Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.

OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc

OP is a mam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a mom, your concern is legit, you live them and are used to looking out for them.

However, times have changed and if they build a good career, invest money, have a good support system and engaging hobbies, they'll be fine on their own.

That being said, you can push this envelope once more even at the risk of being seen as a nagging meddler. Its worth it but then you'll have to hold your peace forever.

Ask them if there is any way you can help if they want to explore this avenue before you closing this chapter? If you can arrange any blind dates through a matrimonial service, help out with marriage expenses, help with freezing eggs etc. Tell them that you feel your mom didn't do it for your sister and you don't want to repeat this and carry this guilt. You are all adults and they can explain their reasons so you can better understand this matter and move on one way or other.

OP is only looking out for herself. Her daughters are nearly 40-year-old grown-ass women! Op needs to accept she's not getting grandkids and get the hell on with what's left of her life. Actually, if she truly wants to help her daughters she should make sure hers and her husband's affairs are in order, make sure they have coverage for nursing home. home health expences. Have the house cleared out of junk etc

While this could be the case, it could also be the case that OP is genuinely concerned that they will regret missing out on something that she clearly loved. It doesn’t change what she should do (respect their decisions) but it may not be all about grandkids.

OP is a man. Why do people assume thay only women post here even when the OP reveals or implies his gender?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do. It is kind of late to have these conversations.

These conversations shouldn't be had at all. You can't dictate what makes other people happy.

[Anonymous]

It is too late OP. You clearly failed to model a happy marriage and parenting to your children. Back in the day people who had terrible role models would still get married and pregnant because they felt they had no other choice. Not so today. If you want your kids to have kids you have to influence them from childhood itself, to show them it’s a happy lifestyle.

Accept your failure and move on. All the good men are taken, so don’t try to force them to settle for some random losers. They won’t listen to you anyway, they are too stubborn by now, and it will ruin your relationship with them. If you want to do a good deed then advise parents of younger children to not make the same mistakes you did.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you haven’t already, adopt a cat, find a hobby, and MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this; she and her sister are both single and childless in their 40s, despite both being beautiful, brilliant, accomplished, kind and lovely people.

The reason is that their father was a domineering critical overbearing ahole whom their mother tried and failed to leave. Usually when both children don’t marry there is a reason related to the family of origin; so instead of worrying about them, search inside yourself, your marriage and your parenting for why they feel more comfortable alone.

I have a cousin who grew uo in the most stable household I know. I was jealous of her because I never had that myself. She spent most of her life either single or in short lived relationships. I asked her why she's not married and she replied: "I saw what a great marriage should be thanks to my parents, but I also learned that a great marriage isn't what I want in life". She's been in a relationship for 10 years. They see each other often of don't live together. I doubt my cousin intends to be married.

[Anonymous]

It’s lonier in a bad relationship than to be on your own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is too late OP. You clearly failed to model a happy marriage and parenting to your children. Back in the day people who had terrible role models would still get married and pregnant because they felt they had no other choice. Not so today. If you want your kids to have kids you have to influence them from childhood itself, to show them it’s a happy lifestyle.

Accept your failure and move on. All the good men are taken, so don’t try to force them to settle for some random losers. They won’t listen to you anyway, they are too stubborn by now, and it will ruin your relationship with them. If you want to do a good deed then advise parents of younger children to not make the same mistakes you did.

Or they modelled an excellent marriage and the daughters still said "no, thanks". Not everyone is interested in marriage and children.

[Anonymous]

Your younger daughter is not lonely. She's a lawyer and her decision to not marry could be a practical one. The other one might be seeing someone, but not to keen to get the family involved.

[Anonymous]

I think it can be lonely in old age to not have kids. But I think it would be worse to have kids who don't really include you in their lives, or they make it clear it's an obligation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's sad, society and feminism has sold them a lie, biological regret will overtake them

Nobody lied to anybody. People were given freedom and are excercising it, which means some people are choosing a lifestyle different to yours.

[Anonymous]

I have kids, having kids is overrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is too late OP. You clearly failed to model a happy marriage and parenting to your children. Back in the day people who had terrible role models would still get married and pregnant because they felt they had no other choice. Not so today. If you want your kids to have kids you have to influence them from childhood itself, to show them it’s a happy lifestyle.

Accept your failure and move on. All the good men are taken, so don’t try to force them to settle for some random losers. They won’t listen to you anyway, they are too stubborn by now, and it will ruin your relationship with them. If you want to do a good deed then advise parents of younger children to not make the same mistakes you did.

Those good men end up divorced anyway after a few years so I don't know what you mean

[Anonymous]

There's nothing you can say. They dom't want marriage or children badly enough. Not sure why this is a requirement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing you can say. They dom't want marriage or children badly enough. Not sure why this is a requirement.

But seems like dcum women or dc transplants want them badly that they are judgy about women who wait. I'm guessing the waiting women are dc natives and the baby hungry ones are from some bumblefck town