High Value Man - AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she have to be equally educated

No, not necessarily, but that is the case for most of the women I've seriously dated. Some women that don't have much formal education are quite smart and interesting to talk to. Different experiences and perspectives.

How on earth are you saying this sh!t when your sample size is 4????

[Anonymous]

Does height matter
How tall are you

[Anonymous]

Love how one guy claims to hold the cards to defining what would be a “high value man.”

And if he’s so in demand, how does he have time for monitoring and responding in this long thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for high value man:

1) long term marriage with a comparable value wife. Dead bedroom. Not fix for years. What do you do?

I think this depends on whether you have kids or not and what the home situation looks like. Presumably, if you have properly vetted your wife and she is a high value woman, then she deserves the benefit of the doubt to see if things can be worked out and if there is some underlying reason. I would be willing to prolong the dead bedroom period a bit for the sake of kids/stability, but eventually after a good faith effort to fix things, I would leave if the lack of sex is that important to me at that juncture in my life but make sure the kids would be ok. If I got the sense that the lack of sex was bothering me to the point that it was casting a pall over the household, I would first seek counsel and help to try to work through it, but then eventually leave. I've never been in that scenario, so I have no idea how I would feel after such a prolonged period.

2) does high value man work for money? Or does money work for you?

If I had to pick, I would say the latter. That being said, I don't believe that being in the former category precludes you from being a HVM. It also depends on what stage of life you are in.

3) how does high value man spend his leisure time?

Depends on his interests. I read, play sports, spend time with friends and family and travel. Business takes up a lot of time and energy though.

4) suppose high value man is in the middle aged dating market. Good not great first date with a possible high value woman. What is your next move?

If you are really are a high value man, you should have prospects and a good amount of interest. Your time is valuable. The situation you're describing sounds full of doubt. When you encounter the type of woman that will be worth your time, it should be self-evident. You shouldn't be operating from a scarcity mindset.

Answers in italics.

Okay, so I'm replying to "OP's" responses to someone's questions (not mine, not that it matters) back at the beginning of this (shitshow) thread.

I fed ChatGPT only the first page of this thread, and asked it to respond to the same questions as "High Value Man"

"The forum thread is an "Ask Me Anything" (AMA) hosted by someone identifying as a "High Value Man." The OP invites questions from participants about dating and men's perspectives. Responses range from critiques of the concept of a "high value man" to inquiries about looks, character, and privilege. Some commenters express skepticism and amusement, while the OP shares personal views on attraction, effort, and the cultivation of character. Would you like me to play the role of the OP in this context?
You said:
yes
ChatGPT said:
ChatGPT
Sure! Go ahead and ask me anything in the role of the "High Value Man," and I'll respond accordingly. What’s your first question?
You said:
Questions for high value man:

1) long term marriage with a comparable value wife. Dead bedroom. Not fix for years. What do you do?

2) does high value man work for money? Or does money work for you?

3) how does high value man spend his leisure time?

4) suppose high value man is in the middle aged dating market. Good not great first date with a possible high value woman. What is your next move?
ChatGPT said:
ChatGPT
Long-term marriage, dead bedroom: Communication is key. I'd initiate an honest, non-confrontational discussion with my wife to explore the root of the issue. If the problem persists after efforts on both sides, professional counseling might be necessary. Physical intimacy is important but so is emotional connection.

Money: I work smart. Ideally, money works for me, through investments, passive income, and leveraging assets.

Leisure time: I focus on self-improvement—gym, reading, networking, and hobbies that stimulate both body and mind.

Dating, good but not great date: I’d follow up, keep the communication light but consistent, and give it one more date to see if we connect deeper. I’m looking for potential, not just sparks.

Yeah, there is no "high value man" there is only AI and someone who needs a better hobby.

There is no AI, but your insistence is kind of amusing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you married?

I had other priorities after a breakup that consumed my energies and attention.

What were those priorities?

Building a business and helping a sick family member. Both kind of draining.

