High Value Man - AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think this thread is a terrible idea, except for labeling yourself as a HVM, which is giving that Samuels guy.

I think if you had said you were average and wanted to answer questions about how men think you would have gotten a better reception. That is how women think, and you are welcome. LOL

Haha, I am a woman and definitely disagree! Your suggestion also would have gone over badly! On this board, We don’t want unsolicited anonymous advice on how to getter a “better reception” from men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any man who sees his value through the opinion of another woman is a man devoid of any value. Love yourself, know yourself, be kind, normal, generous and have healthy hobbies. When you have these qualities it doesn't matter whether a woman thinks you are low or high value because with these traits you will be happy being by yourself even if no woman ever finds you worthy of dating.

And the same goes for a woman.

+1000. High value/low value, body count, green/red flag, height etc. All these "new terms' that people are obsessing over are just a reflection of the increase in anxiety among us. We are so immersed digitally that we don't even know anymore what's like being a normal person having normal conversations with the opposite sex. So whether we admit it or not we constantly seek the validation of the opposite sex to judge our own worth.

Maybe I am stuck in the old view of masculinity (yes another term emphasized these days) but I think a man needs to build himself first before he ventures out there. When a man has built himself he is not afraid of rejection and will be more confident as result. Confidence is the #1 quality that women seek in men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think this thread is a terrible idea, except for labeling yourself as a HVM, which is giving that Samuels guy.

I think if you had said you were average and wanted to answer questions about how men think you would have gotten a better reception. That is how women think, and you are welcome. LOL

Why would I lie? I'm not average. And most women don't want average, but some may eventually come around to settling for it. The average man is a non-entity to most women to most women.

[Anonymous]

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I'm sorry, OP, maybe you're a great person in real life, but your choice of words on this thread are cringe-inducing and devoid of any actual meaning. Native gifts? Aristotelian? That's really too vague. You're giving nothing away. You're just a tease.

GPT chat?

Ya I think OP is playing around with AI too

Huh? Not everything is AI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any man who sees his value through the opinion of another woman is a man devoid of any value. Love yourself, know yourself, be kind, normal, generous and have healthy hobbies. When you have these qualities it doesn't matter whether a woman thinks you are low or high value because with these traits you will be happy being by yourself even if no woman ever finds you worthy of dating.

And the same goes for a woman.

+1000. High value/low value, body count, green/red flag, height etc. All these "new terms' that people are obsessing over are just a reflection of the increase in anxiety among us. We are so immersed digitally that we don't even know anymore what's like being a normal person having normal conversations with the opposite sex. So whether we admit it or not we constantly seek the validation of the opposite sex to judge our own worth.

Maybe I am stuck in the old view of masculinity (yes another term emphasized these days) but I think a man needs to build himself first before he ventures out there. When a man has built himself he is not afraid of rejection and will be more confident as result. Confidence is the #1 quality that women seek in men.

Surely you are not saying seeking validation from the opposite sex to judge our worth is a new phenomenon? It’s a tale as odd as time.

[Anonymous]

Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any man who sees his value through the opinion of another woman is a man devoid of any value. Love yourself, know yourself, be kind, normal, generous and have healthy hobbies. When you have these qualities it doesn't matter whether a woman thinks you are low or high value because with these traits you will be happy being by yourself even if no woman ever finds you worthy of dating.

And the same goes for a woman.

Take this self help claptrap to another thread. We're talking about dating here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

Are you new here? People say that kind of stuff all the time here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

So you can't get a woman.
And you can't keep a woman.

How are you any value at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Value is demand based. In the past six months, how many women have gone out on more than two dates with you?

I'm not in the dating market anymore, but when I was getting dates was fairly trivial. I think that is an imprecise measure of demand though. Inbound interest and friends trying to set you up are also indicative, especially because women are not as inclined to be bold and forthright in their expressions of interest. Going on a bunch of dates is quite time consuming. Quality over quantity. Every woman I have ever dated seriously would still probably get back with me if things came to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

So you can't get a woman.
And you can't keep a woman.

How are you any value at all?

This has already been addressed. Thnx.

[Anonymous]

OP, this thread and your responses are a bit fascinating and certainly entertaining-- I mean that neither as a compliment nor an insult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You arent a high value man if you are still single past 30. Sorry not sorry. All the good ones (the actual good ones, not whatever you think you are) are snapped up early and stay committed.

Sorry, you're just wrong. Would you say that about a woman who is single past the age of 30? Thought so.

So you can't get a woman.
And you can't keep a woman.

How are you any value at all?

This has already been addressed. Thnx.

I just re-read the thread and don't see it mentioned. So why can't you get or keep a girlfriend, let alone a wife? How can you say you are high value if no one wants it? Isnt that the basis of supply and demand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any man who sees his value through the opinion of another woman is a man devoid of any value. Love yourself, know yourself, be kind, normal, generous and have healthy hobbies. When you have these qualities it doesn't matter whether a woman thinks you are low or high value because with these traits you will be happy being by yourself even if no woman ever finds you worthy of dating.

And the same goes for a woman.

+1000. High value/low value, body count, green/red flag, height etc. All these "new terms' that people are obsessing over are just a reflection of the increase in anxiety among us. We are so immersed digitally that we don't even know anymore what's like being a normal person having normal conversations with the opposite sex. So whether we admit it or not we constantly seek the validation of the opposite sex to judge our own worth.

Maybe I am stuck in the old view of masculinity (yes another term emphasized these days) but I think a man needs to build himself first before he ventures out there. When a man has built himself he is not afraid of rejection and will be more confident as result. Confidence is the #1 quality that women seek in men.

In case you can't tell by this thread, women have described me as having quiet confidence (emphasis on quiet). That's not a problem for me and I do agree that confidence and assuredness are important. I have faced plenty of rejection in life and that scar tissue is useful and keeps you humble.