If you are a sugar baby why did you decide to be one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

No they are forced to by financial circumstances. Women don’t do it for simple enjoyment of process with men they otherwise wouldn’t have swiped on the dating sites

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

No they are forced to by financial circumstances. Women don’t do it for simple enjoyment of process with men they otherwise wouldn’t have swiped on the dating sites

Strongly disagree.
Women are forced to provide for them selves and/or their children. They can get a job that doesn’t require sleeping with strangers for pay, if they want to.

Let’s not pretend women have no agency.
Don’t see
Us back with that silly talk.

[Anonymous]

My niece is a SB. Mid 20s, fairly successful modeling career. As she says, "it's not going to last forever. Stock up while you are young." Her current daddy bought her a 3-bedroom house and an Audi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

No they are forced to by financial circumstances. Women don’t do it for simple enjoyment of process with men they otherwise wouldn’t have swiped on the dating sites

Strongly disagree.
Women are forced to provide for them selves and/or their children. They can get a job that doesn’t require sleeping with strangers for pay, if they want to.

Let’s not pretend women have no agency.
Don’t see
Us back with that silly talk.

Well, they want to make more money vs 9-5pm job.

[Anonymous]

It is similar to sahm in that there are alays men who like to take care of dependent women and there are always women who like to be dependent on men.

I know 3 young women who were sugar babies. One had had a pretty crappy life and she latched on to this man because she interpreted all the things he gave her as caring. He was also pretty messed up and I think he got a lot of validation from looking after her too. It was very unhealthy.

One was a college student who just thought it was a great way to get expensive things at a time when she didn't have money for an expensive lifestyle and she didn't mind having sex. She knew what she was doing, was not being taken advantage of and felt it was a win win situation where they were both using each other to get what they wanted.

The other one started off as a sugar baby / sugar daddy relationship when she was in college but it was on and off for years and it seemed more like they were dating. I don't quite know what that one was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

No they are forced to by financial circumstances. Women don’t do it for simple enjoyment of process with men they otherwise wouldn’t have swiped on the dating sites

Yes they do and to get expensive gifts and jewelry and clothes and shoes and trips. The sugar babies I know are not destitute or in it for subsistence living. They want expensive and luxurious stuff. They aren't forced into it at all. Many are in college or working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

No they are forced to by financial circumstances. Women don’t do it for simple enjoyment of process with men they otherwise wouldn’t have swiped on the dating sites

Yes they do and to get expensive gifts and jewelry and clothes and shoes and trips. The sugar babies I know are not destitute or in it for subsistence living. They want expensive and luxurious stuff. They aren't forced into it at all. Many are in college or working.

Right! Op was acting like it’s Fontaine selling her teeth or her hair for her cosette/ when these are fully capable, generally educated attractive women who want a LV purse bad enough to take a D for it. No forcing, no sorrow for them.

[Anonymous]

I had a sugar daddy in college. I was 20 and he was 42. He took me on great vacations, to fancy restaurants, got me a new wardrobe , bought me a car and taught me how to drive. Polite manners, fantastic in bed, nicest guy I have ever known. This was 30 years ago and he still looks good when I see his photos on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how language can literally change the perception of something. Sugar baby sounds so much better than “prostitute.” It’s like how trump waved away that tape scandal with the term “locker room talk.” It works on the masses but stop to think for a minute and you see it’s filth.

Of course people find it easier to engage in prostitution when it’s not called prostitution.

[Anonymous]

I've had several sugar daddies (college, grad school, now professional life) and the problem is they always fall in love with you and want to marry you.

No way. I will milk this thing for as long as I can but no way do I want to get married. I get all the good stuff and none of the marriage drudgery.

And yes, they are always married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how language can literally change the perception of something. Sugar baby sounds so much better than “prostitute.” It’s like how trump waved away that tape scandal with the term “locker room talk.” It works on the masses but stop to think for a minute and you see it’s filth.

Of course people find it easier to engage in prostitution when it’s not called prostitution.

Like stay at home moms calling themselves "wives"!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SB because it makes sense. Most men are cheaters or have some major flaw. Why settle down with someone who’s going to treat.

I’m smart, beautiful, and in my 40s. I’ll ride it out til it ends.

Smart woman.

I'm doing this too! I'm early 40s, Masters in Kinesiology. I'm a personal trainer and Pilates teacher (own my studio) and thru that I meet tons of men. I'm very petite so I have alwys looked younger. I've been taken on wonderful trips and received beautiful jewelry and expensive bags and clothes. When I needed to upgrade my studio one of my guys gave me the money. It saves me tens of thousands on paying for my worldly vacations and I am keeping the goods to sell for extra retirement money.

I know I won't look like this forever but so far so good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thin line between being a sugar baby and an empty nester who doesn’t work but whose lifestyle is totally supported by her husband. I do provide, willingly, a wide range of sexual services, same as a sugar baby. The big difference is that I love the man and bore him three children. I do have some guilt living off his largesse but I can handle it.

The line is not thin, it's actually very thick. You CHOSE your lifestyle. You won't tolerate many things if your husband was a transactional jerk and made decisions for your body. SBs are sad creatures who are pinging all men on seeking trying to get a side hassle doing what these uggo men want.

Sugar Babies CHOOSE their lifestyle!

No they are forced to by financial circumstances. Women don’t do it for simple enjoyment of process with men they otherwise wouldn’t have swiped on the dating sites

Strongly disagree.
Women are forced to provide for them selves and/or their children. They can get a job that doesn’t require sleeping with strangers for pay, if they want to.

Let’s not pretend women have no agency.
Don’t see
Us back with that silly talk.

Well, they want to make more money vs 9-5pm job.

Exactly. “Wanting” things you can’t afford doesn’t mean you’ve been forced to prostitute.
Above PP said women are “forced” to choose SB because of their financial needs.
I disagree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of women on this forum view men who see escorts and buy sex as loosers. These same women make up all kind of excuses for sugar babies. This is why of you if you man stop trying to impress women. They don't care. All they care about is their own self interest. Don't fall for the endless gaslighting that men are selfish creatures.

Losers.

You're not a high-earner, are you?