Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?

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Anonymous wrote:I think marriage as an institution is likely on the way out, and more something that will be a rarity in the future rather than the norm. So while I have noticed this as a trend, it worries me exactly zero. The idea that everyone is supposed to get married is pretty crazy, anyway

I disagree with this. I think marriage will always be around and there are so many benefits with having a healthy marriage. However, while I hope my kids get into health marriages, I'd rather they be single than endure a bad marriage and breakup. My husband and I are both cycle breakers. I think the wrong spouse can make your life a living hell even after you divorce (especially if there are kids). We've seen what it has done to friends and family and i would not wish that on anyone.

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Not given the guy she is dating 😂

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Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.

FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.

What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?

Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃

No trump wants to give women fewer options, married with lots of kids. Bye DEI hello poverty and diapers.

As long as he is not grabbing them by their pu$$eees or raping them - I don't care. Frankly Musk and his dad are more scary. Multiple baby mamas and children.

But…he did do that. By his own admission, and by finding of the court.

I know that. I mean as long as my nieces or other unwilling females do not come near Trump and get harrassed or raped by Trump, I am fine. Hopefully, since he is old and he will die soon.

As much as I despise Trump, I think JD Vance as President would be even worse.

His better half is cultured and educated with no trauma story from childhood. He will be fine as a President.

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Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.

FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.

What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?

Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃

No trump wants to give women fewer options, married with lots of kids. Bye DEI hello poverty and diapers.

As long as he is not grabbing them by their pu$$eees or raping them - I don't care. Frankly Musk and his dad are more scary. Multiple baby mamas and children.

But…he did do that. By his own admission, and by finding of the court.

I know that. I mean as long as my nieces or other unwilling females do not come near Trump and get harrassed or raped by Trump, I am fine. Hopefully, since he is old and he will die soon.

As much as I despise Trump, I think JD Vance as President would be even worse.

His better half is cultured and educated with no trauma story from childhood. He will be fine as a President.

Imho that's the best decision he ever made, finding a decent and intelligent woman from a stable family.

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Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.

FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.

What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?

Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃

No trump wants to give women fewer options, married with lots of kids. Bye DEI hello poverty and diapers.

As long as he is not grabbing them by their pu$$eees or raping them - I don't care. Frankly Musk and his dad are more scary. Multiple baby mamas and children.

But…he did do that. By his own admission, and by finding of the court.

I know that. I mean as long as my nieces or other unwilling females do not come near Trump and get harrassed or raped by Trump, I am fine. Hopefully, since he is old and he will die soon.

As much as I despise Trump, I think JD Vance as President would be even worse.

His better half is cultured and educated with no trauma story from childhood. He will be fine as a President.

Imho that's the best decision he ever made, finding a decent and intelligent woman from a stable family.

That does not negate the fact that his beliefs are still abhorrent.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a whole bunch of nieces and nephews who are well educated and have good jobs, but they are not finding partners to marry.

Why are the parents not worried about it? Why is this happening? These are not young adults children either, these are over 35+ years. As they grow older they are looking less attractive also, and they are dating people with more baggage - divorced people, single parents, not a good match in looks, education, SES, red flags.

When do you think is a good age for your kids to get married? How much HHI do you think they should have?

Get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.

Not anymore. Its a better deal for people of both genders if they are good partners and lucky enough to find good spouses.

Lies, men always benefit more.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.

Not anymore. Its a better deal for people of both genders if they are good partners and lucky enough to find good spouses.

Lies, men always benefit more.

Maybe. But, as a woman, I feel that my marriage was the best thing that happened to me in my life and it has impacted my family, kids, health, finances in a positive manner. The thing is that you need to be married to a man who is a true partner and champion. who understands your role in the health and wellbeing of children and keeping the family together.

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I think that a good age to be married is between late 20s and early 30s. Also, they should be adulting successfully and efficiently for a few years.

I think if they are ok to be living in shared apartments, taking public transportation, have no kids and have no debts etc then it is ok to have a HHI even as low as 60k+ for starting salaries.

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Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.

FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.

What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?

Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃

No trump wants to give women fewer options, married with lots of kids. Bye DEI hello poverty and diapers.

As long as he is not grabbing them by their pu$$eees or raping them - I don't care. Frankly Musk and his dad are more scary. Multiple baby mamas and children.

But…he did do that. By his own admission, and by finding of the court.

I know that. I mean as long as my nieces or other unwilling females do not come near Trump and get harrassed or raped by Trump, I am fine. Hopefully, since he is old and he will die soon.

As much as I despise Trump, I think JD Vance as President would be even worse.

His better half is cultured and educated with no trauma story from childhood. He will be fine as a President.

But she would not be president.

And he is a mess.

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My 38-year-old son is still single, and actively looking for a wife. He received his BS degree at the age of 22, MS at 24, and a Ph.D. at 28. He spent the last ten years advancing his career in tech at Apple and Nvidia, and he didn't pay much attention to looking for a wife. He has enough money to generate 3M per year in interest, and never has to work again. However, according to him, it is so much harder now because he will never know if a woman will like him for him or because of his money. He has gone on many dates, and most of the women that he goes out with are either divorced, single mothers, or both, and emotionally damaged. In other words, so much baggage. He said his prospect of finding a wife without baggage is almost slim to none. YMMV.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.

Not anymore. Its a better deal for people of both genders if they are good partners and lucky enough to find good spouses.

Lies, men always benefit more.

Maybe. But, as a woman, I feel that my marriage was the best thing that happened to me in my life and it has impacted my family, kids, health, finances in a positive manner. The thing is that you need to be married to a man who is a true partner and champion. who understands your role in the health and wellbeing of children and keeping the family together.

This^ and you've to be a good partner yourself as well to build a good partnership.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.

Not anymore. Its a better deal for people of both genders if they are good partners and lucky enough to find good spouses.

Lies, men always benefit more.

Pendulum is moving and nightmare wives are also becoming a norm so not a given for men to benefit.

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You want your siblings to “worry” that their - checks notes - 35 year old children are not married?

Your siblings must be around 60 yrs old…you don’t think they have more pressing matters to be worried about?? (Health, meds, parents, retirement, whether to downsize/relocate)…I think you are the only one who wants to worry about their marriage prospects. I feel like I’m in Pride & Prejudice reading this…

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My eldest has had several serious relationships that ended at the 18 month mark. I’m mildly worried because I’m scared she will settle. Personally, I think 18 months is not long enough to know if you should spend the rest of your life with someone.