Husband pressuring me to quit job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work a very mentally stressful job that my husband has been pressuring me to quit. I have been complaining but all I want is supportive and someone to listen to me. He wants to talk action and have me quit. It's now a constant topic he brings us. What do I do?

Find someone else to vent to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
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Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Yeah, that's a bit scary, to be honest. If he wanted a stay at home wife, he shouldn't have married someone who wants to work, and he needs to accept that you aren't going to change that.

Actually this makes perfect sense. OP doesn’t want to work, but she doesn’t want to take ownership of the fact that she doesn’t want to work, so she deliberately married a guy who wants a SAHM and she is deliberately goading him into “pressuring” her to quit her job. Then when she inevitably quits she can pretend that she is an independent #girlboss at heart and her controlling husband *made* her quit.

This is so far off base it’s laughable. I want to work and have no desire to quit. DH still married me. He wants more traditional marriage but understands I’m not the stay at home type. I need an identity outside of the home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
Share less with him or
Find a new job..

Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Yeah, that's a bit scary, to be honest. If he wanted a stay at home wife, he shouldn't have married someone who wants to work, and he needs to accept that you aren't going to change that.

Actually this makes perfect sense. OP doesn’t want to work, but she doesn’t want to take ownership of the fact that she doesn’t want to work, so she deliberately married a guy who wants a SAHM and she is deliberately goading him into “pressuring” her to quit her job. Then when she inevitably quits she can pretend that she is an independent #girlboss at heart and her controlling husband *made* her quit.

And I don’t do the stupid girl boss stuff. So pathetic and weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
Share less with him or
Find a new job..

Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Yeah, that's a bit scary, to be honest. If he wanted a stay at home wife, he shouldn't have married someone who wants to work, and he needs to accept that you aren't going to change that.

Actually this makes perfect sense. OP doesn’t want to work, but she doesn’t want to take ownership of the fact that she doesn’t want to work, so she deliberately married a guy who wants a SAHM and she is deliberately goading him into “pressuring” her to quit her job. Then when she inevitably quits she can pretend that she is an independent #girlboss at heart and her controlling husband *made* her quit.

And I don’t do the stupid girl boss stuff. So pathetic and weird.

So in this creative writing project why did YOU marry HIM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
Share less with him or
Find a new job..

Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Hahahah I guarantee you will be a SAHM within a year of the baby’s arrival. His new pressuring tactic will be to do nothing and make you do everything.

Or maybe her husband will tell her to give the baby up for adoption if she complains for five minutes.

Who knows?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
Share less with him or
Find a new job..

Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Yeah, that's a bit scary, to be honest. If he wanted a stay at home wife, he shouldn't have married someone who wants to work, and he needs to accept that you aren't going to change that.

Actually this makes perfect sense. OP doesn’t want to work, but she doesn’t want to take ownership of the fact that she doesn’t want to work, so she deliberately married a guy who wants a SAHM and she is deliberately goading him into “pressuring” her to quit her job. Then when she inevitably quits she can pretend that she is an independent #girlboss at heart and her controlling husband *made* her quit.

And I don’t do the stupid girl boss stuff. So pathetic and weird.

So in this creative writing project why did YOU marry HIM?

There is no creative writing project. People on here are weird and crazy judgmental.

I married him because I loved. All marriages are give and take and realizing what you will put up with or you’re willing to look past. He looked past wanting a wife that stays home and married me. I looked past stuff about him because I loved him enough that those things didn’t matter to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
Share less with him or
Find a new job..

Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Hahahah I guarantee you will be a SAHM within a year of the baby’s arrival. His new pressuring tactic will be to do nothing and make you do everything.

Or maybe her husband will tell her to give the baby up for adoption if she complains for five minutes.

Who knows?

You guys are wild and crazy with your delusional and self limited theories. My husband would never suggest giving our child up for adoption.

[Anonymous]

Not only is he trying to help you, he is probably very concerned about the baby. Daily stress and unhappiness will affect the baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound pathetic. He asks how your day is. Every day you say it's awful. He suggests you quit. How exactly is that pressuring you? I'm starting to think this is either a troll or you're just a complete helpless moron.

He brings it up daily, even when I don’t complain. Tells me how life will be much easier and he feels worried about me. That is a form of pressuring.

Do you think he wants you to stay home with the baby? I feel like these conversations might be feeling different knowing you have a baby coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not only is he trying to help you, he is probably very concerned about the baby. Daily stress and unhappiness will affect the baby.

I bet if he read this thread he’d be concerned enough about the baby to suggest that maybe OP should work MORE. And then they can hire a full time nanny or something who isn’t completely insane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you afford to quit your job?
Share less with him or
Find a new job..

Yes. We have plenty of savings and he makes majority of our money. We have side investments.

My husband always wanted a wife that stayed home. He wanted me to quit work once we married. He accepted that I wanted to work. I feel like now is his time to push for me to be home.

Hahahah I guarantee you will be a SAHM within a year of the baby’s arrival. His new pressuring tactic will be to do nothing and make you do everything.

Or maybe her husband will tell her to give the baby up for adoption if she complains for five minutes.

Who knows?

You guys are wild and crazy with your delusional and self limited theories. My husband would never suggest giving our child up for adoption.

He may if he realizes how immature and crazy you are. At least he wouldn't want you to stay at home anymore. You definitely don't seem smart enough to be solely responsible for raising a kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not only is he trying to help you, he is probably very concerned about the baby. Daily stress and unhappiness will affect the baby.

I bet if he read this thread he’d be concerned enough about the baby to suggest that maybe OP should work MORE. And then they can hire a full time nanny or something who isn’t completely insane.

How is op insane?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

Wait is your “complaining” mentioning that a patient worsened? If so he really sucks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

Wait is your “complaining” mentioning that a patient worsened? If so he really sucks.

Last week I had a hard week and cried when I got home. It was super emotional for me. He just told me to quit so I don’t have to put myself through that. No real support or empathy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

Wait is your “complaining” mentioning that a patient worsened? If so he really sucks.

Last week I had a hard week and cried when I got home. It was super emotional for me. He just told me to quit so I don’t have to put myself through that. No real support or empathy.

Your story has changed at least 3 times about what type of complaining you do.