Kate spending time with "birth family"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's lovely that she has the support of her family. Why is this a problem?

Birth family is an odd distinction to make . Camilla is by Charles side during his battle with cancer. Where is William?

His excuse this time for not working is the care of the three kids even though no convoys from Kensington Palace were ever spotted driving in the last few months to the kids’ school and/or activities. He’s living alone there

Yes, exactly. If William is not with his sick father or sick wife, but is taking time off… What the hell is he doing?

He’s at FA Cup with his heir.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look, we all had a fun few days when no one knew where she was and we got to speculate about facelifts and interference from the Ministry of Magic and whatever. And we were all appropriately chagrined when it turned out she had cancer and we were reminded that even though they put themselves in this weird public position and then make inconsistent or perhaps unreasonable calls for privacy, the most important thing is that we’re all responsible for our own behavior even if it feels harmless to speculate online.

I hope Jeff lets this thread remain if people stay on task. Her “preventative chemotherapy” does not at all explain why she and the younger two kids haven’t been seen in five months.

The messaging on this has been horrible. I am not saying she needs to be doing appearances if she is struggling with a health condition, but what they are putting out doesn’t make sense, and at some point people want proof of life. It seems she has disappeared.

This is so true. Either they lied about the chemo being preventative, or it's something else entirely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been through cancer with numerous relatives, friends, colleagues and patients (I’ve been in healthcare for a decade now).

Most of the people I’ve known who had cancer while still in their working years continued working, at least part time, while undergoing treatments. Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Alex Trebek are two examples of wealthy people who nevertheless worked throughout cancer treatment.

Kate is either taking full advantage of her royal privilege by quitting work entirely, or her cancer is very much more serious than her announcement let on.

Stop it. You don’t even know what chemo regimen she’s on. I’m on the Red Devil, it is brutal, I cannot work and you should not be shaming cancer patients. I get that your response was about her, and maybe you just don’t like her, but please, if you meet someone going through chemo and think they’re just not “working hard enough” or “lazy,” keep it to yourself. I guarantee you the vast majority of us are doing everything we can to survive.

There’s a saying in cancer groups - if you think we are doing it wrong, why don’t you get your own cancer and do it your way.

Boy, what a lovely sentiment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, we all had a fun few days when no one knew where she was and we got to speculate about facelifts and interference from the Ministry of Magic and whatever. And we were all appropriately chagrined when it turned out she had cancer and we were reminded that even though they put themselves in this weird public position and then make inconsistent or perhaps unreasonable calls for privacy, the most important thing is that we’re all responsible for our own behavior even if it feels harmless to speculate online.

I hope Jeff lets this thread remain if people stay on task. Her “preventative chemotherapy” does not at all explain why she and the younger two kids haven’t been seen in five months.

The messaging on this has been horrible. I am not saying she needs to be doing appearances if she is struggling with a health condition, but what they are putting out doesn’t make sense, and at some point people want proof of life. It seems she has disappeared.

This is so true. Either they lied about the chemo being preventative, or it's something else entirely.

There's no such thing as preventative chemo. At best, they thought the cancer was limited and moved forward with treatment, but they found cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's lovely that she has the support of her family. Why is this a problem?

Birth family is an odd distinction to make . Camilla is by Charles side during his battle with cancer. Where is William?

His excuse this time for not working is the care of the three kids even though no convoys from Kensington Palace were ever spotted driving in the last few months to the kids’ school and/or activities. He’s living alone there

Yes, exactly. If William is not with his sick father or sick wife, but is taking time off… What the hell is he doing?

He’s at FA Cup with his heir.

“Heir apparent.” A person is not an heir until the person they are inserting from dies.

[Anonymous]

I hope hee cancer isn't terminal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's lovely that she has the support of her family. Why is this a problem?

Birth family is an odd distinction to make . Camilla is by Charles side during his battle with cancer. Where is William?

His excuse this time for not working is the care of the three kids even though no convoys from Kensington Palace were ever spotted driving in the last few months to the kids’ school and/or activities. He’s living alone there

Yes, exactly. If William is not with his sick father or sick wife, but is taking time off… What the hell is he doing?

He’s at FA Cup with his heir.

I don't know what the FA cup is, but boy do they look bored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, we all had a fun few days when no one knew where she was and we got to speculate about facelifts and interference from the Ministry of Magic and whatever. And we were all appropriately chagrined when it turned out she had cancer and we were reminded that even though they put themselves in this weird public position and then make inconsistent or perhaps unreasonable calls for privacy, the most important thing is that we’re all responsible for our own behavior even if it feels harmless to speculate online.

I hope Jeff lets this thread remain if people stay on task. Her “preventative chemotherapy” does not at all explain why she and the younger two kids haven’t been seen in five months.

The messaging on this has been horrible. I am not saying she needs to be doing appearances if she is struggling with a health condition, but what they are putting out doesn’t make sense, and at some point people want proof of life. It seems she has disappeared.

This is so true. Either they lied about the chemo being preventative, or it's something else entirely.

In the US, we call it “adjuvant” chemotherapy instead of preventative. It is standard to administer adjuvant chemo if surgical pathology shows cancer and there are concerns of spread (e.g., metastasis in lymph nodes). Is there something I’m missing? Not sure why you’re suspicious about her getting chemotherapy, it would absolutely be indicated if they found cancer during her surgery and weren’t sure it was all removed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's lovely that she has the support of her family. Why is this a problem?

Birth family is an odd distinction to make . Camilla is by Charles side during his battle with cancer. Where is William?

His excuse this time for not working is the care of the three kids even though no convoys from Kensington Palace were ever spotted driving in the last few months to the kids’ school and/or activities. He’s living alone there

Yes, exactly. If William is not with his sick father or sick wife, but is taking time off… What the hell is he doing?

