What do you make of it when adults refer to their mom or dad as just “Mom” or “Dad”

[Anonymous]

It is definitely a southern thing. My dad and his siblings (all well into their 70s and 80s) still refer to their parents as "Daddy" and "Mother" when telling stories about them.

[Anonymous]

I notice and get annoyed by this too. One of my coworkers does this frequently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband (MY husband) says I do this when talking to him about my parents and it bothers him. I don't realize I do it, don't mean imply my mom is THEE Mom or HIS mom. What a heavy conversational burden for him to bear.

Outside the (supposed) comfort of my marriage I thought I had more effective use of possessives but now I'm spiraling.

Do you call his mom your mom also? Otherwise it's like your mom is THE mom, the only mom. It's just your mom, not his mom. I only do this with my siblings because she is our mom, not with my husband though. He has his own mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the most petty posts I’ve seen on the family relationship forum in a long time, and that’s saying a lot.

I actually feel like this has been posted before

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I think it sounds self-centered and juvenile. Like they are not aware that THEIR mom isn’t “Mom” to everyone they are talking to. My children probably referred to me as “Mom” when talking to other people when she was 2 because to her it was my whole identity. But by the time she was 3 she was aware that most people also have someone they call “Mom,” so she switched to “my mom” when referring to me. I think adults who have never made that switch have some peculiar perspective-taking flaw going on.

You are waaay overthinking this

[Anonymous]

It bugs me! Glad I'm not the only one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband (MY husband) says I do this when talking to him about my parents and it bothers him. I don't realize I do it, don't mean imply my mom is THEE Mom or HIS mom. What a heavy conversational burden for him to bear.

Outside the (supposed) comfort of my marriage I thought I had more effective use of possessives but now I'm spiraling.

Do you call his mom your mom also? Otherwise it's like your mom is THE mom, the only mom. It's just your mom, not his mom. I only do this with my siblings because she is our mom, not with my husband though. He has his own mom.

My mother called my father’s parents “Mom” and “Dad,” when speaking to them (“Dad, would you like more coffee?”), so I didn’t grow up feeling like those terms are territorial. I’m surprised that someone referring to “Mom” when speaking about their own mother (whom they literally call “Mom”!) makes anyone else feel like the speaker is claiming their mother is THE MOM and outranks other mothers. This is a weird concept for me. We all have moms and very few of us call them by their given names. It’s really not confusing if a friend complains that “Mom” bought little Larla way too many presents.

[Anonymous]

"My mom" is travelling to the Bahamas.(neutral), "my mom" took the kids out to lunch( happy), "mom" is arguing with "dad" again (pissed at them and annoyed by their 50 plus year drama)

[Anonymous]

If you're speaking about your parents, you would say, "Dad came for over yesterday." I don't get Op's post. Why would I need to say "my" Dad. Of course it's my Dad. Why would I be talking about someone else's Dad? and use the word "Dad."

[Anonymous]

That doesn't bother me. Daddy bothers me.

[Anonymous]

-except w/out the "for" typo

[Anonymous]

MIL is NOT "Mom." I love her. But not in our family, we only have one Mom and one Dad each.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're speaking about your parents, you would say, "Dad came for over yesterday." I don't get Op's post. Why would I need to say "my" Dad. Of course it's my Dad. Why would I be talking about someone else's Dad? and use the word "Dad."

But why would you say that to someone who is not the child of your dad? They have their own dad. Why would you not say “my dad” rather than “Dad” as though it’s his actual name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL is NOT "Mom." I love her. But not in our family, we only have one Mom and one Dad each.

It’s very old fashioned and traditional to call ones in laws Mom and Dad. It’s more of a grandparent’s generation thing.

[Anonymous]

Is saying 'I'm at work' or 'I'm going home' also narcisstic, juvenile, stunted and self-centered? Or is it understood that people are talking about their workplace and their home?
Who else, other than their own mother, would they call 'Mom', FFS.

This thread is truly baffling.