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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband (MY husband) says I do this when talking to him about my parents and it bothers him. I don't realize I do it, don't mean imply my mom is THEE Mom or HIS mom. What a heavy conversational burden for him to bear.

Outside the (supposed) comfort of my marriage I thought I had more effective use of possessives but now I'm spiraling.[/quote]

Do you call his mom your mom also? Otherwise it's like your mom is THE mom, the only mom. It's just your mom, not his mom. I only do this with my siblings because she is our mom, not with my husband though. He has his own mom.[/quote]
My mother called my father’s parents “Mom” and “Dad,” when speaking to them (“Dad, would you like more coffee?”), so I didn’t grow up feeling like those terms are territorial. I’m surprised that someone referring to “Mom” when speaking about their own mother (whom they literally call “Mom”!) makes anyone else feel like the speaker is claiming their mother is THE MOM and outranks other mothers. This is a weird concept for me. We all have moms and very few of us call them by their given names. It’s really not confusing if a friend complains that “Mom” bought little Larla way too many presents.[/quote]

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