more fit ones in their 40s or 50s. The younger seem chubby because their lifestyle.
The older ones seem to eat better and have physically demanding jobs which I find more exciting.

You mean, I shall give women or men a chance ? Are you a woman or a man? I’m attracted the most to very fit but curvy 40s women with smart faces. The body needs to be full, eg nice hips and boobs for me to want touch her. Not as much attracted to younger 20s women they barely have tits, they are too thin in my taste. Favorite feminine types - Monica Belucci, Scarlett Johansson

Figure out how to explore your attraction to women. Perhaps online or at a gay bar?

Obviously, you should not sleep with men (or anyone else) you do not desire.

[Anonymous]

OP, please talk to your Ob. She’ll know more than dcum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman in mid 40s. Slim, pretty face, get plenty of dates with professional men and almost everyone wants to see me again. However, I’m having trouble even to decide whom I like or attracted enough at least to sleep with. Men tell me at dates they were dating 20-30 yo women before, but they look ugly and totally un..able to me. Big bellies, sweaty etc. When I look at profiles of men on dating apps 90% look repulsive and ugly to me. I do go out and sleep now with a man who is 58 and is very fit (“ripped” biker).

At the same time I found myself often checking out good looking, proportional women at my gym’s changing room. Much higher number of women appear attractive to me. I look at them and want to touch their hair or privates, kiss them. I didn’t have these desires before.

What’s going on? Am I bisexual? Gay? I was married for 19 years, never slept with a woman. Closer to the end of my marriage I didn’t want to sleep with exH. His smell was repelling, even the leather seats in his car after his jogging workouts.

I wonder if other women in their 40s also find most middle age men sexually repulsive. What’s going on with me ? Can middle age hormonal changes make a woman gay or bisexual ?

Oh my.... I think you might be bi or gay.

I'm a woman in my mid 40s and I'm still very attracted to men... My husband and also other men I encounter. Like, I have elaborate fantasies about them and feel physically flustered in the presence of men I'm attracted to. Have never fantasized about a woman.

Same. I notice an attractive woman but it's men I want to kiss and couple with.

[Anonymous]

Older men usually don't take care of themselves.

Try younger men.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are bi.

[Anonymous]

Can someone please tell me where these gyms are that are full of women? Most gyms I've been to it's 75-85% men on any given day and the only time a good number of women show up is for Zumba classes. It's very rare that I see women going on with heavy weights. On those rare occasions the women are extremely fit.

[Anonymous]

OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

[Anonymous]

Go on your dating app of choice and start talking to women. See what happens. Or Doublelist if you want to be trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older men usually don't take care of themselves.

Try younger men.

Especially teeth, nasty feet with long toenails and tufts of hair growing from ears.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The wanting to touch and kiss them has me at yep you are into women. But you are comparing pumpkins to apples here by your physical descriptions.

Ignore PP, you are allowed to not be attracted to gross dudes.

I didn't say she needed to be attracted to gross dudes anymore than a fit dude needs to be atracted to a gross women. I said that being interested in women doesn't you need to think all men are ugly. Do you think all gay men think all women are hideous and ugly? You can be attracted to who you want, without putting down an entire sex.

OP here: I find unattractive most fit men as well. My exH was very fit, he did martial arts. It’s the facial expressions, egocentrism, the way he communicated, smelled (sone aggressive chemical smell after workouts) in combination of that made me not want him.
I’m turned off by sweaty fit men in the gym. Sweaty women in sauna make want to touch them….

What does it matter to you ?
You can be attracted to whoever, but they have to be attracted to you too.

You are making banal obvious statements. I do go on dates with men who would be perceived attractive by most women. They all dated much younger women. I don’t find myself attracted to them at all. I currently see a sports magazine looking man, we have sex. But the number of men I would find myself wanting sex with is may 1–3 per year. Whereby with the women, I find many of them sexually attractive and would want yo sleep with them

Another obvious statement,
Go out with women and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me where these gyms are that are full of women? Most gyms I've been to it's 75-85% men on any given day and the only time a good number of women show up is for Zumba classes. It's very rare that I see women going on with heavy weights. On those rare occasions the women are extremely fit.

It's not DMV but another large metropolitan area, an expensive central gym. In the weights room yes it's mostly men; but 80% of fitness classes attendees are women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older men usually don't take care of themselves.

Try younger men.

Especially teeth, nasty feet with long toenails and tufts of hair growing from ears.

OP here: I am indeed attracted more to early 40s men. But they all have emotional or character features that push me away. Men are not interesting to me as romantic partners, I don't feel I can rely on them, share life with a male etc. It's mot just sexual. But my sexual desire is very dependent on how they make me feel in the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP this is extremely common for women to start questioning their sexuality in their 40s, especially after a divorce. There's even a subreddit about this phenomenon called r/latebloomerlesbians you should check out. Despite the name, it's all mostly questioning and bi women going through the exact same thing you did.

Thank you, I will check it out. I actually already met a woman who is gay, I think. She suggested that we meet but I never followed through and regret it now. Not sure if she would remember me a year after...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me where these gyms are that are full of women? Most gyms I've been to it's 75-85% men on any given day and the only time a good number of women show up is for Zumba classes. It's very rare that I see women going on with heavy weights. On those rare occasions the women are extremely fit.

Yes, I'm one of those fit women in the weights room. I'm from athletic family: was doing multiple sports throughout life, my child is a college athlete. Most men in gym are not anywhere near my athletic form (even those 5-10 years younger than me).

[Anonymous]

Women generally look better than men. This a recent trend of the past few thousand years.