Broke due to child support and alimony

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m totally certain that OP did everything in his power to let his ex wife flourish in her career. He probably did most night wake ups, helped with drop off and pick up evenly, took care of sick days and appointments and classes and sports and valentines and birthdays and vacations just as much. I’m sure that she didn’t have to step back her earning potential or give up dreams to be married to him with kids. Keep complaining, OP..

You do realize many men do do those things. Mine does. I'm sorry you didn't pick a good husband or father to your kids. You forgot helping with homework, attending sports/activities/music events (and volunteering), cooking, cleaning, yard work, fixing the house, laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like Troll post, or else a very manipulative two-faced divorced man feigning ignorance.

If you pay child support, alimony and have shared expenses, and a lower income, how do you think it works?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

This.
I also saw a statistic that men who ask for custody get it 93% of the time.

I’m sure there are cases that are unfair toward men out there, but they certainly aren’t the majority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like Troll post, or else a very manipulative two-faced divorced man feigning ignorance.

If you pay child support, alimony and have shared expenses, and a lower income, how do you think it works?

I think it works that both people are broke because it costs more to have two households than one.
I don’t think it works that one person is broke and the other person continues with their previous lifestyle.
(Although I do believe that a lot of people who are bitter about paying child support think it should be that way.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Key is to forego marriage . Women will have sex with you without commitment.


Avoiding marriage is the best thing for men now

Really, it’s avoiding having children.
I mean, he would probably be paying a lot for the kids even if he remained married or never married.

Ex might still get half his stuff.

Men work hard and build wealth just to have it stripped away because she cheats or she’s just bored. Too much if a risk for men now.

The court system is inherently biased towards men when it comes to divorce.

Every man should talk to a divorce attorney before they get married

It’s not stripped away. It’s divided in half.
In theory, half of it would have been hers if they had remained married, right? Or she would have made half of the decisions on how it would be spent anyway.

If you disagree with this, and think that you should get to make all of the decisions in a marriage, then I agree you get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in VA and feel you. You’re a man no one cares. I knew a man who had full custody and was as supposed to get CS from his ex-wife and she never laid a dime. Nothing happened.

She left to live with the mom when she turned 15 and six months later he got hit with an order for being in arrears! She never paid a dime in six years.

Anyways this is why getting married is a no go for me now . I won’t and I think every man who is going to has to sit in divorce court for a day. It’s brutal .

Marriage isn’t worth it , never do it

What? I’ve been married 20 years. Now make more than my dh. We still love each other, and are partners in every sense. Only one of our friends in 25 years together divorced. Many, many successful marriages out there. Is it hard, do kids add stress, do you change some - yes. But many of us learn to grow together, build a family, support one another. I hope you find that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

Interesting that you mention Singapore. I knew someone whose ex-husband went back to Singapore to escape child support. He just sends money when he feels like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

Oh please, women get 'tipped into poverty' because they don't want to work or don't get jobs.

Why shouldn't it be a man's job to support an ex with alimony payments for virtually infinity to make sure she has a comfy lifestyle? There are no guarantees in life, lol. Should I get compensated from my brokerage account bank if I lose money on the stock market after making a bad stock pick too?

Sh!t, if a court forced me into barely liveable wages because they wanted me to pay insane amounts of child support and alimony per month I'd get the hell outta Dodge and move abroad. No way would I be shackled for years living a miserable life because my ex thinks she deserves thousands per month in alimony. It is just legalized slavery and/or indentured service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

Interesting that you mention Singapore. I knew someone whose ex-husband went back to Singapore to escape child support. He just sends money when he feels like it.

Because crime is low. They're a first world country with higher median HHI than the US. English is used. It'd be the first place I'd go and renounce my US citizenship if I ever had to pay alimony. I'd send back money for childcare but $0 for alimony. It is NOT my responsibility to find your lifestyle after a divorce. Get a job for heaven's sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

Oh please, women get 'tipped into poverty' because they don't want to work or don't get jobs.

Why shouldn't it be a man's job to support an ex with alimony payments for virtually infinity to make sure she has a comfy lifestyle? There are no guarantees in life, lol. Should I get compensated from my brokerage account bank if I lose money on the stock market after making a bad stock pick too?

Sh!t, if a court forced me into barely liveable wages because they wanted me to pay insane amounts of child support and alimony per month I'd get the hell outta Dodge and move abroad. No way would I be shackled for years living a miserable life because my ex thinks she deserves thousands per month in alimony. It is just legalized slavery and/or indentured service.

Bye. I’ll raise the kids happily without your interference. Don’t come back. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

This.
I also saw a statistic that men who ask for custody get it 93% of the time.

I’m sure there are cases that are unfair toward men out there, but they certainly aren’t the majority.

I also saw at satistic that 97% of all alimony payments are made by men. This is even though these days 50% of the workforce is women and there are now more college graduates that are women than men. Alimony is supposed to be gender neutral, yet courts are massively biased against men when it comes to alimony payments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

Oh please, women get 'tipped into poverty' because they don't want to work or don't get jobs.

Why shouldn't it be a man's job to support an ex with alimony payments for virtually infinity to make sure she has a comfy lifestyle? There are no guarantees in life, lol. Should I get compensated from my brokerage account bank if I lose money on the stock market after making a bad stock pick too?

Sh!t, if a court forced me into barely liveable wages because they wanted me to pay insane amounts of child support and alimony per month I'd get the hell outta Dodge and move abroad. No way would I be shackled for years living a miserable life because my ex thinks she deserves thousands per month in alimony. It is just legalized slavery and/or indentured service.

Bye. I’ll raise the kids happily without your interference. Don’t come back. Cheers!

The most ironic part is the fact the kids would actually get far better education in Singapore than the US, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

This.
I also saw a statistic that men who ask for custody get it 93% of the time.

I’m sure there are cases that are unfair toward men out there, but they certainly aren’t the majority.

I also saw at satistic that 97% of all alimony payments are made by men. This is even though these days 50% of the workforce is women and there are now more college graduates that are women than men. Alimony is supposed to be gender neutral, yet courts are massively biased against men when it comes to alimony payments.

You okay?

Alimony isn’t awarded to “women today”- it’s awarded to women who married like 25 years ago. Long term marriages began a long time ago, and stuff. Women who didn’t have career options or education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move to a different country and give up your citizenship. Send checks only to coveje kids.

US divorce courts are GROSSLY unfair to men. Period.

The faster you get out the better. Singapore speaks English everywhere. You are literally a modern day slave who'll keep laying alimony for for. It's slavery.

The data on courts being unfair to men would disagree with your assertion. In general, men tend to come out of divorces okay financially, but it often tips women and children into poverty.

This.
I also saw a statistic that men who ask for custody get it 93% of the time.

I’m sure there are cases that are unfair toward men out there, but they certainly aren’t the majority.

I also saw at satistic that 97% of all alimony payments are made by men. This is even though these days 50% of the workforce is women and there are now more college graduates that are women than men. Alimony is supposed to be gender neutral, yet courts are massively biased against men when it comes to alimony payments.

I truly think when a man or woman’s infidelity/cheating is the cause of the marriage breaking, they should not get any alimony. Putting a roof over someone’s head and food on the table while they go bang someone behind your back…and now you want them to pay the cheater that sat on their @ss? No way, no how.