How long ago was that break up?

4 years ago

Which # relationship ( 104 ) was it?

Not sure what 104 means. If you mean the chronological order of my serious relationships, it was 2nd.

Why did y'all break up?

Disagreements on big issues like kids, geography, etc.


Additionally,

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

No. IME, they tend to be bad vibes and purport to be about choice but have very strong opinions about how other women should live their lives.

Who are you voting for this election?

They're both not very inspiring candidates and I am increasingly disillusioned with politics. The craft is dead. Will probably vote Democrat.

What are your thoughts on SAHMs?

I think it's a great option if a woman has the luxury to afford to do so. Nothing like a mother's touch. Whenever I see SAHM's getting a lot of grief it smacks of other women trying to impose their own ideas. These are old/tired debates though.

Answers in italics. Lot of questions, so I kept it pretty terse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ALso, are you religious? If so what religion do you follow?

I'm Christian, but perhaps not the best one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How important is race to you

If that includes culture as well, it's pretty important. We don't live in a colorblind world and it's important to delve into those issues. I have dated women from pretty much every race though.

I thought you’ve only dated 4 women? Is that considered every race? 4?

Seriously dated 4 (i.e. committed, long term). Dated plenty of others beyond that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does height matter
How tall are you

A little, but other stuff matters more. For men it seems to matter more, IME. 6'1".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How important is race to you

If that includes culture as well, it's pretty important. We don't live in a colorblind world and it's important to delve into those issues. I have dated women from pretty much every race though.

I thought you’ve only dated 4 women? Is that considered every race? 4?

Seriously dated 4 (i.e. committed, long term). Dated plenty of others beyond that.

So dated 4, p&d'd dozens?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you married?

I had other priorities after a breakup that consumed my energies and attention.

What were those priorities?

Building a business and helping a sick family member. Both kind of draining.

How long ago was that break up?

4 years ago

Which # relationship ( 104 ) was it?

Not sure what 104 means. If you mean the chronological order of my serious relationships, it was 2nd.

Why did y'all break up?

Disagreements on big issues like kids, geography, etc.


Additionally,

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

No. IME, they tend to be bad vibes and purport to be about choice but have very strong opinions about how other women should live their lives.

Who are you voting for this election?

They're both not very inspiring candidates and I am increasingly disillusioned with politics. The craft is dead. Will probably vote Democrat.

What are your thoughts on SAHMs?

I think it's a great option if a woman has the luxury to afford to do so. Nothing like a mother's touch. Whenever I see SAHM's getting a lot of grief it smacks of other women trying to impose their own ideas. These are old/tired debates though.

Answers in italics. Lot of questions, so I kept it pretty terse.

Boring answers from a basic man.

What, if anything, makes you truly exceptional?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you married?

I had other priorities after a breakup that consumed my energies and attention.

What were those priorities?

Building a business and helping a sick family member. Both kind of draining.

How long ago was that break up?

4 years ago

Which # relationship ( 104 ) was it?

Not sure what 104 means. If you mean the chronological order of my serious relationships, it was 2nd.

Why did y'all break up?

Disagreements on big issues like kids, geography, etc.


Additionally,

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

No. IME, they tend to be bad vibes and purport to be about choice but have very strong opinions about how other women should live their lives.

Who are you voting for this election?

They're both not very inspiring candidates and I am increasingly disillusioned with politics. The craft is dead. Will probably vote Democrat.

What are your thoughts on SAHMs?

I think it's a great option if a woman has the luxury to afford to do so. Nothing like a mother's touch. Whenever I see SAHM's getting a lot of grief it smacks of other women trying to impose their own ideas. These are old/tired debates though.

Answers in italics. Lot of questions, so I kept it pretty terse.

Boring answers from a basic man.

What, if anything, makes you truly exceptional?

Lol. Of COURSE he considers himself “high value,” is anti-feminist, and wants a SAHW. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

Q1: Do you understand how silly you sound? Truly appreciate it?