He’s at FA Cup with his heir.

I don't know what the FA cup is, but boy do they look bored.

Poor kid has to wear a suit and tie to soccer match. How miserable.

[Anonymous]

https://x.com/CameronDLWalker/status/1793928103884169696

William doesn’t seem very concerned with Kate’s status

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, we all had a fun few days when no one knew where she was and we got to speculate about facelifts and interference from the Ministry of Magic and whatever. And we were all appropriately chagrined when it turned out she had cancer and we were reminded that even though they put themselves in this weird public position and then make inconsistent or perhaps unreasonable calls for privacy, the most important thing is that we’re all responsible for our own behavior even if it feels harmless to speculate online.

I hope Jeff lets this thread remain if people stay on task. Her “preventative chemotherapy” does not at all explain why she and the younger two kids haven’t been seen in five months.

The messaging on this has been horrible. I am not saying she needs to be doing appearances if she is struggling with a health condition, but what they are putting out doesn’t make sense, and at some point people want proof of life. It seems she has disappeared.

This is so true. Either they lied about the chemo being preventative, or it's something else entirely.

There's no such thing as preventative chemo. At best, they thought the cancer was limited and moved forward with treatment, but they found cancer.

https://www.moffitt.org/taking-care-of-your-health/taking-care-of-your-health-story-archive/what-is-preventative-chemotherapy-understanding-adjuvant-therapy/#:~:text=Preventative%20or%20adjuvant%20chemotherapy%20plays,the%20prognosis%20for%20cancer%20patients.

They’re talking about adjuvant chemotherapy. Some people do in fact call it preventative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you not want to be with your parents and have their support while dealing with cancer and chemo and having three kids?
Would you rather be with paid help?

I'd probably want to be with my spouse?

Yes, but if your spouse is the future King and all the staff around you are watching for any misstep, you might want to go home and stay with your parents who you can be zoned out and grouchy around. The palace is a fish bowl in the best of times much less the worst of times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been through cancer with numerous relatives, friends, colleagues and patients (I’ve been in healthcare for a decade now).

Most of the people I’ve known who had cancer while still in their working years continued working, at least part time, while undergoing treatments. Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Alex Trebek are two examples of wealthy people who nevertheless worked throughout cancer treatment.

Kate is either taking full advantage of her royal privilege by quitting work entirely, or her cancer is very much more serious than her announcement let on.

Why shouldn't she? I sure as hell would. Also, as far as I know, RBG and Alex Trebek did not have three young children. You sound like a jerk.

Stop acting like Kate has literally zero help and no privacy. She has an entire private estate on which to roam with cooks, maids and Nannies at her beck and call. She is not some Average woman going through chemo with real life scenarios to deal with.

If i was dying or extremely ill I’m sure i would be wondering how to spend more time working and less time with family. Priorities.

I think you don’t know what you are talking about, poster.

Again, I’ve worked with many people who battled cancer and also family and friends.

Maybe you’ve never been unemployed? Unemployment quickly becomes demoralizing for people who are used to having purpose in their lives beyond family life.

You seem to be trashing the people in this world - many of them, including people I’ve dearly loved - who choose to keep working and striving and who take purpose and hope from that work, hope that they will beat their cancer and life will return as much as possible to normal.

I’ve been doing a lot of hospice work in recent years and I can attest, it is very depressing sitting around waiting to die. I’m sure Alex Trebek and RBG both knew at some level that the odds of beating their cancers were very, very low - but they kept working not because they didn’t love their families enough to want to spend time with them but because work gave them purpose and meaning and made them feel alive and hopeful.

Don’t call me a jerk for pointing out that many, many people who could afford to go home and sit on the couch and think about their cancer choose instead to keep working up to the end or as close as they can to that point. If John McCain hadn’t kept working, millions of Americans wouldn’t have healthcare today - that’s a far better legacy than watching reruns while waiting for the reaper. I don’t think his family begrudged him the time spent working at the end of his life.

For most humans, the striving to work and contribute to society is an imperative that feeds their souls. I can’t really think of any layabouts rich or poor who I would wish to be if I could trade places with anyone. Maybe that’s just the kind of person you are, but it’s not the only kind of person to be and there is nothing shameful in wanting to strive right to the end of things.

[Anonymous]

As someone who has never had cancer but has many friends and family members who have, I've seen them deal with it in various ways.

Some work more.

Some work less.

Some take a medical leave of absence (especially if they have jobs where they are always public-facing.)

What I have never done is judge them for their choices. This seems a particularly cruel option.

I think speculation about public figures' illness is natural. At the same time, perhaps we should consider applying the golden rule here.

I know that if this were me, I would want people to back off and let me live my life without judging or criticizing. We'll know all about any marital strife in a decade or two. For now, let's just hope for the best and send a prayer or two the family's way just as we do any other person we know with cancer.

[Anonymous]

Just fyi, the author of this article that so many are salivating over also wrote the following article only a few days before Kate announced her cancer diagnosis:

https://www.thedailybeast.com/kate-middleton-plans-big-bang-easter-sunday-return-to-public-life

That article also quotes anonymous “royal sources” and “friends”, just like the current article does, and it was pure crap and conjecture.

I’ve only commented a handful of times on any royal threads here, but I have an aunt who had surgery and then preventive chemo (yes, that’s how she referred to it) that completely wiped her out. She took a year-long leave of absence from her job, and only regained her strength after that year was up. Going out for her during that time was my uncle taking her on a short drive, never far from home in case she started to feel ill. And she had been super fit and active until her diagnosis. And we, her “birth family” all took turns staying with her and helping as much as we could.

She’s doing well several years later, but I can’t fathom how people think there’s a one-size-fits-all when it comes to cancer treatment.