Husband pressuring me to quit job

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like my wife. Maybe do some self reflection and ask yourself why you are torturing and not only making your life miserable but his. He is trying to guide you toward sanity. This is about you not working, it’s about you voluntarily harming yourself and your marriage. Would you sit idly by and watch your husband harm himself? Maybe he loves you a cares about you. He may not be saying that but I can almost guarantee you that is where he is coming from.

FYI nothing is going to change or get better about the job. Stop expecting pushing on expecting it to get better.

That’s interesting.
It sounds to me like he is blowing her off and telling her to quit complaining.
Like it’s not worth his time to listen and come up with a real solution.

I’m mean, what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?

Once they are born, kids aren't voluntary. A job is a a choice, ie voluntary.

Well, kids aren’t optional for you. But people put their kids up for adoption or in foster care every day.

OP has made it clear that quitting her job and being a SAHP isn’t an option for her.

I was responding to a the PP who asked "...what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?"

I am the one who said OP sounds a lot like my wife. I never stated or eluded to the fact that OP should become a stay at home mom. I do think she should quit.. AND FIND ANOTHER JOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey everyone. My husband and I talked. We had a good heart to heart conversation. We are fine. I will continue to work until I can’t.

I’m a blunt person. I never lied. I said I complain daily and that’s after he asks how my day went. I had a tough week the other week and was super emotional and lost it. Pregnancy has made me super emotional. It’s very foreign because I was someone who never cried in like a decade.

I love my job. It’s very tough but someone has to do these jobs. I’m a pa in an oncology practice. It’s very hard at times but I’m a nurturer. I have always been drawn to help others. I’ve been in the same job for 8 years and love it. I never used to complain but pregnancy has made me a super emotional person.

I have an awesome husband and I’m super lucky for him. He treats me so well and I treat him just as well.

The work is admirable a great. You have a spouse and kid. Your mental and emotional health is important to them and they deserve the best version of you. Regardless of how much you love something or enjoy, you immediate family should take priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like my wife. Maybe do some self reflection and ask yourself why you are torturing and not only making your life miserable but his. He is trying to guide you toward sanity. This is about you not working, it’s about you voluntarily harming yourself and your marriage. Would you sit idly by and watch your husband harm himself? Maybe he loves you a cares about you. He may not be saying that but I can almost guarantee you that is where he is coming from.

FYI nothing is going to change or get better about the job. Stop expecting pushing on expecting it to get better.

That’s interesting.
It sounds to me like he is blowing her off and telling her to quit complaining.
Like it’s not worth his time to listen and come up with a real solution.

I’m mean, what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?

Once they are born, kids aren't voluntary. A job is a a choice, ie voluntary.

Well, kids aren’t optional for you. But people put their kids up for adoption or in foster care every day.

OP has made it clear that quitting her job and being a SAHP isn’t an option for her.

I was responding to a the PP who asked "...what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?"

I am the one who said OP sounds a lot like my wife. I never stated or eluded to the fact that OP should become a stay at home mom. I do think she should quit.. AND FIND ANOTHER JOB.

No one telling OP to quit, including her husband, is telling her to FIND ANOTHER JOB.
She’s 19 weeks pregnant, and her husband wants her quit to SAH with the baby.

Also, you can just say “find another job” if that’s what you mean. The quitting part is implied.

[Anonymous]

Could your husband be coming from a place of pure concern that your job is possibly affecting your quality of life?
Or do you suspect he has a motive for wanting you to quit your job?

I would look at these things initially beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like my wife. Maybe do some self reflection and ask yourself why you are torturing and not only making your life miserable but his. He is trying to guide you toward sanity. This is about you not working, it’s about you voluntarily harming yourself and your marriage. Would you sit idly by and watch your husband harm himself? Maybe he loves you a cares about you. He may not be saying that but I can almost guarantee you that is where he is coming from.

FYI nothing is going to change or get better about the job. Stop expecting pushing on expecting it to get better.

That’s interesting.
It sounds to me like he is blowing her off and telling her to quit complaining.
Like it’s not worth his time to listen and come up with a real solution.

I’m mean, what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?

Once they are born, kids aren't voluntary. A job is a a choice, ie voluntary.

Well, kids aren’t optional for you. But people put their kids up for adoption or in foster care every day.

OP has made it clear that quitting her job and being a SAHP isn’t an option for her.

I was responding to a the PP who asked "...what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?"

I am the one who said OP sounds a lot like my wife. I never stated or eluded to the fact that OP should become a stay at home mom. I do think she should quit.. AND FIND ANOTHER JOB.

No one telling OP to quit, including her husband, is telling her to FIND ANOTHER JOB.
She’s 19 weeks pregnant, and her husband wants her quit to SAH with the baby.

Also, you can just say “find another job” if that’s what you mean. The quitting part is implied.

She a PA, she can find another job. I didn’t state which order she should go, she can find another job and then quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like my wife. Maybe do some self reflection and ask yourself why you are torturing and not only making your life miserable but his. He is trying to guide you toward sanity. This is about you not working, it’s about you voluntarily harming yourself and your marriage. Would you sit idly by and watch your husband harm himself? Maybe he loves you a cares about you. He may not be saying that but I can almost guarantee you that is where he is coming from.

FYI nothing is going to change or get better about the job. Stop expecting pushing on expecting it to get better.

That’s interesting.
It sounds to me like he is blowing her off and telling her to quit complaining.
Like it’s not worth his time to listen and come up with a real solution.

I’m mean, what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?

Once they are born, kids aren't voluntary. A job is a a choice, ie voluntary.

Well, kids aren’t optional for you. But people put their kids up for adoption or in foster care every day.

OP has made it clear that quitting her job and being a SAHP isn’t an option for her.

I was responding to a the PP who asked "...what do you do if your kids are causing your wife emotional and physical pain? Kick them out?"

I am the one who said OP sounds a lot like my wife. I never stated or eluded to the fact that OP should become a stay at home mom. I do think she should quit.. AND FIND ANOTHER JOB.

No one telling OP to quit, including her husband, is telling her to FIND ANOTHER JOB.
She’s 19 weeks pregnant, and her husband wants her quit to SAH with the baby.

Also, you can just say “find another job” if that’s what you mean. The quitting part is implied.

She a PA, she can find another job. I didn’t state which order she should go, she can find another job and then quit.

Pp here. I agree with you. I can also think of ten other things she can do other than do exactly what she is doing or quit her job and SAH.

Isn’t it interesting that the only solution her DH can think of is the one he wants her to do?

[Anonymous]

Your 19 weeks pregnant and super stressed. Not good for the baby OP. Wake up