Q2: Can you even believe how many people are giving you this much attention? Seriously.

Q3: What year will you graduate high school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you married?

I had other priorities after a breakup that consumed my energies and attention.

What were those priorities?

Building a business and helping a sick family member. Both kind of draining.

How long ago was that break up?

4 years ago

Which # relationship ( 104 ) was it?

Not sure what 104 means. If you mean the chronological order of my serious relationships, it was 2nd.

Why did y'all break up?

Disagreements on big issues like kids, geography, etc.


Additionally,

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

No. IME, they tend to be bad vibes and purport to be about choice but have very strong opinions about how other women should live their lives.

Who are you voting for this election?

They're both not very inspiring candidates and I am increasingly disillusioned with politics. The craft is dead. Will probably vote Democrat.

What are your thoughts on SAHMs?

I think it's a great option if a woman has the luxury to afford to do so. Nothing like a mother's touch. Whenever I see SAHM's getting a lot of grief it smacks of other women trying to impose their own ideas. These are old/tired debates though.

Answers in italics. Lot of questions, so I kept it pretty terse.

Boring answers from a basic man.

What, if anything, makes you truly exceptional?

Exceptional is a pretty high bar. I'm not that. There are plenty of men like me around. I live a good, well-balanced life though and that has been attractive to more than enough women.

If you are in such dire need of entertainment, might I suggest Netflix?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you married?

I had other priorities after a breakup that consumed my energies and attention.

What were those priorities?

Building a business and helping a sick family member. Both kind of draining.

How long ago was that break up?

4 years ago

Which # relationship ( 104 ) was it?

Not sure what 104 means. If you mean the chronological order of my serious relationships, it was 2nd.

Why did y'all break up?

Disagreements on big issues like kids, geography, etc.


Additionally,

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

No. IME, they tend to be bad vibes and purport to be about choice but have very strong opinions about how other women should live their lives.

Who are you voting for this election?

They're both not very inspiring candidates and I am increasingly disillusioned with politics. The craft is dead. Will probably vote Democrat.

What are your thoughts on SAHMs?

I think it's a great option if a woman has the luxury to afford to do so. Nothing like a mother's touch. Whenever I see SAHM's getting a lot of grief it smacks of other women trying to impose their own ideas. These are old/tired debates though.

Answers in italics. Lot of questions, so I kept it pretty terse.

Boring answers from a basic man.

What, if anything, makes you truly exceptional?

Lol. Of COURSE he considers himself “high value,” is anti-feminist, and wants a SAHW. What a loser.

Did you miss the word option? Breathe easy. Everything will be ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't you married?

I had other priorities after a breakup that consumed my energies and attention.

What were those priorities?

Building a business and helping a sick family member. Both kind of draining.

How long ago was that break up?

4 years ago

Which # relationship ( 104 ) was it?

Not sure what 104 means. If you mean the chronological order of my serious relationships, it was 2nd.

Why did y'all break up?

Disagreements on big issues like kids, geography, etc.


Additionally,

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

No. IME, they tend to be bad vibes and purport to be about choice but have very strong opinions about how other women should live their lives.

Who are you voting for this election?

They're both not very inspiring candidates and I am increasingly disillusioned with politics. The craft is dead. Will probably vote Democrat.

What are your thoughts on SAHMs?

I think it's a great option if a woman has the luxury to afford to do so. Nothing like a mother's touch. Whenever I see SAHM's getting a lot of grief it smacks of other women trying to impose their own ideas. These are old/tired debates though.

Answers in italics. Lot of questions, so I kept it pretty terse.

Boring answers from a basic man.

What, if anything, makes you truly exceptional?

Exceptional is a pretty high bar. I'm not that. There are plenty of men like me around. I live a good, well-balanced life though and that has been attractive to more than enough women.

If you are in such dire need of entertainment, might I suggest Netflix?

let me get this straight. you proclaim yourself “high value” because you are tall, have a job, and had girlfriends?

you are average in everything other than your inflated ego