High Value Man - AMA

Anonymous
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I'm sorry, OP, maybe you're a great person in real life, but your choice of words on this thread are cringe-inducing and devoid of any actual meaning. Native gifts? Aristotelian? That's really too vague. You're giving nothing away. You're just a tease.


What do you wanna know? Do you want a treatise on ethics? It's just shorthand for character mattering for being a HVM, and that is something that must be consistently cultivated. The other stuff has already been addressed.


No, I want the opposite, OP. I want the nitty gritty of how you treat a woman, and how she treats you; whether your friends are "high-value" and whether they are in healthy, long-term relationships. You can think you're high-value all you want, you can look great on paper, but the proof of the pudding is in the eating. My husband could be, according to your lights, a high-value man. In real life, he's on the spectrum and is impossible to live with. I will leave him. If you insist on being too highbrow, you're going to miss what's really important in a relationship - emotional connection.



Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Questions for high value man:

1) long term marriage with a comparable value wife. Dead bedroom. Not fix for years. What do you do?

I think this depends on whether you have kids or not and what the home situation looks like. Presumably, if you have properly vetted your wife and she is a high value woman, then she deserves the benefit of the doubt to see if things can be worked out and if there is some underlying reason. I would be willing to prolong the dead bedroom period a bit for the sake of kids/stability, but eventually after a good faith effort to fix things, I would leave if the lack of sex is that important to me at that juncture in my life but make sure the kids would be ok. If I got the sense that the lack of sex was bothering me to the point that it was casting a pall over the household, I would first seek counsel and help to try to work through it, but then eventually leave. I've never been in that scenario, so I have no idea how I would feel after such a prolonged period.

2) does high value man work for money? Or does money work for you?

If I had to pick, I would say the latter. That being said, I don't believe that being in the former category precludes you from being a HVM. It also depends on what stage of life you are in.

3) how does high value man spend his leisure time?

Depends on his interests. I read, play sports, spend time with friends and family and travel. Business takes up a lot of time and energy though.

4) suppose high value man is in the middle aged dating market. Good not great first date with a possible high value woman. What is your next move?

If you are really are a high value man, you should have prospects and a good amount of interest. Your time is valuable. The situation you're describing sounds full of doubt. When you encounter the type of woman that will be worth your time, it should be self-evident. You shouldn't be operating from a scarcity mindset.



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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:High value man what the hell is that lol?


+1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I'm sorry, OP, maybe you're a great person in real life, but your choice of words on this thread are cringe-inducing and devoid of any actual meaning. Native gifts? Aristotelian? That's really too vague. You're giving nothing away. You're just a tease.


What do you wanna know? Do you want a treatise on ethics? It's just shorthand for character mattering for being a HVM, and that is something that must be consistently cultivated. The other stuff has already been addressed.


No, I want the opposite, OP. I want the nitty gritty of how you treat a woman, and how she treats you; whether your friends are "high-value" and whether they are in healthy, long-term relationships. You can think you're high-value all you want, you can look great on paper, but the proof of the pudding is in the eating. My husband could be, according to your lights, a high-value man. In real life, he's on the spectrum and is impossible to live with. I will leave him. If you insist on being too highbrow, you're going to miss what's really important in a relationship - emotional connection.





I treat women with respect, but I'm not obsequious towards them. Reciprocity is important and increasingly rare to find these days. I have a protective impulse, but I have learned to temper this impulse and make sure that my needs are being met as well.

All women are different, so you have to listen to their particular wants, needs and desires and adjust accordingly without completely sacrificing yourself or compromising who you are. I don't like being too rigid, so I accommodate, but only up to a point. I have dated some women who liked one thing and then found it was the complete opposite with others.

What other nitty gritty would you like?
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Did you work yourself up to be a high value man, or just born on third base?


I think an important component of being a high value man is strength of character, which is cultivated by habituation in the Aristotelian sense. In that regard, it's always going to require work to be a high value man. That being said, I was blessed with the good fortune of being born in the U.S. and having native gifts that have helped me. I wasn't born rich, if that's what you were asking.


My guy. 25% of us think this. But never say this sh*t out loud.


Does this count as out loud?


Yes. This is the sound of a high value man falling in the forest. Or the sound of one high value man's gums flapping.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you cringing in horror at the thought of a man describing himself as high value on a mommy web forum?


Aristotle would never...
Anonymous
Trolling and bowling
Anonymous
I had higher hopes for this thread, honestly.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:6 feet 6 figures 6 inches no kids


So...average?
Anonymous
I don't think this thread is a terrible idea, except for labeling yourself as a HVM, which is giving that Samuels guy.

I think if you had said you were average and wanted to answer questions about how men think you would have gotten a better reception. That is how women think, and you are welcome. LOL
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
I'm sorry, OP, maybe you're a great person in real life, but your choice of words on this thread are cringe-inducing and devoid of any actual meaning. Native gifts? Aristotelian? That's really too vague. You're giving nothing away. You're just a tease.


GPT chat?
Anonymous
Height is silly you only need to be equal to or taller than your female partner if you’re heterosexual. D size unless you’re unusually small, average or above average is fine and not the be all end all. A mere 6 figures is no longer the threshold. That’s not even meeting HVM bare minimum for a man over 30. These are stupid criteria.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I'm sorry, OP, maybe you're a great person in real life, but your choice of words on this thread are cringe-inducing and devoid of any actual meaning. Native gifts? Aristotelian? That's really too vague. You're giving nothing away. You're just a tease.


GPT chat?


Ya I think OP is playing around with AI too
Anonymous
You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Anonymous
Any man who sees his value through the opinion of another woman is a man devoid of any value. Love yourself, know yourself, be kind, normal, generous and have healthy hobbies. When you have these qualities it doesn't matter whether a woman thinks you are low or high value because with these traits you will be happy being by yourself even if no woman ever finds you worthy of dating.

And the same goes for a woman.
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