Caught 13 YO DD drinking w/ friends, how to handle

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

Honey, there is no correlation between “harsh” criticism and “hoing.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Found the ho.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

So, we should all do it. All teens girls should be encouraged to ho. That’s the advice. The OP should let it go because it’s not uncommon teenage behavior.
No, I was never a teenager.
I underestimated your stupidity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

It is also not imminent behavior is lots of teens. Were you ever not a whore of a teen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

It is also not imminent behavior is lots of teens. Were you ever not a whore of a teen?

*commom behavior

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to her about birth control. To all the uppity posters on here accusing OP of being an absent parent or a bad parent or think this could never happen to them because they are a superior parent, kick rocks. It could happen to anyone. Yes, it happened to me when my kid was 14. And I am a very present parent and so is my DH.

Keep talking to your child re drugs and alcohol. Have all the passcodes to your child’s phone, check it regularly (videos, photos, messaging, snap chat, WhatsApp, call history, etc). No more sleepovers, period. No matter at whose house. None.

If she’s experimenting sexually with boys you really need to talk NOW about safe sex, consent, etc. This includes discussing whether she should be on birth control. You need to be ahead of this problem. Posters may disagree but kids who are experimenting with this will do it at times other than in the middle of the night at sleepovers. They will do it at school, at a park after school, etc.

Good luck out there.

So, parenting is not influential on kids? We can just throw that out the window. No need to parent, it’s a myth.
Okay, you!

Having the attitude it won’t happen to me is just foolish (among other words). Some kids, who have very present parents and lots of support, are going to push every single boundary. A kid who doesn’t doesn’t necessarily mean their parents were amazing. It often is just that kid’s personality.

A parent who is not present would do nothing. Did I say do nothing? FFS. Can you read?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

And lots don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

So, we should all do it. All teens girls should be encouraged to ho. That’s the advice. The OP should let it go because it’s not uncommon teenage behavior.
No, I was never a teenager.
I underestimated your stupidity.

Can you quote what poster said to let it go and do nothing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her about birth control. To all the uppity posters on here accusing OP of being an absent parent or a bad parent or think this could never happen to them because they are a superior parent, kick rocks. It could happen to anyone. Yes, it happened to me when my kid was 14. And I am a very present parent and so is my DH.

Keep talking to your child re drugs and alcohol. Have all the passcodes to your child’s phone, check it regularly (videos, photos, messaging, snap chat, WhatsApp, call history, etc). No more sleepovers, period. No matter at whose house. None.

If she’s experimenting sexually with boys you really need to talk NOW about safe sex, consent, etc. This includes discussing whether she should be on birth control. You need to be ahead of this problem. Posters may disagree but kids who are experimenting with this will do it at times other than in the middle of the night at sleepovers. They will do it at school, at a park after school, etc.

Good luck out there.

So, parenting is not influential on kids? We can just throw that out the window. No need to parent, it’s a myth.
Okay, you!

Having the attitude it won’t happen to me is just foolish (among other words). Some kids, who have very present parents and lots of support, are going to push every single boundary. A kid who doesn’t doesn’t necessarily mean their parents were amazing. It often is just that kid’s personality.

A parent who is not present would do nothing. Did I say do nothing? FFS. Can you read?

It certainly will happen more with the way op is not parenting. No one said it won’t happen. Environments are influential.
You are essentially saying to throw parenting out the window.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

So, we should all do it. All teens girls should be encouraged to ho. That’s the advice. The OP should let it go because it’s not uncommon teenage behavior.
No, I was never a teenager.
I underestimated your stupidity.

Can you quote what poster said to let it go and do nothing?

Can you not be stupid again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

So, we should all do it. All teens girls should be encouraged to ho. That’s the advice. The OP should let it go because it’s not uncommon teenage behavior.
No, I was never a teenager.
I underestimated your stupidity.

Can you quote what poster said to let it go and do nothing?

Honey, context. Learn it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s more like behavior of 16 year old. What the hell was op doing or not doing?

I hate to break it to you, but I’d say a large portion of the 14 year freshman at our daughters high school are engaging in the exact same behaviors.

This. Op, I think people are being very harsh. They probably have no clue that their daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school. Middle school seems a little early, but this is quite common weekend behavior in high school and lots of parents condone it and even supply the alcohol.

Are you really this obtuse? I mean this wholeheartedly when I ask.

Are you really that naive?

You’re naive to think that “daughters are hoing it up the exact same way in high school” just because you think people are harsh.

I think this is not uncommon teenager behavior. Were you a teenager?

So, we should all do it. All teens girls should be encouraged to ho. That’s the advice. The OP should let it go because it’s not uncommon teenage behavior.
No, I was never a teenager.
I underestimated your stupidity.

Can you quote what poster said to let it go and do nothing?

Coming from someone whose advice is “well other teen girls are hoing, so…”
Okay!

[Anonymous]

The child needs to be removed and put in another home or boarding school. Clearly, op has stated she cannot take care of her.

[Anonymous]

This is a disaster and I’m afraid the child is already shaped by this now. Much too young.