Daughters are childless and one of the is single, what can we do for them as their parents?

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Anonymous wrote:Pay for them to freeze their eggs. They won’t miss a man because they come and go and cheat etc. but they might miss the baby.

There's nothing in the post to suggest that they're interested in freezing their eggs. Or that they have enough money for this procedure. Only in DCUM people talk about eggfreezing and IVF as if anybody could pay for that or wanted to go through it.

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Anonymous wrote:We have two amazing daughters we are proud of. They're smart, pretty, ambitious and every other thing a parent would hope for. They were always disciplined and responsible so they never gave us any headaches or reason for us to worry, however, my wife and I are both a bit concerned about their family situation as it is today.

The youngest daughter is 36, she's a lawyer. She's been together with her partner for 6 years and living with him for 2 or so. She mentioned she was not interested in getting married and will probably skip the kids too. We let her know that if the cost of a wedding was the problem we could pay part of it. She politely declined and changed subject. The other daughter is 38 and is an accountant. She's been dating here and there, but I don't remember the last time she brought a partner home. I don't think she's had a serious boyfriend in the last 5 years. I understand that not everyone follows the same path in life, but I'm afraid that not being married or having any children will catch up with them at some point. I see this in my sister who's in her late 60s. She had a successful career as an accountant, but she never married or had kids and I believe she's she's very lonely and missed on some important milestones in life. I'm afraid that my daughters will look back on their lives and regret some of their choices. Is there a sensitive way for us to approach this? Has any of you changed your minds about this in the last moment?

Does anyone look back on their life and have zero regrets?!

It's not your life. You made your choices, let then make theirs.

Geez, I'm already regretting my choice of breakfast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to sit and talk to your daughters as soon as possible, but convincing them to get married and have babies won't be an easy task as feminism has convinced women that marriage and children are not compulsory but a choice.

Tell them that marriage and children are the most important achievements a woman can have. Your daughters, especially the lawyer, might argue that there are other forms of legal protection that don't involve marriage, or that marriage and children have led women to be tied to abusive husbands or unhappy households. Don't fall that. Look at them in the eyes and warn them about all the awkward family dinners you daughters will have when aunt Karen demands to see their ring and the baby. They might double down and say "aunt Karen should keep her nose out of our business". This is where you step up your game and tell them that it's not just aunt Karen but also uncle Dick who will see their childlessness and lack of a husband as an embarrassment to their bridge club.

If none of the above works, you'll have to take away their phones, laptops and credit cards until they come to their senses and accept that you are entitled to two sons in law and at least 5 grandchildren. You might get in legal trouble for that, but don't let the police or your spoiled daughters ruin your dream.

All this!

...and its all your fault for giving them an education in the first place. After all, their uterus needs to be the possession of a man.

[Anonymous]

It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

“Never married, no children” in their bio as if that’s some kind of brag. Usually accompanied by “no hookups” so you know it will be easy if you don’t mind all the guys that came before you.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

“Never married, no children” in their bio as if that’s some kind of brag. Usually accompanied by “no hookups” so you know it will be easy if you don’t mind all the guys that came before you.

^^this is really why it’s better to be married off and in the sanctuary of a family than untethered as you age.

The dating pool is full of predators, losers, deviants, users, abusers, etc. like this guy so you’re basically doomed to a life of nunnish celibacy or wading through the sewage and getting filthy while doing so until you get lucky and find the diamond in the poo.

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Ugh. I just wrote a response and it disappeared with ads popping up.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

“Never married, no children” in their bio as if that’s some kind of brag. Usually accompanied by “no hookups” so you know it will be easy if you don’t mind all the guys that came before you.

^^this is really why it’s better to be married off and in the sanctuary of a family than untethered as you age.

The dating pool is full of predators, losers, deviants, users, abusers, etc. like this guy so you’re basically doomed to a life of nunnish celibacy or wading through the sewage and getting filthy while doing so until you get lucky and find the diamond in the poo.

We found someone with those phrases in her profile. Do you give “bonus points?” Please tell us your opinion of pineapple on pizza. I hope you like The Office!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

It's as easy as hooking up with you. What's your point?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

“Never married, no children” in their bio as if that’s some kind of brag. Usually accompanied by “no hookups” so you know it will be easy if you don’t mind all the guys that came before you.

^^this is really why it’s better to be married off and in the sanctuary of a family than untethered as you age.

The dating pool is full of predators, losers, deviants, users, abusers, etc. like this guy so you’re basically doomed to a life of nunnish celibacy or wading through the sewage and getting filthy while doing so until you get lucky and find the diamond in the poo.

What if a woman doesn't want a family or marriage? Both of you speak as if marriage was the only thing that dignified women.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

“Never married, no children” in their bio as if that’s some kind of brag. Usually accompanied by “no hookups” so you know it will be easy if you don’t mind all the guys that came before you.

^^this is really why it’s better to be married off and in the sanctuary of a family than untethered as you age.

The dating pool is full of predators, losers, deviants, users, abusers, etc. like this guy so you’re basically doomed to a life of nunnish celibacy or wading through the sewage and getting filthy while doing so until you get lucky and find the diamond in the poo.

What if a woman doesn't want a family or marriage? Both of you speak as if marriage was the only thing that dignified women.

What if I had a gajillion dollars? Who cares? Most women are heterosexual, most women want sex, most women want children. Most women do not want to be nuns or slam hogs in their childbearing years and into the twilight of old age. Certainly not most women on a dating app.

[Anonymous]

Your daughters either don't want or can't have children and marriage. Not sure what you think you'll axhieve by talking to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is too late OP. You clearly failed to model a happy marriage and parenting to your children. Back in the day people who had terrible role models would still get married and pregnant because they felt they had no other choice. Not so today. If you want your kids to have kids you have to influence them from childhood itself, to show them it’s a happy lifestyle.

Accept your failure and move on. All the good men are taken, so don’t try to force them to settle for some random losers. They won’t listen to you anyway, they are too stubborn by now, and it will ruin your relationship with them. If you want to do a good deed then advise parents of younger children to not make the same mistakes you did.

This is absurd. My parents are still in love after 56 years of marriage. They've had a wonderful marriage.
My brother married and had kids. I did neither. Our parents are proud of and happy for both of us.

If anything, I'd say that my parents' marriage set a very high standard that no one I dated was able to meet. My parents also raised us so that we were well educated and have had a lot of financial support, which means that on top of having high standards for a partner, I've never felt that I had to settle because I had no money or life of my own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s so fun and easy to hook up with childless women like your daughters on dating apps.

Boomer parents, keep doing what you’re doing.

You're a first-class a-hole for this comment.

“Never married, no children” in their bio as if that’s some kind of brag. Usually accompanied by “no hookups” so you know it will be easy if you don’t mind all the guys that came before you.

And I'm sure you're very respectful of divorced moms on dating apps.