Who here knows they are THOSE relatives at Thanksgiving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand people who bring food and make others heat it up for you or people who bring food only for a member of their family.

I have a kid who has food allergies and is extremely picky. He won’t eat Turkey, gravy, cranberry, masked potatoes, green beans, or salad. Since he was little we had him eat before we arrived then had snacks in the car if the event was several hours long. I served him a plate with a little bit of most things. He learned to move the food around on his plate. He would eat some bread and butter. He serves himself now and does the same.

Obviously family realizes he doesn’t eat much but we realize it is teaching him it is polite thing to do. Taking out your own container of food is always going to be seen as odd.

I don't get people like you. I will not go to some people's houses as they are like you. I don't care if you bring food but I'd rather you give me a list of what they will eat and I'll happily make it. I don't eat turkey, cranberry or many other things. If your kid wants a certain brand of something, no problem, I'll get it and make it. Part of hosting is making people feel welcome and feeding them. The you eat when I cook mentality is horrible and you shouldn't host. I will not go to my mom's for this reason. Her food is horrible. Moving food around the plate is rude and everyone knows it.

I would not feel comfortable asking you to cater to our differences. I think it is more polite if I manage my kid's issues myself. You shouldn't be offended by a parent taking care of their kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

If I were that relative I would pull myself together or not attend. I am wildly different from my family, but when visiting, I mostly go along to get along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

That’s WILD that you still went.

I would not have wanted that airplane or taxi seat next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My picky eating neurodivergent kid is wearing a shirt that says It's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me.

-She doesn't eat turkey, beef, or ham.
-She doesn't like bread (or stuffing).
-She'll sometimes eat some mashed potatoes but it depends on how they 'feel' when she takes the first bite.
-We bring fresh string beans and roasted Brussels sprouts each year because she loves those. She won't touch MILs green bean casserole or corn casserole.
-This year we are also brining some crabcakes for her that FIL will sauté for her.
-She can eat an entire can of jellied cranberry sauce by herself. Her favorite way is to smear it on a tortilla with cream cheese and add shredded chicken.
-She hyperfixates on subjects and then info-dumps everything she's learned about that subject on anyone with an ear. Right now she's very interested in mushrooms. Does she eat mushrooms? No.
-She will only half pay attention to any game she's participating in and still somehow dominate it and win.
-If you or others around her are talking about a subject she doesn't find interesting, she will tune you out and start telling herself a story in her head. You'll know this is happening because she'll stare straight ahead and eventually start grinning. Which sounds terrible, but it loads better than when she would previously simply state "I don't find this line of conversation interesting" and either leave or start talking about something she wanted.

How does she manage at her job? If she is older than 12, she is working part-time, doe she not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

Bugs crawling in your hair is nasty. Most people find that gross. Guess you like bugs crawling all over you.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is a picky eater with dietary restrictions

Normalize it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

Society is getting to the point of being less judgmental of people who get lice. But no one wants visitors with lice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

Society is getting to the point of being less judgmental of people who get lice. But no one wants visitors with lice.

No we actually are not. Still judging.

[Anonymous]

That would be us. We break things we don’t like the food, my kids will criticize the cooking and the house. My kids don’t have a filter and they’ll tell people what I’ve said at home and let’s just say I’m not always nice. We’re frugal with giving. We’ve been kicked out before and uninvited. No biggie. Now we don’t go. We’re building our own traditions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

Society is getting to the point of being less judgmental of people who get lice. But no one wants visitors with lice.

No we actually are not. Still judging.

Judging what? You just got lucky that your kid didn't get it at school. Its not a character trait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

Society is getting to the point of being less judgmental of people who get lice. But no one wants visitors with lice.

No we actually are not. Still judging.

Judging what? You just got lucky that your kid didn't get it at school. Its not a character trait.

In this case it would be judging the PP for thinking it was no big deal and their family wouldn’t mind lice laying eggs and crawling all over their hair. People might not think you were filthy and lousy for having lice, maybe they sat in the airline seat next after this kid, but you are the AH for knowingly bringing it to someone’s home as if it was no big deal. Don’t do that or you will be judged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

Society is getting to the point of being less judgmental of people who get lice. But no one wants visitors with lice.

People aren’t judgmental of people with lice. It’s people who happily spread the infestation around!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this year but my worst example of being that family was discovering at the airport on the way to my SIL’s house for Thanksgiving that my son, who was about 6 or 7, was crawling with lice. (In my defense, I had been away for a couple weeks before that dealing with a parental health crisis, so no mom eyes had been on the child’s head for a little while; my husband had just missed it.) My SIL had a baby and a toddler with long thick lustrous hair. And she had not dealt with kid lice yet, so was not inured at all to the idea. We immediately started treatment and had my son wear a hat covering his whole head while inside their house and to my knowledge nobody else got it—but I was very aware of being a SIL who could turn up in one of these “can you believe it” threads.

It is diabolical that you still went on this visit, with a baby and toddler in the house you were visiting no less.

I had lice once as a kid, I had very long very thick hair and was so traumatized by the experience and how long it took to get rid of the lice due to aforementioned length and thickness that whenever I got the “lice email” from DC’s school I’d check them for the next three weeks. Thankfully escaped them ever getting lice but I’d be so upset if someone brought their infested kid to my house.

I had someone sort of do this on a family vacation and it sucked. Lice literally falling out of this child’s head level of infestation (I saw lice drop out of their head more than once as we were walking around or sitting at meals, I saw lice crawling on their parents/siblings shirts) and they didn’t start treatment for days because they would’ve had to have skipped the Disney portion of the trip. My skin crawls thinking about it.

DP here. Some people on this thread are so effing dramatic about lice. We had it twice in ES (many many years ago as my kids are now almost grown) and it was time consuming but not that big of a deal. People who overreact about it are just drama queens in general.

if it’s not such a big deal then treat your d*mn kid’s head … BEFORE Disney.