Crash a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong. Who knows what it is. But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship. But so what. If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.

Don't do that. You aren't invited. Do not go.

Nope---you ask. This isn't some 2nd cousin twice removed. This is her husband's sister. If he's invited, she should be invited as well, unless there has been a complete falling out and in that case her husband should not be going either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong. Who knows what it is. But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship. But so what. If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.

OP here. Is it not wrong to invite someone without spouse? What god united, men can’t separate. We are a family unit and in-laws are all devout Catholics.

Now it becomes more clear why you weren't invited. No. People can invite or not invite anyone they like to their celebrations. You and your spouse are not conjoined twins.

Umm...if my spouse is invited to a wedding and I am not, then my spouse is not going. Sure my spouse can do things by themselves, and does many things with friends. But attending weddings alone is not one of those things. If you invite one member of a couple, you invite both or NONE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a husband problem, not a SIL problem. That husband didn't tell you is the problem, not that he's invited and not you, not that SIL invited him and not you.

100%. You admit to "beefs" with SIL so maybe shouldn't be surprised by the snub. Your husband had the choice to talk to you about it before deciding to go without you. He chose not to and that is the real problem I see.

[Anonymous]

You don’t crash the wedding .
You can crash into a therapy session because you and your husband need counseling.
He hid this from you? That’s a big problem.

[Anonymous]

Some of you all are really overshooting this "my spouse can't go to a wedding without me". It's a 6 person civil ceremony at a court house for a person the OP has "beef" with. That is not the same thing as a wedding and the idea that anyone would actively block their spouse from attending suggests to me that you'd be exactly the type of person your spouse would hide this from just like the OP. Drama queens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you all are really overshooting this "my spouse can't go to a wedding without me". It's a 6 person civil ceremony at a court house for a person the OP has "beef" with. That is not the same thing as a wedding and the idea that anyone would actively block their spouse from attending suggests to me that you'd be exactly the type of person your spouse would hide this from just like the OP. Drama queens.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I personally would be relieved to not have been invited to someone I don’t care for’s wedding and would wish my DH to have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong. Who knows what it is. But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship. But so what. If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.

OP here. Is it not wrong to invite someone without spouse? What god united, men can’t separate. We are a family unit and in-laws are all devout Catholics.

Now it becomes more clear why you weren't invited. No. People can invite or not invite anyone they like to their celebrations. You and your spouse are not conjoined twins.

Umm...if my spouse is invited to a wedding and I am not, then my spouse is not going. Sure my spouse can do things by themselves, and does many things with friends. But attending weddings alone is not one of those things. If you invite one member of a couple, you invite both or NONE.

I really don’t understand this mindset. You are married, not conjoined. There’s a difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong. Who knows what it is. But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship. But so what. If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.

Don't do that. You aren't invited. Do not go.

Nope---you ask. This isn't some 2nd cousin twice removed. This is her husband's sister. If he's invited, she should be invited as well, unless there has been a complete falling out and in that case her husband should not be going either.

Obviously there was a falling out. Come on. The sister has her boundaries and SIL is not welcome. OP should respect this and let her SIL have her day. She can get her revenge later by pretending not to know SIL is married so she can keep the rift going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong. Who knows what it is. But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship. But so what. If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.

OP here. Is it not wrong to invite someone without spouse? What god united, men can’t separate. We are a family unit and in-laws are all devout Catholics.

Now it becomes more clear why you weren't invited. No. People can invite or not invite anyone they like to their celebrations. You and your spouse are not conjoined twins.

Umm...if my spouse is invited to a wedding and I am not, then my spouse is not going. Sure my spouse can do things by themselves, and does many things with friends. But attending weddings alone is not one of those things. If you invite one member of a couple, you invite both or NONE.

Your spouse doesn't need your permission to go to his sister's wedding. He's not on a leash.

[Anonymous]

Well...you know where your husband is going to be. Have him served at the courthouse.

[Anonymous]

I think it is odd not to invite immediate family spouse if there is no beef. What could be the reason?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong. Who knows what it is. But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship. But so what. If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.

OP here. Is it not wrong to invite someone without spouse? What god united, men can’t separate. We are a family unit and in-laws are all devout Catholics.

Devout Catholics don't have courthouse ceremonies.

Your logic is ridiculous and you know it. Do you show up to work with your spouse? If he's invited to a work event do you expect to attend? Must he attend when you go out with girlfriends?

You are trying to attend to cause trouble. Stop being a trouble maker.

[Anonymous]

It would tell me the sil hates me so I’d be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you all are really overshooting this "my spouse can't go to a wedding without me". It's a 6 person civil ceremony at a court house for a person the OP has "beef" with. That is not the same thing as a wedding and the idea that anyone would actively block their spouse from attending suggests to me that you'd be exactly the type of person your spouse would hide this from just like the OP. Drama queens.

Spouses are a couple for events like weddings. Even a small courthouse wedding. You invite me and my spouse better be included or I'll respond No.

I get it's a small gathering. But either you just invite your parents or you invite your siblings and their spouses along with the parents. But you don't say just siblings